help for advice, is it sin to fellowship with nonbelievers?

No. If anything, it's a chance to bring people to Christ through our charity and actions.

this is not my name said:

is it sin to fellowship with nonbelievers?

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God wants us to be accessible to unbelievers. He just doesn't want us to join them in their sin.

this is not my name said:

I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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It's unclear as to what you're describing. Can you please explain why you might be forfeiting your soul. What sin do you think it is?

this is not my name said:

I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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The Apostle Paul describes a group of unrepentant/unsaved sinners here .. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, and then a subset of that group in the following verse. The smaller group, in 1 Corinthians 6:11, (that I'll just call the, "Such Were Some of You" group), would have never formed if the Christians back then chose to keep themselves and the Gospel, well, to themselves

I get the problem though, because you are a committed Christian (and they know that you are, yes?), you don't want your very appearance to be seen/understood as giving tacit approval to their sinful lifestyles, right?

The thing is, this isn't an official, public event, like a same-sex wedding is. Rather, you're just going to visit your family member and his friends (and if we Christians don't choose to associate with non-Christians on these kind of occasions, how will we ever be the witnesses to them that the Lord has called us to be?).

So, I think I would go if I were you, for reasons like those mentioned above by @MariaJLM and @Sabertooth. You are the light of the world .. Matthew 5:14-16 (though it is your conscience that you must, in the end, be concerned with before the Lord).

If you go, the question becomes how to act AND speak the truth in love as a Christian, so that both the truth and love of Christ is brought to bear in their midst. Prayer is a must, yes!

Praying for you!

--David



edit: I'm sorry brother, I posted before I saw what you just said in your last post. Based on that new information, I agree with the advice that @devin553344 just gave you in his last post below.

this is not my name said:

well, mainly that I have not been walking super close to God lately, and feels like it might be, in these end times, a bad idea. I mean, fellowship, like, those who eat and drink with gluttons and drunkards being counted among the hypocrites. talks in Luke about that I think. those who sanctify themselves with those who enter the gardens or something like that in Isaiah.

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Jesus spent much time with the sinners teaching them. If they're not going to try and convince you to sin then it's OK. But it all depends on how strong you are and how impressionable you are. Do you feel like you will be dragged down into sin? If so then I would say stay away. But if you are safe and strong then you can surely visit sinners as Jesus did.

I visit with sinners from time to time, but I put up boundaries that I enforce with them. It's a little annoying, but I find I have to maintain boundaries with some of the people I help. Healthy boundaries allow us to maintain ourselves as Christians among sinners.

It is also helpful to visit sinners with other good Christians along side you. If that is possible for you.

I'll pray for you too I think. God Bless

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I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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Mixing with unbelievers doesn't mean that you do what they do. You can witness very effectively for Christ in the decency and goodness of your life - that you can be totally content and happy without doing what they do. This has to have a dynamic and power effect on them, whether they show it or not. They will wonder what it is about you that makes you so different to them. In all my interactions with unbelievers, they have always shown respect for the genuineness of my faith.

Actually the worst criticisms that I have received have been from the religious people I have interacted with.

this is not my name said:

I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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Fellowship is with believers. All other circumstances is just hanging out.

this is not my name said:

I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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So first, lets just put away the idea that you will forfeit your soul or something. Hanging around very bad influences, is not good. But it's not like by walking through the door, your soul is sucked out.

I could go to a topless bar, and I won't lose my soul. I might lose my influence with the pagans, for sure. I might even have some bad thoughts. I may even end up bringing shame to the name of Christ by being there. And of course if I was married, my wife would have a really big problem with me watching some other girls melons.

But I'm not going to lose my soul. I may end up having all sorts of problems. But no, you are not doomed to hell for it.

It still might be wise to not stay the night. I just don't know what all this family member of yours is into.

That said... I don't know that I like the idea of showing up with some Christian movies, and start preaching at him. And maybe I'm wrong, and no doubt some Christians on here would think that's a great idea.... but I just don't find that to be very polite.

Someone invites you over, and you use that as an opportunity to point out what they are doing wrong... that just doesn't sit will with me.

I have some Muslim friends. I've had them over a few times. Never once have they showed up with an islamic movie, and tried to teach me the Quran, and tell me what I'm doing wrong in life. And if they did, then I wouldn't invite them over again.

Now if you want to invite them to a church function, or if they ask you why you live your life differently, then by all means. But unless they agree to watch a christian movie, knowing what it is, not sure I'd do that.

It's kind of like, if you graduated, and invited people over to celebrate, and someone used that party to tell you how you were doing everything wrong in your life.

So I'm all for witnessing when you have the opportunity. Not sure if this is the opportunity you should take.

this is not my name said:

I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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Define "getting together". I assume that you are saying that you are just spending time with that person. However, I cant assume much these days. LOL. In short, it isn't a sin to interact with non-believers. Jesus did it all the time and was criticized for it. But you do need to be wise about who you associate yourself with. You need to make sure that you are reflecting the light of Christ that will lead unbelievers to repentance and not become led astray by them. We are to be in the world, just not of the world.

2 Corinthians 5:11-24 has much to say about this subject. Remember that as a "new creation" you are an "Ambassador to Christ". You may live in this fallen would inhabited with fallen people, but we are living as ambassadors to Christ's kingdom with a mission. How else will the Holy Spirit be able to use you to bring the lost to repentance? After all, Paul also said:

"How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? And how can anyone preach unless they are sent? As it is written: “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!” (Romans 10:14-15)

Therefore, go forth and share the Gospel of Jesus Christ to non-believers. Interact with them, have a relationship with them, and draw them closer to Christ. Just do not allow them to draw you away from Christ.

this is not my name said:

not a sermon. I thought about watching the movie Lucifer with him, he was watching that series, and then talking to him about it, because at least that theology is an open door to talk about biblical doctrine and truths. don't know if that would help him though.

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Well I try not to worry about 'what would help him". You let G-d worry about what would help him. You are not G-d. You don't know what is in someone's heart.

Now obviously if he's never had a drink in his life, playing a movie about alcoholism may not be all that useful.

But beyond that, you can't save him. There is nothing you can do, to save anyone. That's not your job. That's the job of the Lord. He's the Lord, not you.

So if he likes to watch that movie, then don't worry about what will help him... just play the movie, talk about it, and otherwise, just try to hang out with a family member.

Leave the rest in G-d's hands. You don't need to be anymore concerned about it.

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I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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Don't do it if you are going to be influenced by him, as in 2nd John 10-11 and 1st Corinthians 15:33. But do it if you can influence him.

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well, mainly that I have not been walking super close to God lately, and feels like it might be, in these end times, a bad idea. I mean, fellowship, like, those who eat and drink with gluttons and drunkards being counted among the hypocrites. talks in Luke about that I think. those who sanctify themselves with those who enter the gardens or something like that in Isaiah.

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You're right to be skeptical. "Iron sharpens Iron" you might pick up a few bad behaviors through associating with unbelievers if you aren't properly prepared for it or if you aren't growing significantly in your Christian life. Things like foul language, dirty jokes, indecent dressing and such things can easily be picked up if care isn't taken. To be realistic, we can't avoid interacting with unbelievers but depending on your level of spiritual maturity, I would advice you to avoid being alone for long periods with them. You should be polite and courteous but if you are still shaky with your Christian faith, avoid spending long periods with unbelievers, spend your time in the presence of believers instead and read your Bible as often as you can until you are very certain of your standing as a mature Christian, then you can spend longer time with them, but they may not want your company because they know you're different and they might not like being preached to which you might do by the leading of the Holy Spirit.

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this is not my name said:

I mean, there is family of mine, and he has roommates, is dating a bisexual, is kicking the goads to say. and he and I planned getting together, but I got a wrong feeling about it, kind of a, oh no! you will forfeit your soul if you go! and I was planning on spending the night, but was thinking about bringing a Christian movie over to watch, wondering if it is sin to go. decided not to spend the night for sure.

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I would say no it's not. We're supposed to accept everybody and show love to all. Just don't do the things they do if you know it's sinful.