And you still didn't answer my question. When we tell people not to walk down allies at night are we victim blaming by suggesting people take measures to ensure their personal safety?
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And you still didn't answer my question. When we tell people not to walk down allies at night are we victim blaming by suggesting people take measures to ensure their personal safety?
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Well, I'm not exactly ugly, but I don't really see why I'd need to be thankful for that. Lol It certainly doesn't make one a better or more interesting person. But I'm also not going to intentionally make myself unattractive. I don't see a need in that either.
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You said that ^ up there, which is why I responded that it's not about clothes.
But anyway, it isn't always about wanting attention either. I don't want attention. I don't need it. I'm in a relationship anyway and even when I'm single I could care less about getting attention from men. Leo herself has said she doesn't want the attention. From anyone.
If you're content with being ignored then you should sympathise with her... that's what she's desiring.
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I wasn't suggesting making yourself look uglier...just maybe tone down if you think its appropriate. I think a nice looking woman can give glory to God for her looks , like anything else that's a blessing. If given the choice, im sure youd take looks that are an '8' instead of a '1.5' wouldn't you ? ...lol.... With God, he looks at the inner person ....but with Humans they also consider the Books Cover . I think its ok to celebrate the looks God has bestowed on you as well as the inner qualities , personality, and character. Its all good.
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In the end, we are all responsible for our actions. We will think of each other what we will, and we shouldn't think poorly of someone who doesn't seem friendly toward us. I have found not making eye contact with others generally makes me seem colder, but some days, I don't mind that. Whatever others think of me is of no consequence to me.
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Looking at this from a broad view, you've been unhappy with your lack of a long relationship since you've considered yourself an ugly duckling. Relationships of course start when people notice each other. Yet, you don't like being noticed either. I can understand disliking disrespectful treatment, but if you don't like being noticed at all, I have to ask (and I don't mean this disrespectfully): how do you expect to get into a relationship?
Well, how do you look at guys that you find attractive? Do you evaluate their physical attractiveness by their physical features, or not?
Looking != rape. Rape is never excusable. However, if I don't want to show my arms off, I wear long sleeves. If it is too hot for me to wear long sleeves, I accept the fact that people may look at my arms - because they're right there.
No it isn't, this is a slippery slope. As OP said in her first post, she's not wearing skimpy clothing, and she's also not reporting a rape, so blaming rape victims for skimpy clothing is not at all relevant. Looking != equal rape. Lewd comments are not rape either, and I'm not seeing where anyone said she should put up with lewd comments. There's a world of difference between what you are talking about, and what she seems to be describing. Unfortunately, this derailed the thread already, but maybe pointing this out could put it back on the tracks.
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I know you haven't been around here much lately, so I know you haven't probably seen it, but I have become content with being single. I have even stated lately that I don't have any particular desires to date at all now.
Where I come from there are no guys that are attractive, so I don't have to worry about this.
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I stare at people who look good, not too long, but I notice that I do, it is so rare that I just stare LOL. We have one girl in church, she is just so good looking, really, I've never seen something like it , her hair, her clothes, her make up and her face, it's just perfect and she's a model and very friendly. This summer I saw a guy and I stared at him for a few moments and thought: Wow he really looks good. That's seldom that you see that. So what? I don't have any bad thoughts, I just think they look good. Why wouldn't men think like that? Why is it Always creepy just because there are some creeps?
We had one pastor, he got saved because two people came at his door to tell him the gospel and normally he slammed the door and didn't listen, but there was this beautiful lady and he only listened to them because she was so beautiful and then he got saved.
We had one pastor, he got saved because two people came at his door to tell him the gospel and normally he slammed the door and didn't listen, but there was this beautiful lady and he only listened to them because she was so beautiful and then he got saved.
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