I am experiencing a number of small(?) issues in dealing with my fiance, that each problem by itself can be worked on, but altogether is quickly become overwhelming. The difficult thing is that he doesn't recognize the problem. I'm asking advice for the purpose of helping to determine if I'm just worrying to much about it all or if they are legitimate concerns that need to be dealt with immediately.
First off, my fiance is 23 still living at home, no car, striving to be a pro musician, and his only means of income is cleaning houses with his mom (being severely underpaid, if he even gets paid) and doing clinical research studies (which makes ok, but I'm concerned about health issues long term). To me, it's not about the money, it's about the fact that he thinks this is ok and enough. Another issue I'm seeing is that not only is he on this salary, but he's trying to get a hold of a car (which is great), but he won't take anything less than a nice new Mustang convertible. (because he doesn't want hand-me downs). Then there's issue number three, He's a completely different person depending on if he's around his mom or not. I understand this is sorta common, but he and I will make a decision and then he goes home, I don't hear from him for a week because he's busy working (which I understand, but a little warning as to when a super busy week is going to occur would be kinda nice), but when I do hear from him, he's suddenly changed his mind on whatever decision he and I made. (and when ever he changes his mind, it's always after he's talked about it with his mom).
Sorry, to go on so long, (and I apologize), but I've been crying my eyes out for a week, and am at a complete loss as to how to deal with it. I've already talked to him about it, and I felt better after I talked to him, but it didn't feel resolved either.
Any advice (or prayer) would be very appreciated......
First off, my fiance is 23 still living at home, no car, striving to be a pro musician, and his only means of income is cleaning houses with his mom (being severely underpaid, if he even gets paid) and doing clinical research studies (which makes ok, but I'm concerned about health issues long term). To me, it's not about the money, it's about the fact that he thinks this is ok and enough. Another issue I'm seeing is that not only is he on this salary, but he's trying to get a hold of a car (which is great), but he won't take anything less than a nice new Mustang convertible. (because he doesn't want hand-me downs). Then there's issue number three, He's a completely different person depending on if he's around his mom or not. I understand this is sorta common, but he and I will make a decision and then he goes home, I don't hear from him for a week because he's busy working (which I understand, but a little warning as to when a super busy week is going to occur would be kinda nice), but when I do hear from him, he's suddenly changed his mind on whatever decision he and I made. (and when ever he changes his mind, it's always after he's talked about it with his mom).
Sorry, to go on so long, (and I apologize), but I've been crying my eyes out for a week, and am at a complete loss as to how to deal with it. I've already talked to him about it, and I felt better after I talked to him, but it didn't feel resolved either.
Any advice (or prayer) would be very appreciated......