Simi-Blind post!
Has anyone seen the movie
Bridge to Terabithia? There are a few scenes in that movie that make me extremely uneasy. The teacher at one point picked up the young boy and they went to the library together. They had an interesting chemistry with each other. It was extremely pure and kind hearted, but because of how society is today, that logic can be twisted to mean something more disgusting. And, I really disliked that I felt uneasiness due to that fear I have built inside.
Over the years I have become even more protective of children. Keri, I rather be safe then sorry in such a case. However, it is extremely hard on men nowadays, and its even more difficult that someone might want to help a child, but questioned continually. This behavior is surfacing even more so now then ever, and has damaged a lot of relationships men can have with children, because there are individuals that continually hurt children and get away with it.
If I were there, and I sensed something, I don't care for hurt feelings, my own sole motive is to protect that child.
But, I also want to add that, Radhead is correct, there is too much fear and because of that fear we have become numb. Our own childhood of playing in the street until it was dinner time, is almost nearly gone this day and age. Children are not growing up to be children. They are being taught that there is the boogeyman and he is real, and when you see him, this is what you need to do to protect yourself. Children, are now more and more emotional damaged. Children, more and more experience depression, anger, and hate, at a very young age. Children grow up fearing the world, and continually saying "NO!" because that is the only way they can survive and fight back.
It breaks my hear that I have to teach a 4 year old how to control their emotions because they are growing up in an environment where they don't know how to handle, regulate and understand who they are, because the adults around them how no idea how to do it either. If I can't provide a safe environment, who will?
Instead of implanting fear, we need to teach! Without knowledge, and without starting early enough, the fear will grow into something more powerful that we can't control.
I know that males can truly care about children. You also have to consider that there is a nearby mental hospital for California's top sexually violent predators. I used to WORK there. I've read HUNDREDS of charts about what these child molesters did to their victims and where. You wouldn't believe how many of these offenses occured at parks and playground. I will not take ANY chance.
I don't care if people label me wrong. Call me whatever you want and judge me however you want. It's the safety of children in my care that matters to me most.
You did nothing wrong!
I would let you babysit my kids just for that reason.