I feel you. But for the record, The word OBEY has been manipulated by many so called Christians the world over. It has been used to cause little kids to submit to their pedophile parents as well as keep women in shackles. I don't think this word 'obey' means a woman has to do EVERYTHING her husband tells her. Remember, the husband has to be submitted to the Lord before he can even be worthy of having a wife submit to him. If a man is being abusive or tells her to do things that go contrary to God's Word, the woman MUST submit to GOD before she submits to him. Husbands are commanded to love their wives and if they really do, they won't act like evil dictators. How dare that jerk tell a woman she must submit and accuse her of disobeying God's Word when he is disobeying God's Word himself by acting like a manipulative fill in the blank. What a lot of men fail to realize is they have a Father in heaven THEY must submit to and He says to cherish your wife. Should a woman submit to abuse? Should she submit to a tyrannical dictator? I answer that with a resounding NO.