I look at it this way by remembering that old saying.....
"You don't know what you got until it's gone!"
Yes, we are told to honor our parents and obey them. Sometimes it's hard to discern what is going on where the heart of the matter is, and sometimes and we don't always want to listen. We establish a aperture that is independent for independent sake, but truly as a member of the flock of JESUS the son of GOD we are NOT independent, but striving to live more for others than just ourselves. A servants in the body we are to establish LOVE in our walk and following JESUS to set examples, and to be beacons in the darkness were the blind and lost can find there WAY to the TRUTH then unto LIFE eternal.
Praying to GOD thorough his son JESUS for discernment and being patient for answers and patient with others and ourselves is a necessity more than a desire for the spirit is at war with the flesh nature and we must strive to live by the spirit; which is....
Galatians 5:22-26
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
Versus the flesh nature; which is at constant odds.....
Galatians 5:13-26King James Version (KJV)
13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
I recently had a so called "scenario" where I thought I lost my parent that I feel I am close to, this is heart breaking and of course the reality of life on earth. Relief washed over me as it was verified that I didn't, but the "taste" still lingers. As I quoted the statement above i will repeat it again.....
"You don't know what you've got(missed) until it's gone!"
I advise you to take your parent out in a public place and offer LOVE first and foremost, console with your mother and ask her how it makes you feel and question her if there is any other reason she might feel pressured to counsel you. In public there is less chance of outbursts and more chance for the opportunity to have others assist you if necessary.
If you both are true believers and following JESUS the son of GOD.....
Matthew 18:20New International Version (NIV)
20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
It is always best to seek GODly counsel and whom better than the son of GOD most high when gathered in his name to find the root and "weed" out any issues.
Praise be to GOD the heavenly father and his son lord JESUS CHRIST forever>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>