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Recent content by flightlessbird

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    Newly Married/Disappointing Sex Life

    did talking help in your case? i feel the more we talk the worse it gets...
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    right again...but how?
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    i'm sorry to hear that. and i totally understand that feeling of not understanding why he doesn't appreciate what you know others would. it is really hard not to crave attention elsewhere as you said. i think that is a natural human reaction. it's just what you do with it and how you deal with...
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    yeah, i am certain there are also some things wrong with my thinking. i am not perfect in this or in the way i am handling it. prayers for this are appreciated!
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    i really like what you said about the percentages. that is exactly right. he feels that i am putting too much emphasis on the problem and that sex is not the main thing. but it is as you say, if it was good it wouldn't be so in focus. i also think sex is one of the main things that separates...
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    thanks for praying! i don't know if this is the issue...he seems to be able to get going easily enough - it's more like he just doesn't really think about sex - like he's so used to not being allowed to that it doesn't really cross him mind anymore...
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    i think this is definitely part of it. he is willing to go to a therapist but doesn't see the need to. he thinks we can work it out ourselves as the topic becomes more relaxed...i on the other hand don't really see how such major underlying issues are going to just go away over time...
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    woah. i in no way want to have "sex like a porn star." please leave this thread behind along with your opinion. it is not welcome or helpful.
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    it's a little assumptious to think my sexual past was "nothing more than mutual masturbation." i have had real intimate, emotional sexual connection in the past, no different to what i would hope for in a marriage.
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    the tricky thing is we just moved and know basically noone here. we have no church and very few connections at this point. we also have the added complication of being a bilingual relationship, which makes a councillor hard to find. will keep an eye out...
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    we are both in our late twenties. he grew up in a conservative Christian home with very reserved parents. he had a very conservative church at first but as he got older was with a much more liberal group.
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    My husband and I have been married for 8 months. We were together for 2 years prior to marrying and did not have sex before we married as being Christian we believed this was the right thing to do. Fooling around, I had the impression he was very interested in regular and exciting sex. I lived...