Its hard for me to post this thread, as foolish pride often prevents me from seeking help. But as for the main point of this thread, I think the title about sums it up. 34, male. I do not feel like it has gone well. Not well at all. And its really all starting to add up and bring me down much further. I've done nothing but bounce from one crappy job to another, sometimes with long stints of unemployment in between. Years of unemployment sometimes. I am currently unemployed.
It just never made sense to me to keep some lousy, good for nothing job. My wife is a Nurse, and makes plenty of money, as we have no kids and really don't want any at this time. She wants me to get a job, and I suppose I will, but I dread the prospect and I know it will in the end, just be another one of the many lousy, good for nothing jobs I've had. You know the kind, they don't pay well at all. I understand that as someone with no college degree that I'm just not valuable enough to a company to pay well, but that doesn't change the situation for me.
And its not just that. I really thought that I'd have a college degree by this time, and that I'd at least have that life accomplishment under my belt. I wanted to be an electrical engineer. But I have A.D.D and I have never been good at school. It feels like torture sitting there hitting the books, and I've only managed to get the core classes out of the way at this point. the 8 math classes and physics classes where I'd actually have to study... I feel are beyond my abilities. So that is very depressing to me. I feel like I'm in some kind of trap, to which there is no way out no matter which way I turn. If I work, its a lousy job that I'll hate. If I go to school, it seems to me like the effort is monumental compared to other students. The whole ordeal is really getting me down these days. A lot more than it used to. Probably because I'm 34 and you'd think I'd have been able to resolve these things by now.
Why am I having to fight so hard? I can't tell if I'm lazy, depressed, or have some kind of mental illness. And its starting to be more than I can bear. I feel shamed, degraded, humiliated. And I really can't see any end to it.
It just never made sense to me to keep some lousy, good for nothing job. My wife is a Nurse, and makes plenty of money, as we have no kids and really don't want any at this time. She wants me to get a job, and I suppose I will, but I dread the prospect and I know it will in the end, just be another one of the many lousy, good for nothing jobs I've had. You know the kind, they don't pay well at all. I understand that as someone with no college degree that I'm just not valuable enough to a company to pay well, but that doesn't change the situation for me.
And its not just that. I really thought that I'd have a college degree by this time, and that I'd at least have that life accomplishment under my belt. I wanted to be an electrical engineer. But I have A.D.D and I have never been good at school. It feels like torture sitting there hitting the books, and I've only managed to get the core classes out of the way at this point. the 8 math classes and physics classes where I'd actually have to study... I feel are beyond my abilities. So that is very depressing to me. I feel like I'm in some kind of trap, to which there is no way out no matter which way I turn. If I work, its a lousy job that I'll hate. If I go to school, it seems to me like the effort is monumental compared to other students. The whole ordeal is really getting me down these days. A lot more than it used to. Probably because I'm 34 and you'd think I'd have been able to resolve these things by now.
Why am I having to fight so hard? I can't tell if I'm lazy, depressed, or have some kind of mental illness. And its starting to be more than I can bear. I feel shamed, degraded, humiliated. And I really can't see any end to it.