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Hi everyone, well, I am new here and at the same time a baby Christian. I was having some problem recently and it really took me a very long time to recover. And for the first time, I really felt that I amm so weak in the spirit, not knowing how to draw strength from God.

Recently, I have fallen for a sister in Christ in my Church. All along, I have been with her and taking her as my little sister. Many times, she will call me when she is feeling moody, down or frustrated. We will go for dinner, a movie and I will always be there for her. She has a bf and at the same time, we were really close together and I thought all this things is ok and alright. But slowly, I really started to develop a very strong feeling for her. Knowing this is not right, I decided to make the first step and aksed her not to call me anymore and not to even ask me out or whatsoever, in short, to cut off all communication between us. She accepted without even questioning and as if nothing has happen. Probably, God is working on it when I decided to do the right thing, preventing both of us getting into bigger problem. I was really surprised how much she meant to me in my life and somehow, the hurt was there. I guess I really comitted myself into this but she did not. I am just feeling like losing a arm or leg from my body. Something just went missing.

I was attending a bible study yesterday night and when I was worshipping, I just feel that God is with me, sharing the pain that I have inside my heart. I cried and ask him to forgive me for the weakness in my heart. I then felt joy, and for so long, I never felt the joy and I have that night. However, our enemy is always there non-stop trying to attack our faith in God. I am really now soaking myself into his words but I am still young spiritually and do not know really how to draw strength from him. I pray that those Brother in Christ and Sister In Christ can give me some tips to overcome this period and give me some advice how to draw strength from the Lord. I thank you in advance and God bless all of you. <IMG alt="" src="http://www.christianforums.com/images/smilies/pray.gif" border=0>
 

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Keep your thoughts on Him and He will not let you down. Giving Him praise for all He has done and continues to do for you.

Psalm 28:7 The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him.

Love in Christ,
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Having a strong emotional attachment to someone is not always a weakness. This person was single and was your friend.

Actually you have shown strength that has caused personal pain by taking the high road and putting others above yourself.

Don't think of the pain as a weakness, think of yourself as strong to be able to step back from a questionable situation.

It hurts but time will fix it.
 
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no you will not like what i have to say. don't stop talking to her. i have had the same thing done to me and it hurt and also i've done it to others as well.. it isn't gonna stop you liking her it will just stop a good friendship. Just accept ya feelings and move towards being friends. I hope i helped
 
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I admire you for your strength and courage to obey and trust God when your flesh could have really gotten the strong hold. You did the Godly thing by turning this over to him and he will give you the strength and peace that only comes through knowing Jesus. Thank you for sharing your struggle, I found it to be very encouraging and inspirational. I hope and pray that other brother and sisters in faith learn from your example of obediance. You have shown great maturity.

God Bless you....
 
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How long have you been a Christian now, JosephGQ? It’s so encouraging to hear what God is doing in the lives of new believers :) Take your time, Brother, and get grounded in the word. Commit yourself to discipleship training with someone you trust, and grow in the knowledge and love of the Lord.

I’ll let you in on something I keep in mind often now, if you desire to have a Godly Christian wife someday, God will answer the desires of your heart (Ref: Psalms 37:5 & Mathew 7:7-11). In fact if it is to be than he knows who she is because he knows all things of your life from the beginning and even into eternity. So since He knows who she is than now is a good time to start praying for her. Pray good things for her such as things related to her spiritual walk. Pray in the spirit for her as how the spirit leads you to pray for her. In God’s timing you shall meet her when the two of you are ready to meet.

As for you’re friend, well I don’t know the situation but God does. If he is softly speaking to you saying to put distance between the two of you than that’s for a good reason I’m sure. That has happened to me many times in the past. Just give it to God and he will make of it as what is best for you.

Peace
 
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Wow, that's a hard lesson to learn, but you did the right thing.

I don't know how old either of you two are but it seems that you prudently believe the age difference to be an issue. So bless you for having the strength to do the right thing. Doing the right thing doesn't always feel good and it's not always easy.
I have several little sisters. My first one was the daughter of a friend of ours. She's the one that gave me my nickname Mr.Cheese. What can probably help you avoid something like this in the future is never be alone with a female. You're not married so the reality of this issue probably doesn't shine so bright. But basically never allow yourself to be alone or do something in a one on one situation, like go to dinner or a movie. We're all human. As much as I adore Kristen, I know I'll never be able to take her out to lunch or anything like that. Its' normal to get attached to people you spend time with and that's something I never wanted to see happen. That goes for all my little sisters.
Did that make any sense?
 
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Hey, sounds like you are more spiritually strong that you are giving yourself credit for. The things you said seem on track with what God would have you do. Please remain in him, reading his word, praying. These are awesome things. In the future, remember this as well. Do not awaken love before its time, and be sure to guard your heart !!!
 
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