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Recent content by PREPCoach

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    Sad

    There are typically four different ways to handle conflict. It sounds like he is a withdrawer, that is common for men. He needs to learn how to communicate through the conflict and not to withdraw. This requires tools that do not come naturally. The speaker listener technique allows for...
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    If you had to rely on emotion or logic when choosing a spouse...

    Logic will foster love. If couples can learn conflict resolution skills (logic), then you can protect your marriage from harm. Research shows that it takes 10-15 positives to counteract one negative. Couples need to learn conflict resolution skills (logic) so that mutual understanding can...
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    Pastor Prescribing Pornography for "couples therapy"

    In the end this is only going to cause more problems. Understanding each other and accepting each other is what brings intimacy, not looking at someone else without clothes on. When Adam and Eve sinned they looked for something to cover the areas where they were most different. You have to...
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    Wondering how other married couples feel...

    Unmet expectations are a dangerous thing in marriage. They are evidence that your communication is not very strong. If you desire something in your marriage you need to be able to verbalize it clearly. If you have the tools to speak honestly in a safe environment to your spouse, then the...
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    Breaking Vows

    Yes in our fallen, sinful state it makes sense. We all put conditions on our love. The power of Christ's love is that it is without conditions. Thank God that I don't have to perform to his perfect standard in order to be accepted by him. Yes it makes sense and I wish that a vow to God...
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    advice to newlyweds....

    We have been married 24 years and by far my best advice is to learn conflict resolution skills early. Learn how to communicate safely during conflict and your relationship will grow deeply and intimately. Most books out there are written on how to avoid conflict, not how to develop skills...
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    Kinda at a Loss

    I too was married for 18 years without children. We then adopted and our marriage seemed to go from bad to worse. The harder we tried the worse things became. We then found a program that helped us deal with conflict resolution skills. We have read many of the books on Christian marriage...
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    Breaking Vows

    I think that I can follow your argument, however we as men are to love our wives as Christ loved the church. In doing this, we are unconditionally loving regardless of how my wife acts towards me. It seems as though you are arguing that it is no wonder marriages do not honor their vows if...