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Maybe this is just ranting/venting, but I need to share somewhere.
These past few months, hubby and I have been more focused on keeping our credit card bills low (not perfect, but better than where we were a year or two ago) and saving money. Our goal is to either move out of state to a cheaper area either this summer or next summer - and start having children. I feel a changing in my spirit - hubby says he's ready for children too. Great!
This past year I've taken on coaching roles and additional stipend jobs at my school to add an additional 6k+ to my salary. I've been putting all of it into savings - we are currently at the $10k mark, which I know is a good start but no where near where we should be to move, have children, and have an emergency fund. But still... better than where we were 2 years ago.
My husband recently won $300 and I thought he was going to put it into our savings. Instead he is getting another tattoo with that money and is refusing to back down from getting one. I have no issue with another tattoo, but I'm disappointed that when some extra cash comes in, it is not going to our goal of being more financially stable. He says he will be putting in his PTO cash out and his work bonus into savings this year, but it's still frustrating me that not every source of found money is going into savings. I've completely cut back on silly purchases and have taken on more work to help fund our savings that I just don't feel like he's pulling his weight to help get us there too.
I'll be upfront and share that two years ago he got his an inheritance of $30k. We paid off our credit card debt, my college loans, etc with it and saved $6k. I will not be getting any inheritance from any family members and I kept my mouth shut about how we spent that money he got as I did not feel like it was my place to suggest what we do.
He knows that this is upsetting me and he said he's sorry for disappointing me but he's going through with the tattoo very soon. I've been in a sad mood and he's aware of that, but I don't think he's understanding how much this is upsetting to me. Since I already shared with him about it, I'm not bringing it back up and I'm keeping this in prayer since I know I will need to get over it.
These past few months, hubby and I have been more focused on keeping our credit card bills low (not perfect, but better than where we were a year or two ago) and saving money. Our goal is to either move out of state to a cheaper area either this summer or next summer - and start having children. I feel a changing in my spirit - hubby says he's ready for children too. Great!
This past year I've taken on coaching roles and additional stipend jobs at my school to add an additional 6k+ to my salary. I've been putting all of it into savings - we are currently at the $10k mark, which I know is a good start but no where near where we should be to move, have children, and have an emergency fund. But still... better than where we were 2 years ago.
My husband recently won $300 and I thought he was going to put it into our savings. Instead he is getting another tattoo with that money and is refusing to back down from getting one. I have no issue with another tattoo, but I'm disappointed that when some extra cash comes in, it is not going to our goal of being more financially stable. He says he will be putting in his PTO cash out and his work bonus into savings this year, but it's still frustrating me that not every source of found money is going into savings. I've completely cut back on silly purchases and have taken on more work to help fund our savings that I just don't feel like he's pulling his weight to help get us there too.
I'll be upfront and share that two years ago he got his an inheritance of $30k. We paid off our credit card debt, my college loans, etc with it and saved $6k. I will not be getting any inheritance from any family members and I kept my mouth shut about how we spent that money he got as I did not feel like it was my place to suggest what we do.
He knows that this is upsetting me and he said he's sorry for disappointing me but he's going through with the tattoo very soon. I've been in a sad mood and he's aware of that, but I don't think he's understanding how much this is upsetting to me. Since I already shared with him about it, I'm not bringing it back up and I'm keeping this in prayer since I know I will need to get over it.