DanToThaFullest said:I love her and I would ask her to marry me but she needs to be a Christian first. She would need to accept this as her own belief. The reason for this is I've decided I want to build a strong marriage on Bible principles. We won't be able to do that effectively if she is a non-believer.
I've recently become a Christian but my girlfriend who I met before I was born again is still a non-believer. She is pressuring me to continue having premarital sex with her. I've attempted to explain my new beliefs that sex is only okay in marriage but she doesn't' fully understand what I'm talking about. She says she needs to make love to feel close to me and without it she feels very distant from me. She is accusing me of ruining the relationship with her and won't even talk properly to me any more. I've also tried to lead her to Christ but she doesn't want to hear what I have to say about my faith.
How do I explain my belief on premarital relations to her without sounding like a religious freak or how do I end my relationship with her in way that lets her understand why I am doing this.
God Bless and thanks in advance for your advice.
Girls are temporary.
Jesus Christ is eternal.
Dan, you're already married in your God's eyes. So if you really want to be a fundy, you're not doing it right, IMO.16 When a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged to be married, and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife.
1 cor 13:2To the rest I say—I and not the Lord—that if any believer has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13And if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound. It is to peace that God has called you. 16Wife, for all you know, you might save your husband. Husband, for all you know, you might save your wife.
IMO, Dan, you ought to stay with the girl until you snap out of this stupid religious phase you're in. Besides, your God doesn't really take kindly to screwing girls and then leaving them cold. Also, she has a point, you have been brainwashed.And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
I am sorry for all of the mess. I am glad you have God's strength in you, My brother. You see right about the knowledge of oil and water; and how they don't mix.
lol, love the south park reference.1) Deconvert.
2) Resume having sex.
3) ???
4) Profit.
Seriously, though...my sexual morals are over on another planet from Christianity, so could you tell me why it's a big deal, firstly, and secondly, haven't you already married her via the sex by strict rules of the kind of Christianity that would say you can't have premarital sex?
Nathan45 said:The girl is alive, but she's going to be awfully lonely after this. Exhibit A as to why religion is bad.
Gwynmead,The OP loves Jesus now, not his girlfriend. He has effectively left her for Jesus. He has undergone a complete paradigm shift, and selfishly expects her to change for him as radically as he has changed. It's possible that one day he may wake up and realize himself a fool for abandoning love in favor of legalism, but everybody has hard choices to make. She will be better off finding a partner who actually loves her, and he will be happier finding a partner who is doctrinally sound.