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Recent content by Lilem85

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    Inexpensive - But Beautiful - Wedding Ideas

    A good idea if you want to save on stationary is go to a printers shop and buy some gorgeous good quality paper- my friend got a mauve coloured shimmery kind, she then made the order of service on the computer and printed out 200 copies. We spent the week before the wedding rolling them up into...
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    Two weddings... when will we truly be married?

    I know a couple who had to do exactly the same. They first got married in america (that was when they signed the legal document), but then they had a wedding in britain (one of them is english). Even though they were legally married they did not have sex until after the second wedding- in fact...
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    long engagements

    ok twice my computer has crashed so here goes this post again..... Practicalities: one of the biggest practicalities is obviously finances. Some of you say you shouldnt get engaged until u are financially ready, others say that engagement is a period for marriage preparation which...
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    long engagements

    OK PEOPLE!!!! well, after careful consideration of all your opinions.... we have the go-ahead!! yay! if u refer back to my original post you'll see that my main reservation over the whole long engagement thing was my parents reservations. However I have now spoken to my parents and it turns out...
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    Soulmates

    i think gods got a plan and purpose for youre life. we have a choice to follow that plan and purpose. but he does care about the details, and that includes the specific person he wants you to marry who enables you to fulfil your potential and to fulfil the plan god has for your life, and vise...
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    Question for you all (guys expecially)

    dating in america seems to be soooo different from dating in britain. in fact we dont really "date" as such. I got together with my SO one night at a fireworks party, we went for a walk and he kissed me. It was very romantic. After that we started to get to know each other better (we were barely...
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    long engagements

    Ok, I've just caught up with all the posts and obviously I agree and disagree on various different points. I think with my personal relationship it's cool: we're emotionally and spiritually ready for MARRIAGE, if practicalities allowed, we would do it tomorrow and we would be ready for it...
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    long engagements

    thanks for getting me to think about those questions and its cool i havnt taken offence. but for me to list all the reasons why i know we're "soul-mates" would take a very long time and would probably bore you all to death. Just trust that I know, and he knows- mainly because God has told me...
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    I guess I should go out with someone I'm not attracted to?

    you know who to date because they are someone you just click with. They're right on your wavelength. When you're not with them you're thinking about them the whole time. You want to make them happy and you'll so stuff for them which you wouldn't do for anything else. That's how I felt when I...
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    how to be even better for my girlfriend

    you know what? the whole time you're working hard to be the perfect gentlemen you're not giving her a glimpse of the real you underneath all this gentlmanly behaviour. I'm sure she loves all the things you do, but she'll love getting to know the real you more. Be nice, be gentlmanly, but learn...
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    Sex vs mucking around

    Try making a commitment not to physically put yourself in that situation. If you're going to be in the house together make sure you're in the front room with other people in the house. If theres no one in the house, go out in public. Just cause there's other people around doesn't mean you can't...
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    Physical Boundaries

    This is something that you totally have to decide for yourself, I think, because you know how far is too far for you. You know what opens up temptation for you, and you know what you feel comfortable with. The important thing is communication though, its important to be aware of how your partner...
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    Communication..

    In my experience the key is total openess. I'm lucky in the sense that my boyfriend is a very open and totally honest person, not that other guys are liars but he feels totally comfortable talking about feelings and emotions. He's quite in touch with that side of things which makes life a lot...
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    Unrealistic Expectations in a Mate

    hey. *** me and my bf make a right pair! i always said my ideal man would be a chef as I am a disaster in the kitchen (microwave meals for me!) but he isnt! he has no idea either! however it's not a problem cause we are learning together, his mum is a brilliant cook and she makes sure we are...
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    long engagements

    Thanks for all your valid points. It's not gonna happen for a while yet cause the b/f has to save up for a ring and ask my parents etc. (who live on the other side of the country.) But it's cool to get everything into perspective. I reckon We'll probably end up being engaged for around 2 years...