I know my view is a bit controversial but I've noticed many people are willing to split over issues like having kids. Or in most cases not even marry the person if they don't want kids. Do you think marriage equals having kids? Or do you believe something else?
I'll start with the obvious, the desire a woman has to have a child is crazy strong. So not having a kid is hard to accept. Which is why I find women to be so kid crazy that they ignore logic or reason on the issue. When I was looking for a good christian wife online I got no messages from anyone when my profile said "Wants kids: No". This went on for months. And the moment I switched it to "Wants kids: Maybe", suddenly I got a message every week from someone new. And one time (at another site) I said I wanted kids for sure. I got messages daily.
It wasn't shocking though I did feel women are selfish about the issue. They often say the man is the selfish one for not wanting kids. But I fail to see how. When you marry someone you do so because you want to spend your life with them, because you love them. So to say you may/may not love someone based on if they want kids goes to show the real motive behind wanting to get married. The man is simply a means to an end.
The selfishness can be seen in marriages where the husband doesn't want kids or doesn't want them yet. The woman will play games with the husband until he gives in out of guilt (she guilts him). Then when kids are born and the father isn't great at it, then the wife hates the husband despite the fact the wife forced the husband into having kids.
I don't bring all this up because of my marriage, we are doing good about not wanting kids at this point. But a few couples online at a group we are part of are fighting over the issue. One woman said if she would have known her husband didn't want kids, she would have never married him and currently refuses to have sex with him, to do chores, to help him at all until he changes his mind or divorces her.
What kind of women loves Jesus and yet acts like that to her husband? No where does the bible say marriage is about having kids. Kids if anything are a "add on" to marriage. Just like many other things are. They are optional. Now there are a few who obviously reference the whole "Go forth and multiply!" verse, but obviously they take the verse as literal and not a lesson for the people of that time, back when there were very few people on earth.
I often will attribute this attitude women have about kids as the same reason sin was brought into this world. Eve wanting her way and biting the apple and then coursing (can't think of the spelling) Adam into biting it too. Anyways, this thread has no real point other than to share my view on this.
Also I should note life isn't fair. So being told no kids is just part of life. Just as being told you have lost a kidney. Or you have lost a job. Or you have 10 days to live. Sadly more and more christians think life should go how they want instead of realizing its not about what we want, its about what He wants. Maybe He doesn't want some couples to have kids because He has bigger plans.
I'll start with the obvious, the desire a woman has to have a child is crazy strong. So not having a kid is hard to accept. Which is why I find women to be so kid crazy that they ignore logic or reason on the issue. When I was looking for a good christian wife online I got no messages from anyone when my profile said "Wants kids: No". This went on for months. And the moment I switched it to "Wants kids: Maybe", suddenly I got a message every week from someone new. And one time (at another site) I said I wanted kids for sure. I got messages daily.
It wasn't shocking though I did feel women are selfish about the issue. They often say the man is the selfish one for not wanting kids. But I fail to see how. When you marry someone you do so because you want to spend your life with them, because you love them. So to say you may/may not love someone based on if they want kids goes to show the real motive behind wanting to get married. The man is simply a means to an end.
The selfishness can be seen in marriages where the husband doesn't want kids or doesn't want them yet. The woman will play games with the husband until he gives in out of guilt (she guilts him). Then when kids are born and the father isn't great at it, then the wife hates the husband despite the fact the wife forced the husband into having kids.
I don't bring all this up because of my marriage, we are doing good about not wanting kids at this point. But a few couples online at a group we are part of are fighting over the issue. One woman said if she would have known her husband didn't want kids, she would have never married him and currently refuses to have sex with him, to do chores, to help him at all until he changes his mind or divorces her.
What kind of women loves Jesus and yet acts like that to her husband? No where does the bible say marriage is about having kids. Kids if anything are a "add on" to marriage. Just like many other things are. They are optional. Now there are a few who obviously reference the whole "Go forth and multiply!" verse, but obviously they take the verse as literal and not a lesson for the people of that time, back when there were very few people on earth.
I often will attribute this attitude women have about kids as the same reason sin was brought into this world. Eve wanting her way and biting the apple and then coursing (can't think of the spelling) Adam into biting it too. Anyways, this thread has no real point other than to share my view on this.
Also I should note life isn't fair. So being told no kids is just part of life. Just as being told you have lost a kidney. Or you have lost a job. Or you have 10 days to live. Sadly more and more christians think life should go how they want instead of realizing its not about what we want, its about what He wants. Maybe He doesn't want some couples to have kids because He has bigger plans.