As you know, finding the perfect person may be about the most difficult thing to achieve in life. Following my own advice is probably the second most difficult. LOL.
Accomplishing things like finishing school, becoming licensed in a particular field, learning a new software system or becoming a prudent investor are actually not difficult. It's basically me or you against a challenge that is out there waiting for us to achieve. In our quest to accomplish these goals, there are roadblocks but we fight through them & do whatever it takes. I would think most people, when they have this kind of dream, usually see it come to fruition.
The tough part about a relationship is that there is another person who has to consent to making it work. I cannot dream about having a relationship with someone & make the other person do what I want. They need to participate in the process. The other tough part is the emotion involved. If someone does not want to consent, we usually get upset & it bothers us for a short time or even a long time. It differs from striving for a goal because if we have a setback when learning something new, we immediately jump right back in & continue fighting.
My point in all this is that maybe we should treat our pursuit for someone in the same way we pursue our dreams. Basically keep trying, don't let our emotions cripple us & stay positive.
Accomplishing things like finishing school, becoming licensed in a particular field, learning a new software system or becoming a prudent investor are actually not difficult. It's basically me or you against a challenge that is out there waiting for us to achieve. In our quest to accomplish these goals, there are roadblocks but we fight through them & do whatever it takes. I would think most people, when they have this kind of dream, usually see it come to fruition.
The tough part about a relationship is that there is another person who has to consent to making it work. I cannot dream about having a relationship with someone & make the other person do what I want. They need to participate in the process. The other tough part is the emotion involved. If someone does not want to consent, we usually get upset & it bothers us for a short time or even a long time. It differs from striving for a goal because if we have a setback when learning something new, we immediately jump right back in & continue fighting.
My point in all this is that maybe we should treat our pursuit for someone in the same way we pursue our dreams. Basically keep trying, don't let our emotions cripple us & stay positive.
) And I want to adopt 3 special needs children from China." Don't get me wrong. Raising children is right up there with spreading the good news as the noblest calling on the planet. But in this culture too many wives put their husbands on the backburner once baby comes. I get the feeling that I'll end up being a backburner husband if were to marry someone who never stops talking about children. There has to be a balance.
