I've been married for 6 years but have been together almost 9 years. Long story short he's in prison for embezzlement from the company he worked out. He could've taken his case to trial but to avoid myself getting charged he took the 100% fault and signed for a 20 year sentence. He is up for parole in March. We was taken into custody March 2016 to give you a timeline. When he was taken we had just opened up a restaurant 8 months prior. So I've been the one running it from top to bottom as well as a smaller 2nd location too. And dealing with both of our financials without a real income as the business doesn't profit yet and I have dug myself in a huge hole of debt.
I started talking to this man back in May and opened up about my situation. He would listen give me advice and vice versa with his relationship. We would text each other a lot and would see each other for short periods of time when he would take a break at work or on his lunch break. We would make out in the car and that's it.
My husband recently told me he's noticed changes in me and I'm not the same and I kept denying I was taking to anyone but last Wednesday I confessed i had and that we had been making out in his car but I didn't let it get passed that. He has told his sister and mother about what I've done as well and I have confided in my mother. He is so hurt and said I'm tainted and he can't believe i did that and that I don't love him etc. Understandable about his feelings...I have apologized over and and over and I know it's not worth much right. I told him I want to get back on track that I do love him so much. And that I just used this guy as an escape and I just strayed but they this man meant nothing to me. He said he needs to see that I changed and that I need to show him that I love him and that he can trust me again. Thouhj it's a bit difficult to show this while he's in prison. But I can send him cards and pictures and letters etc. He says he loves me and that I'm the love of his life but he can't get this out of his head. I know it's going to take work and we both want to get past this. I accept my fault and I'm not making any excuses because whether he is free or in prison we took vows and are married.
One of his conditions though was that I have to apologize to his mother and sister for what I've done. And to get closer to them because they have said and he has noticed that I've distanced myself.
Yes, maybe I have distanced myself but why do I need to apologize to them for cheating on my husband? I feel that this is between me and him and our relationship. He said if I don't work things out with his family then me and him will not work. Am I wrong for thinking this? I just don't think I need to apologize for something I didn't do to them.
I started talking to this man back in May and opened up about my situation. He would listen give me advice and vice versa with his relationship. We would text each other a lot and would see each other for short periods of time when he would take a break at work or on his lunch break. We would make out in the car and that's it.
My husband recently told me he's noticed changes in me and I'm not the same and I kept denying I was taking to anyone but last Wednesday I confessed i had and that we had been making out in his car but I didn't let it get passed that. He has told his sister and mother about what I've done as well and I have confided in my mother. He is so hurt and said I'm tainted and he can't believe i did that and that I don't love him etc. Understandable about his feelings...I have apologized over and and over and I know it's not worth much right. I told him I want to get back on track that I do love him so much. And that I just used this guy as an escape and I just strayed but they this man meant nothing to me. He said he needs to see that I changed and that I need to show him that I love him and that he can trust me again. Thouhj it's a bit difficult to show this while he's in prison. But I can send him cards and pictures and letters etc. He says he loves me and that I'm the love of his life but he can't get this out of his head. I know it's going to take work and we both want to get past this. I accept my fault and I'm not making any excuses because whether he is free or in prison we took vows and are married.
One of his conditions though was that I have to apologize to his mother and sister for what I've done. And to get closer to them because they have said and he has noticed that I've distanced myself.
Yes, maybe I have distanced myself but why do I need to apologize to them for cheating on my husband? I feel that this is between me and him and our relationship. He said if I don't work things out with his family then me and him will not work. Am I wrong for thinking this? I just don't think I need to apologize for something I didn't do to them.