Being pursued vs pursuing...

ImperatorWall · Jan 1, 2014

WingsofHisgrace said:
Yes, I believe you. Jesus said, "For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." When we put our joy and hope in Christ, nothing can separate us from it. That will never be taken away from you!

Yeah, it sounds good. But people balk when you say you would prefer to give the money away rather than go on a vacation.

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 1, 2014

ImperatorWall said:
Yeah, it sounds good. But people balk when you say you would prefer to give the money away rather than go on a vacation.

Ah well, if they gawk....oh well. To whomever much is given much will be asked. We must surely pray for them and stand firm in the faith.

Two Scoops · Jan 1, 2014

Romans 5
And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope.

christsoccer · Jan 1, 2014

WingsofHisgrace said:
As a woman, I know that I am the one to be pursued. I know I shouldn't be the one seeking a man but rather the man seek and find me.

I admit before I would wonder why the christian guys that I would be interested in would not really show any interest in me. I have had some 'christian' guys show interest but I really was not attracted to them in any way and to top it all of most of them-if not all of them, we're not genuine God-fearing men. Most are boys who have yet a lot to learn.

I have had lots of non-Christian guys pursue me...But they would later give up since I would basically say no to them and share to them my faith instead. Even to the guys who did claim that they would believe and change-I made it clear I would not even be with someone new to the faith for countless reasons.

(My father is a pastor and has counseled many marriages that have had lots of problems later on when one spouse was new to the faith vs one who's been through more...) I'm not saying a new believer is not mature. I've seen christians of 30 years who behaved like new born babies/non-believers still drinking milk. Likewise, I have also seen Christians that were pretty new to the faith yet, truly loved The Lord and showed good fruits!

This has not been the case for me. Where I currently live(which seems to be the case for so many Christian women haha) I personally have not met anyone. Sometimes I wonder if The Lord wants me to go someplace else or if I must do something else...I have never had a boyfriend and am currently waiting on God...I know that in these times, even though I know He has been preparing me and that has made me mature more and more I Know everything is right in His time.

I have learned and am constantly learning to depend more and more on Him alone. I have learned to truly delight in Him, but I. Admit that as a human, I am weak and sometimes have my focus On Him digress and shift to my dreams vs His.

I don't want to be like Sarah who manipulated the situation and made Abraham sleep with Hagar in order for Abraham to be a father. In the same way, I have been convicted by The story of Ruth a lot this past year especially. I've learned a great deal from it and believe that God is truly sovereign. Because of His sovereignty, I should trust in Him completely, even knowing when I don't know....even when it seems that my future spouse is no where in sight.

Thanks for reading...I just wanted to share and ask for your prayers.

Much love in Christ, Carolina.

Praying and sympathizing with you... and hoping one day God will grant me the courage and strength to pursue because I certainly do not want lifetime singleness

Two Scoops · Jan 1, 2014

James 1:2-8
New King James Version (NKJV)

Profiting from Trials
2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 1, 2014

Two Scoops said:
Romans 5
And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope.

Yesss amen

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 1, 2014

Two Scoops said:
James 1:2-8
New King James Version (NKJV)

Profiting from Trials
2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways

Thank you!

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 1, 2014

christsoccer said:
Praying and sympathizing with you... and hoping one day God will grant me the courage and strength to pursue because I certainly do not want lifetime singleness

Thank you for the prayers. God bless. Truly when we delight in God the rest will come without ever competing for the right place. God bless!

Godisgood12 · Jan 2, 2014

WingsofHisgrace said:
No not because "I'm so great". It's because I have learned that it is more biblical that the man finds a wife. Proverbs 18:22 says blessed is the man that finds a wife.

No, I don't think finding a wife and pursueing a wife are the same thing.

Godisgood12 · Jan 2, 2014

Maybe we can get an example or pusueing, like acting. Two people, one male, one female act out an example of pursueing.

MehGuy · Jan 2, 2014

Sometimes you are pursued and pursuing at the same exact time.

at the same exact time..

Cearbhall · Jan 3, 2014

WingsofHisgrace said:
As a woman, I know that I am the one to be pursued. I know I shouldn't be the one seeking a man but rather the man seek and find me.

Is this part of your local or ethnic culture? It's not Christian, as far as I know...

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 4, 2014

INDEED..

TOUCHÉ

Agreed.

:dontcare:

Yup that's basically it. Both.

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 4, 2014

Cearbhall said:
Is this part of your local or ethnic culture? It's not Christian, as far as I know...

It doesn't mean I don't put effort and show interest. But in the bible, the ones who do most of the pursuing are men. Boaz noticed Ruth. She did glean in His field and do what Naomi had instructed her...but it doesn't mean every case is the same. I do put effort in showing interest to a guy to a moderate and respectful degree but not straight up asking a guy out.

RobertMerton · Jan 5, 2014

I wouldn't mind being pursued, particularly from a cute girl.

Thinking about it quite honestly, I can't say any girl has pursued me since high school? well anyone I would be interested in.

Back then I was a bit of a rebel.

I guess nice guys do finish last

.

Do you think persistent pursuing is a turn off though?
In my culture alot of the dramas are about the guy writing poems, letters, repeatedly to her... pretty much harassing and stalking her, but the girls seem to think this is 'romantic'.

To me it is creepy...

Hockey_Fan · Jan 7, 2014

WingsofHisgrace said:
As a woman, I know that I am the one to be pursued. I know I shouldn't be the one seeking a man but rather the man seek and find me.

I admit before I would wonder why the christian guys that I would be interested in would not really show any interest in me. I have had some 'christian' guys show interest but I really was not attracted to them in any way and to top it all of most of them-if not all of them, we're not genuine God-fearing men. Most are boys who have yet a lot to learn.

I have had lots of non-Christian guys pursue me...But they would later give up since I would basically say no to them and share to them my faith instead. Even to the guys who did claim that they would believe and change-I made it clear I would not even be with someone new to the faith for countless reasons.

(My father is a pastor and has counseled many marriages that have had lots of problems later on when one spouse was new to the faith vs one who's been through more...) I'm not saying a new believer is not mature. I've seen christians of 30 years who behaved like new born babies/non-believers still drinking milk. Likewise, I have also seen Christians that were pretty new to the faith yet, truly loved The Lord and showed good fruits!

This has not been the case for me. Where I currently live(which seems to be the case for so many Christian women haha) I personally have not met anyone. Sometimes I wonder if The Lord wants me to go someplace else or if I must do something else...I have never had a boyfriend and am currently waiting on God...I know that in these times, even though I know He has been preparing me and that has made me mature more and more I Know everything is right in His time.

I have learned and am constantly learning to depend more and more on Him alone. I have learned to truly delight in Him, but I. Admit that as a human, I am weak and sometimes have my focus On Him digress and shift to my dreams vs His.

I don't want to be like Sarah who manipulated the situation and made Abraham sleep with Hagar in order for Abraham to be a father. In the same way, I have been convicted by The story of Ruth a lot this past year especially. I've learned a great deal from it and believe that God is truly sovereign. Because of His sovereignty, I should trust in Him completely, even knowing when I don't know....even when it seems that my future spouse is no where in sight.

Thanks for reading...I just wanted to share and ask for your prayers.

Much love in Christ, Carolina.

"Be merciful to me, O God, for men hotly pursue me." (Psalm 56:1)

Grow_in_Grace · Jan 7, 2014

Hey Hockey_Fan, why are you being so rude? It's not wrong for me to say that I do have guys pursue me. It doesn't mean I'm conceited....
I don't see myself as " God's gift to man-kind" or any of those things. Lots of girls attract guys because of immodesty in their apparel and attitude but I don't even do that.
I'm just stating what's been happening. Do you expect me to be attracted to someone I'm not? Or to be with someone who doesn't love God? It may be a joke but I don't believe that's very Christ -like. Love your neighbor...

YOLOButYouCanDieTwice · Jan 7, 2014

Interesting read. I'm like you, just the male opposite.

Though I do sometimes worry people may not think I've spiritually grown.
I'm not as expressive as some people (I hate public speaking), though I hope it comes across in the way I love, actions I make and some stuff I do to help out the church.

TillICollapse · Jan 7, 2014

I don't generally like pursuing women who don't pursue me also. Pursuing is a predator trait, and since I don't view women as prey ... I don't want to be the only predator in the room

But if we are both doing it, sparks fly and it's beautiful

If we both don't want to do that dance with each other, I don't see the point in doing it by myself. I also don't enjoy leaving women hanging if they are pursuing me, and I'm not interested in return ... that devalues the other person as well as trivializing their heart ...

OGM · Jan 7, 2014

TillICollapse said:
...Pursuing is a predator trait, and since I don't view women as prey ... I don't want to be the only predator in the room ...

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