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The good thing is that you have a job, so had Paul, much bettttter than depending on, strong enough to face any threat.Yes, I do have a job, full time, outside of the home. We both work.
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The good thing is that you have a job, so had Paul, much bettttter than depending on, strong enough to face any threat.Yes, I do have a job, full time, outside of the home. We both work.
Lets continue in 1 Corinthians 11:How did you arrive at this conclusion?
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. (1 Cor 11:3).
If we rearrange this for a clearer understanding:
1. the head of Christ is God.
2. the head of every man is Christ
3. the head of the woman is the man
As we can see, God is at the top, and authority flows downwards.
Does The Father "strong arm" Jesus into obedience? No.How did you arrive at this conclusion?
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. (1 Cor 11:3).
If we rearrange this for a clearer understanding:
1. the head of Christ is God.
2. the head of every man is Christ
3. the head of the woman is the man
As we can see, God is at the top, and authority flows downwards.
Yes. Exactly.Dave, it seems to me you are saying that submission is never done from an outside source; rather, it is the person's own decision to place another's needs above their own?
What you had said is Biblical authority is never "over." It always comes from the bottom up.Does The Father "strong arm" Jesus into obedience? No.
Does Jesus "strong arm" men into obedience? Again, no.
Should a husband "strong arm" his wife into subjection? For a third time, NO.
Voluntary submission is always from the bottom up, not the top down.
Of course both are correct. Biblically, without submission there is no authority.Both cannot be correct. And I agree with your last statement.
Hi Lucky, I completely understand and am sorry you are facing this difficulty within your own familyJust to clarify, my husband is demanding I go to this one ceremony wherein our daughter is taking her first communion. I would be lying if I said part of my decision not to go, is because I am very uncomfortable going to his church and feel very creeped out just being there. But this decision is based on the fact that I do not hold the same belief as he/his church does, on what the communion means, so this whole communion "ceremony" is not something I agree with and feel if I go, it would be going against what I believe. I also feel if I don't draw the line at some point and hold my ground with my convictions and what I'm willing/not willing to participate in, in relation to his church, he'll continue to push every time there's a special ceremony for any reason. Now that two of our children are involved in his church, I'm quite sure more of these events will come up.
He decided a year ago, November, that our kids would all attend his church only for a year to learn about Catholicism. And then they'd have a choice on where they wanted to go. I did not agree to that, but had no choice, because he "put his foot down as leader of the house", so I basically had no say in the matter. Our oldest (16) pushed back the most and after a year, my husband finally let him stop going to his church. But our two youngest (14 and 10) decided they wanted to continue going. I told my husband then, that this was a choice he was making, they were making, and not to expect me to be going with them or be involved in that choice, because there's a reason I'm not a Catholic. I almost feel like my husband is using our kids to try to convert me. On one hand, he'll tell me he knows not to push to convert someone, etc etc. Then on the other, he'll do these manipulative things, and say things, that contradict that, and to try and get me to go to his church.
When this all started, he didn't discuss anything with me about becoming a Catholic. We talked a lot before we got married, and although he was raised Catholic when he was younger, his whole family stopped practicing when he was about 10, so he never really "lived" the Catholic faith, because he never really practiced it. It wasn't until he was 40 years old, that his parents found an SSPX church, when he finally decided on his own, that that was what he wanted to be now. We didn't discuss it. He didn't even approach me about it at all, he just made that decision all on his own. And I'm fine with that, but I did tell him, there's a difference in our beliefs and I was not, and am not, on board with his beliefs.
I've known a number of coverts to Rome who went that way to get away from the somewhat varied beliefs (or emphases) that certain Protestant denominations have at times. So when you say that Mary might not be sinless, and/or that she died and was buried like almost everyone else in history has been (save Enoch and Elijah), you make these coverts face one of the very things they left the Protestant faith to try to avoid (BTW, I'm just offering a possible explanation here, not excusing your husband's poor behavior in the least).If my beliefs ever come up, he seems to take personal offense. One time it was about Mary and how I don't believe she was sinless, or that she ascended into Heaven, and you would have thought I just peed on his own mother. He seems incapable of having different beliefs, and agreeing to disagree. He can't ever discuss anything, unless I'm in full agreement with him, or he gets angry, to the point of literally having a dramatic argument. My beliefs I have had my entire life. I was raised non-denom and we practiced our faith continually. My family even had a singing group, when I was younger, and we would travel to different churches and sing. The only time I've not really practiced was in my early 20's, but I got back into it before I met him and have been practicing ever since. We practiced our faith together, until he decided to become Catholic. And now it feels like it's his way or continual bullying until I submit.
The Bible can be a dangerous book in certain cases I used to meet once a week for breakfast with a close friend of mine who is a RC convert (he was a barely practicing Methodist prior to converting to his wife's RC faith) for prayer, and to support/be accountable to each other as husbands, fathers and Christians. Our deal was that we would never try to covert each other, and we never did.At this point, the more I research, study the Bible, and learn about the Catholic faith/beliefs and what the Bible actually says, the more "Protestant" I become to it.
Sadly, it's not just Catholics who misinterpret parts of the Bible, especially when they think a bad exegesis might end up being beneficial to them in some way Again though, I don't mean this as any kind of justification for what your husband is doing to you (or to the Bible).But like I said, I don't let on how I truly feel. I can't unless I want a fight, which I never do. And then crap like this happens, and he misinterprets scripture to fit his needs, and then metaphorically speaking, bangs me over the head with the Bible, and here we are. And I don't even think he ever reads the Bible, because the only book I see him reading is his Catholic Missile. So I don't even think he KNOWS the Bible.
No worries, you have a lot of frustrating stuff on your plate right now, so vent awaySorry, I'm just venting now....but that's where I'm at.
I would keep in close contact with your pastor for his counsel, support and prayer through all of this. And quite frankly, sometimes it's really nice to have someone to vent to face to face, especially someone you know who both cares for you and is interested your best. And you can see him or talk to him privately (IOW, w/o your husband), which it sounds like you're going to need to do anyway.I honestly don't know what my pastor is going to say that's going to help this, when my husband won't see anyone unless they are a Priest and there are no Priests available for counseling right now, at his Perish. And he most certainly won't listen to MY pastor, because.......we're "heretic".
How can that be biblical? God and Christ would still have total and complete authority, even if every creature was a rebel. Indeed, "the whole world lieth in wickedness", but God remains supremely sovereign on His throne.Of course both are correct. Biblically, without submission there is no authority.
Meanwhile, despite how I have kept my mouth shut about the things I disagree with, or I do not like, about his faith, he does not show me the same respect. He is constantly making comments, snide remarks, often attacks me for stances I take, based on my faith, calls me a heretic, and without actually saying it outright, has told me I'm not saved unless I'm a Catholic.
And now my daughter is going for her first communion and he wants me to attend the ceremony/church service. I refuse. I went to her baptism and I have gone to his church for several other ceremonies for him, but I just can't go back there. His church really makes me uncomfortable and I am very against going again. As well, I have a different belief the whole communion meaning, and I don't agree with the Catholic take on it, therefore I do not want to be a part of something I don't really agree with. I agree in Communion, but as it relates to remembrance of what Christ has done, not as a transubstantiation issue.
And my husband doesn't get that. He demanded I go to his church, and I refused, so now he's telling me what a terrible person, wife, Christian I am, because I won't obey him. And that I'm ignoring the Bible and what it says to do, and that he has authority to tell me what to do. I wholeheartedly disagree this is what Eph 5 means., in relation to what he's asking for. Am I wrong? Or is he?
How can that be biblical? God and Christ would still have total and complete authority, even if every creature was a rebel. Indeed, "the whole world lieth in wickedness", but God remains supremely sovereign on His throne.
I am curious about what others think about what the husbands Biblical "authority" over his wife is?
Based on whatever faith you are, I am curious how Ephesians 5:21-33 is interpreted to mean, to you.
The reason I ask this, is because I believe (and feel) that my husband is misinterpreting the scriptures and is possibly abusing this "authority". See, I am a non-denominational Christian and he is a Catholic. I do all that I can to respect his faith. I tend to avoid any arguments or really any discussions regarding the differences in our beliefs, because it always ends up in an argument that he won't let go. When we met we were both ND, but then he chose to go the Catholic route about 6 years ago and now has 2 of our kids going that route too. That's the decision they made, and I'm ok with that, but I don't agree with it. I just choose to be respectful and leave them to their dads instruction. Although I will still do a bible study/daily devotion with them on my end.
Meanwhile, despite how I have kept my mouth shut about the things I disagree with, or I do not like, about his faith, he does not show me the same respect. He is constantly making comments, snide remarks, often attacks me for stances I take, based on my faith, calls me a heretic, and without actually saying it outright, has told me I'm not saved unless I'm a Catholic.
And now my daughter is going for her first communion and he wants me to attend the ceremony/church service. I refuse. I went to her baptism and I have gone to his church for several other ceremonies for him, but I just can't go back there. His church really makes me uncomfortable and I am very against going again. As well, I have a different belief the whole communion meaning, and I don't agree with the Catholic take on it, therefore I do not want to be a part of something I don't really agree with. I agree in Communion, but as it relates to remembrance of what Christ has done, not as a transubstantiation issue.
And my husband doesn't get that. He demanded I go to his church, and I refused, so now he's telling me what a terrible person, wife, Christian I am, because I won't obey him. And that I'm ignoring the Bible and what it says to do, and that he has authority to tell me what to do. I wholeheartedly disagree this is what Eph 5 means., in relation to what he's asking for. Am I wrong? Or is he?
Lets continue in 1 Corinthians 11:
4) Every man one-keeps-on(customary)-praying(motivated to do so), or one-keeps-on(customary)-(standing)in-front-telling(prophesying) (praying or prophesying refers to public speaking) down head(ashamedly), one-keeps-on-holding(i.e. holding his head down) he-down-shames(disgraces) thee head of-him-same(in verse 3, the man's head is thee Anointed-One(christos).
5) Yet, every woman one-keeps-on(customary)-praying(motivated to do so), or one-keeps-on(customary)-(standing)in-front-telling(prophesying) (praying or prophesying refers to public speaking) un-down-covered(not properly veiled, hiding) to-thee (her own)head she-down-shames(disgraces) thee head of-her-same(in verse 3, the woman's head is thee husband(christos); for one it-keeps-on-being and-also thee same to-thee, one(she)-has-been-shaving(motivated to do so).
Without going into a lengthy discussion about Paul's choice of words, word play and his sense of humor here, Paul is telling us that men should public speak boldly and women should speak with a mouth filter.
By not understanding these things, we are taught that men shouldn't wear long hair and women should wear hats in church--ridiculous!
Mansplain? Had to look that one up. Thanks for expanding my vocabulary today!At this point, I have to think you’re yanking people’s chains here. Not only did you mansplain the Bible, but you mansplained it incorrectly, and it seems like you manage to interpret every passage to mean that women serve you, your home, and provide you sex whenever, while women are to be something of a cross between a houseplant and a prostitute.
At this point, I have to think you’re yanking people’s chains here. Not only did you mansplain the Bible, but you mansplained it incorrectly, and it seems like you manage to interpret every passage to mean that women serve you, your home, and provide you sex whenever, while women are to be something of a cross between a houseplant and a prostitute.