I'm a 56 year old man and I've dated a wonderful Christian lady for eight months, now, and it's been, easily, the absolute deepest, most mature and loving relationship I've ever known. We've brought each other more joy and fulfillment than either of us has ever known. We agree on all of the big issues in life -- spiritual, moral, political... you name it! We've spent a tremendous amount of time together in the short span that we've known each other and have never, not once, had an arguement or cross words. It's been, truly, the answer to both of our prayers and we've both professed as much to each other.
A month ago she believes God spoke to her heart and told her to put Him first, not me. I, of course, know that He speaks to we believers and have no problem, whatsoever, in taking a back seat to God. She has decided that she should draw closer Him. I agree, we ALL should make such an effort! The catch is that she has interpreted His word to mean that we are not meant to be together, wonderful as our relationship has been. Both of us are absolutely broken-hearted about this and there have been many tears. For the last month our only limited interaction has been through texts as its too painful for either of us to even speak on the phone to each other.
We are both product of divorce. One of the only things we have disagreed about is the fact that she believes that God spoke to her and, even though there was no abuse or infidelity, told her she was free to divorce her first husband. While I know she's asked and been forgiven for this sin she is still of the belief that God gave her permission to divorce. While no biblical scholar, I do know that God hates divorce and, in her situation, would never have given her such a word. This, of course, makes me question her discernment regarding the word she says she's been given regarding our relationship. I cannot imagine a loving God not smiling on what we have found together. As a matter of fact, I'm strongly of the belief that He was central to us finding each other -- that He brought us together.
My plea here is to find words of wisdom. Like her, I want God's will to be done. Unlike her, I believe His will is that we grow together in His word and, as we had begun discussing before He spoke to her, grow old with each other.
I will, of course, accept any help anyone here might be able to provide -- for or against my wishes. Biblical grounding in responses is most appreciated. Thank you for any insight as well as taking the time to read through my ramblings here. Prayers are most appreciated, as well!
A month ago she believes God spoke to her heart and told her to put Him first, not me. I, of course, know that He speaks to we believers and have no problem, whatsoever, in taking a back seat to God. She has decided that she should draw closer Him. I agree, we ALL should make such an effort! The catch is that she has interpreted His word to mean that we are not meant to be together, wonderful as our relationship has been. Both of us are absolutely broken-hearted about this and there have been many tears. For the last month our only limited interaction has been through texts as its too painful for either of us to even speak on the phone to each other.
We are both product of divorce. One of the only things we have disagreed about is the fact that she believes that God spoke to her and, even though there was no abuse or infidelity, told her she was free to divorce her first husband. While I know she's asked and been forgiven for this sin she is still of the belief that God gave her permission to divorce. While no biblical scholar, I do know that God hates divorce and, in her situation, would never have given her such a word. This, of course, makes me question her discernment regarding the word she says she's been given regarding our relationship. I cannot imagine a loving God not smiling on what we have found together. As a matter of fact, I'm strongly of the belief that He was central to us finding each other -- that He brought us together.
My plea here is to find words of wisdom. Like her, I want God's will to be done. Unlike her, I believe His will is that we grow together in His word and, as we had begun discussing before He spoke to her, grow old with each other.
I will, of course, accept any help anyone here might be able to provide -- for or against my wishes. Biblical grounding in responses is most appreciated. Thank you for any insight as well as taking the time to read through my ramblings here. Prayers are most appreciated, as well!
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