God hates single people

FoundInGrace · Dec 20, 2017

He must do or He would take us out of the hell of it.

Sorry God but that's how it feels today.

S.O.J.I.A. · Dec 20, 2017

False

Petros2015 · Dec 20, 2017

FoundInGrace said:
He must do or He would take us out of the hell of it.

Heh. He must hate people in lots of relationships too or he would get them out of it.

FoundInGrace · Dec 20, 2017

Just had tough day being around a whole bunch of married with children people and feeling really left out and useless a failure as a person because had nothing to add to conversation centred around spouses/partners and their children. It sucked.

Apologetic_Warrior · Jan 3, 2018

FoundInGrace said:
He must do or He would take us out of the hell of it.

Sorry God but that's how it feels today.

I remember those feelings, I was single for 33 years. Nowadays it sometimes applies to marriage, all too often, sometimes I feel like my son is the only one holding things together, well God and our son.

Ruien · Feb 25, 2019

FoundInGrace said:
Just had tough day being around a whole bunch of married with children people and feeling really left out and useless a failure as a person because had nothing to add to conversation centred around spouses/partners and their children. It sucked.

Many times I have felt envious of single people for the freedom they have. They are masters of their own lives and their own houses. They live the way they want, spend money and save money the way the want, arrange their surroundings the way they want, do the things that they want. If I let myself dream of the mobility and flexibility and freedom I would have if only....

The responsibilities and obligations and restrictions and limitations and expectations of living married with children--it can be a lot of pressure. It can be horribly, oppressively burdensome if you think of it that way. If you let it get that way.

Too long; didn't read: The grass is always greener.

LatinCoffee · Feb 26, 2019

I don't think God hates us for being single. he's just protecting us from the wrong ones. Remember that He knows best for our lives. Not everything and everyone that we want is what we need. Though, As a single man myself--I know the struggle in being single is real.

IntriKate · Dec 2, 2019

I find God draws closer to me now im single, almost like I come home and its me my cat and God. Sad really when I re read that, but Im happy with that for now.

timewerx · Dec 2, 2019

I don't think God hates singles.

But I realize now that many people who are married and have kids hate singles. Not because they're jealous but because they think we don't deserve to have anything, especially material possessions because we have no kids, no family to take care of.

They especially hate it when singles are more wealthy than they are.

dzheremi · Dec 2, 2019

Thank God for the solitude in which we are given time to refine ourselves to become the type of people who attract God-fearing, upstanding lifelong mates, if it is God's will that we be married.

JacquelineDeane55 · Dec 21, 2019

Lol, everyone wants to be married, but I have this overwhelming desire to want to stay single...and I have been my whole entire life...lol...

HisGraceAbounds · Dec 26, 2019

I've been single for almost 15 years now and it's been great for the most part. Initially, I wasn't a fan of being single, but I eventually realized my unhappiness was self-inflicted because I was holding myself up to society's standard of what I should do with my life (relationship-marriage-kids-mortgage-etc) and deep down I didn't really want those things no matter how much society told me I needed them or I could not achieve 'happiness'.

shortangel · Apr 20, 2020

HisGraceAbounds said:
I've been single for almost 15 years now and it's been great for the most part. Initially, I wasn't a fan of being single, but I eventually realized my unhappiness was self-inflicted because I was holding myself up to society's standard of what I should do with my life (relationship-marriage-kids-mortgage-etc) and deep down I didn't really want those things no matter how much society told me I needed them or I could not achieve 'happiness'.

shortangel · Apr 20, 2020

I don't think that God hates singles I think some Christians are called to be single or God might be having them wait until they are ready to find somebody

Niels · Apr 27, 2020

If so, that's news to me. It sounds more like you hate being single, than any reflection of how God might feel about it.

Would I like to be married? Sure, but a lot depends on the specific woman I'd marry and the context of our lives together. For every single person who thinks singleness is hell, there's a married person who thinks marriage is hell. Choose wisely. Also, those who are unhappy in marriage are sometimes the same people who were unhappy while single. It might help to start working on your attitude now, so you're not as dependent on the other person for your own happiness.

shortangel · Apr 27, 2020

you do have a good point there

no I don't hate being single

bèlla · Apr 27, 2020

I don’t believe God hates singles. If you broach the topic rationally you’ll notice many parallels between the period of waiting and marriage.

Most notably:

Change doesn’t happen on your timetable.
You don’t get everything you want or your way all the time.
You’ll experience disappointments and periods of upset.
You’re not in control.
Compromise is a must.
Your attitude has a big impact on your mood.
Getting upset won’t change things.
You’ll have to be patient and understanding even in periods when you feel otherwise.
You’re responsible for your behavior.
You have to communicate without casting blame and pointing fingers.
Forgiveness is a must.
Carrying a grudge is burdensome.
Prayer keeps you grounded.
You’re going to make mistakes.
You can’t change the past. Only today.
The story isn’t finished.

Companionship won’t remove those realities from your plate. How will you handle it? Your partner may have similar struggles. The solution is simple.

Learn to embrace the unexpected. Become adaptable. There are periods of plenty and leanness and you need to weather both. Partnership may provide an ally for the journey if you choose wisely.

But it won’t be smooth sailing. You’re going to face a lot I didn’t list. Will you blame God or roll up your sleeves and work it out.

Relationships are a lot of work and more give-and-take than most admit. Considering the other’s needs outside your own and denying yourself when necessary isn’t easy if you’re accustomed to having your way or making a fuss.

Don’t believe you’ll morph into someone else. You’re bringing the present you to the table. Is that marriage material you’d be proud to share?

Service is a hallmark of healthy unions. Get out of your head and redirect your focus on something positive.

~Bella

JesseRaymondBassett · Apr 27, 2020

I second the previous post. I do not believe God hates single people. He is using this time of singleness for us to improve ourselves so the one we are supposed to be with will actually want to be with us!

shortangel · Apr 28, 2020

I agree with everything said here

JesseRaymondBassett · Apr 28, 2020

ShortAngel,
Let me welcome you to CF! I hope you enjoy your stay!

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