independent but against the "guidelines?

Mom got very sick several weeks ago and has made tremendous progress - for which we are very thankful! She's very independent yet this same "can do" attitude poses problems because she refuses to fully follow doctors' and therapists' guidelines regarding her medication, exercises, diet restrictions, personal hygiene, mobility, ETC.

This is an example - It's been stated differently regarding her shoes - Your doctor said ... Perhaps you might want to ... Since we don't want you to fall, let's wear non-skid shoes... Which pair of non-skid shoes do you want to wear? ... It would be wiser to wear non-skid shoes ...

Of course, I want to give away the shoes she shouldn't wear anymore but she would never agree with that so I can't do that. Anyway, this is an example of what the entire day consists of when I care for her - everyday all day long. She talks some but not as much as before and our roles have entirely changed. I'm really trying to keep her from falling, follow what the professionals have said, and talk with her more about other things besides these areas of non-compliance but it's very difficult. At the end of the day, I'm totally exhausted.

If you have any suggestions about how to handle this, please post.

Thank you both so much and I really appreciate the prayers. I appreciate the suggestions and wish we could eliminate some of the shoes but she would make arrangements to get more. I definitely don't say - you have to wear non-skid shoes but I try to explain but it's not working. Suzybeezy those are good ideas though her focus is almost always on the looks but I will definitely give them a try.

About communicating - My 97 year old aunt gets more upset when she asks to see her dad and she's told he died x number of years ago. I would asks - you want to see your dad? I mean her reality is just different and she will ask in a few minutes or tomorrow about seeing her dad again so why get her more upset by telling her he passed away?