Hey everyone,
I am simply exhausted. I am over a large group of teachers and students, just to give you some quick background information. I have a student who his 15 years old with an extensive psychiatric history. He has been hospitalized multiple times, he abuses substances, and he has a poor support system in the home. He and his mom has no bond or attachment. My team of teachers and I deal with international students. So during the holidays we make sure that the students who are impoverished, who are living without parents, feel special as well during the holidays. The following arrangements were made for the student. 1) he sits directly next to me during class 2) the team gave him presents for his birthday and Christmas (because parents gave to the others without giving to him) 3) he has been offered tutoring to help him academically (but refuses to come), 4) since he has the strongest relationship with me, I have asked him several times to stay after school for 15 minutes to discuss somethings that are going on with him. In an attempt to support him academically and to give him tools to handle his anxiety attacks. He was having constant anxiety attacks with sweating episodes in class however, he refuses to come afterschool to receive help. He refuses to talk to the counselor or social worker at school, and we tried to get his mother to come in to sign him up for special educational services but she refuses. Anyways, prior to education my background was in psychology working with adolescents so that is why I as well as my team attempted to help him.There are 2 issues. 1) My classroom is packed with high school students. I can tell that the students are frustrated when " Jonathan" gets all of the " attention" or when he acts out which once again takes the " attention" away from the other students. 2) I am frustrated because I don't know what else to do with a kid who my team and I have tried to help extensively.
On Friday when I asked the student to sit down 2x. He started screaming, " you treat me like a dog" why do you keep telling me to sit down! Then I asked him to stay for a couple minutes. He screamed " No, I want to go to my next class!" three times and then he left. Now, I have never been spoke to by " Jonathan" like this in the 2 years that I have known him. Although he has drug and emotional issues, he is a very sweet and kind to his teachers. He will always greet us, give a high five, or a quick side hug when he enters and when he exits the classes (always). He does this daily. After the outburst, I had another teacher take over my class and I walked to the gym and immediately pulled him out to talk to him. From a Christian perspective , when I looked in his eyes I discerned something that was heavily demonic and angry that I have never seen in this child ever before. He was so angry that he could hardly speak. but he did express that " He knows that I care, that I do not treat him like a dog, but that he is frustrated with his grades". 1) My team states that I should discipline him, seat him differently and I should no longer help him. 2)Others state that I should continue to work with him because he does have issues and that the incident should be over looked. 3) God says that we are to love people, however, what if that person does not want to accept help. The manner in which his spoke to me, and the words that he utilized hurt me to my core because I care deeply about my students and would ne.
Please advice from a Christian perspective what should be done. I want to firm, but I don't want the student to fill like I am giving up on him either.
I am simply exhausted. I am over a large group of teachers and students, just to give you some quick background information. I have a student who his 15 years old with an extensive psychiatric history. He has been hospitalized multiple times, he abuses substances, and he has a poor support system in the home. He and his mom has no bond or attachment. My team of teachers and I deal with international students. So during the holidays we make sure that the students who are impoverished, who are living without parents, feel special as well during the holidays. The following arrangements were made for the student. 1) he sits directly next to me during class 2) the team gave him presents for his birthday and Christmas (because parents gave to the others without giving to him) 3) he has been offered tutoring to help him academically (but refuses to come), 4) since he has the strongest relationship with me, I have asked him several times to stay after school for 15 minutes to discuss somethings that are going on with him. In an attempt to support him academically and to give him tools to handle his anxiety attacks. He was having constant anxiety attacks with sweating episodes in class however, he refuses to come afterschool to receive help. He refuses to talk to the counselor or social worker at school, and we tried to get his mother to come in to sign him up for special educational services but she refuses. Anyways, prior to education my background was in psychology working with adolescents so that is why I as well as my team attempted to help him.There are 2 issues. 1) My classroom is packed with high school students. I can tell that the students are frustrated when " Jonathan" gets all of the " attention" or when he acts out which once again takes the " attention" away from the other students. 2) I am frustrated because I don't know what else to do with a kid who my team and I have tried to help extensively.
On Friday when I asked the student to sit down 2x. He started screaming, " you treat me like a dog" why do you keep telling me to sit down! Then I asked him to stay for a couple minutes. He screamed " No, I want to go to my next class!" three times and then he left. Now, I have never been spoke to by " Jonathan" like this in the 2 years that I have known him. Although he has drug and emotional issues, he is a very sweet and kind to his teachers. He will always greet us, give a high five, or a quick side hug when he enters and when he exits the classes (always). He does this daily. After the outburst, I had another teacher take over my class and I walked to the gym and immediately pulled him out to talk to him. From a Christian perspective , when I looked in his eyes I discerned something that was heavily demonic and angry that I have never seen in this child ever before. He was so angry that he could hardly speak. but he did express that " He knows that I care, that I do not treat him like a dog, but that he is frustrated with his grades". 1) My team states that I should discipline him, seat him differently and I should no longer help him. 2)Others state that I should continue to work with him because he does have issues and that the incident should be over looked. 3) God says that we are to love people, however, what if that person does not want to accept help. The manner in which his spoke to me, and the words that he utilized hurt me to my core because I care deeply about my students and would ne.
Please advice from a Christian perspective what should be done. I want to firm, but I don't want the student to fill like I am giving up on him either.