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Recent content by Vilnius

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    I had such high hopes for "Every Man's Battle"

    Hey, not sure if you are looking for an answer to the questions you posed above, or if you already got answers. In case you are seking an answer:The nature of the male sex drive is as you describe. But the Bible has numerous verses about self control relating to the male sex drive, including...
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    Best marriage advice to a soon-to-be-married couple?

    A great book for all couples, married or about to marry, is "Understanding the mind of a Woman" by ken Nair and a similar book in the Every Man series called "Every Man's Marriage." After 11 years of marriage, I can say Nair hits the nail on the head page after page. I think Nair's book is...
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    marriage advice please! (porn)

    That is really good news. I know it really helps me to deal with temptation knowing my wife is keeping a watchful eye out and that she keeps me accountable.
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    marriage advice please! (porn)

    You are absolutely correct.
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    marriage advice please! (porn)

    If you are not peaceful about his deciet reagarding porn/masturbation and or his going to Hooters, I think it is natural. Check out Mathew 5:28 and Job 31:1. You may also want to read Every Heart Restored and/or An Affair of the Mind. Either one available at amazon.com. You may also want to...
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    Teen girls group/Bible study?

    Don't know if you are still around, but purity is one of those scary things. Check out "And the Bride Wore White" and Secret Keeper" both at purefreedom.com or .org--don't recall which or you can get the books from most book sellers. Also a great eye opener--though written for boys-- is "Every...
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    Discouraging masturbation?

    I suggest using a couple of books: Who Moved the Goal Post; and Every Young Man's Battle.
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    porn

    Biblically speaking the issue is lust. Porn is bad because it is used solely to arouse lust. However, anything one uses other than one's spouse for arousal is sinful. That is true whether it is Playboy, Victoria's Secret, a girl walking down the street... If you have any doubts see Mathew 5:28...
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    first girlfriend

    I think you are doing a great job!
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    first girlfriend

    I was not suggesting that you forbid them to be together, but rather together alone.
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    first girlfriend

    Check out "Who Moved the Goal Post" or "Every Young Man's Battle". Teens have no business being alone together, so make sure that does not happen.
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    can i pls have some advice Re: delicate issue

    Glad that it looks like things are moving in the right direction. You may want to suggest some resources to your parents-in- laws such as "Every Heart Restored" and "Every Man's Battle".
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    the princess and the kiss

    This book--and the companion for boys--are two that I have added to our church resources on purity. The parents who have mentioned the books to me have been very positive. In the area of modesty, I highly recommend "Secret Keeper".
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    Advice and Support

    Maybe this is a stupid question, but aside from the porn issue, how is your marriage? Do you two go to church; can you both see your priest/pastor about this?
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    What Do I Do Now?

    I know we are giving advice to one person here, but I can tell you the number of male teens with problems of one degree or the other in this area is approaching 100%. It is an area families and churches really need to make sure they deal with as they nurture spiritual development.