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Recent content by Fireflies

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    Can I say no to my cousin who wants to "visit"?

    While you're right, I do have my own flaws that God is working in me, I am not normally a "judging" person. She has hurt me quite a lot over 10 years and I took it, both because I didn't want to face it and because I take abuse very well. Not something to be proud of. But I also want to protect...
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    Can I say no to my cousin who wants to "visit"?

    Lol! You're right, it's a mess. This feels like fractured ice where I'm supposed to tread. You're right, I don't ever want to tell her I can't stand her presence. Not sure how to use the lockdown to my advantage. Already partially used it to block her in the first place. Actually, she didn't...
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    My issue of giving

    Just want to expand on #5- yes, I know that it's in context of the woman being poor and financially, she gave all she had. However, God knows it was all she had to give. If all you have to give, is the one moment where you stopped and gave money to a homeless man, despite the thoughts, but you...
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    My issue of giving

    Tithes is a separate topic than the question OP is asking. Great question, Jacob Black! 1) Do you have to give with someone seeing you do it? If you stop to give a homeless person some money, yes, the homeless guy will see you. But other than that, can you give in more discreet ways? Such as...
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    {MOVED} Dealing with loneliness as a Christian

    Hi JosephT, I agree with what others are saying about: Yes, other believers have come to the same revelation, HOWEVER, not everyone has received that same one at this time. There are revelations that other Christian's have, that you don't have yet. They may be very much advanced in that...
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    Can I say no to my cousin who wants to "visit"?

    Hi all, Thank you to everyone on these forums in advance for listening and for the past help you have given. You truly are blessings! Question Backstory: 1) This is the 2nd time this year my cousin has "invited herself" to the house I currently share with my parents. 2) Growing up, I thought I...
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    Fiance not virgin w\ a twist... How should I handle?

    I'll answer the second one first. He only flirted with me, and I'm not making that up to suit myself. There were plenty of witnesses. It was a pretty crushing betrayal when it happened, or rather, felt as such. But your first question got me to pause. I'm aware of the time frame between his...
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    Fiance not virgin w\ a twist... How should I handle?

    Good questions, thank you for replying. 1). First time they had dated. 2.) The grace of God got a hold of him & he couldn't live in sin anymore. It's actually very beautiful testimony. 3.) We weren't dating when they got together, but he was a huge flirt (and always did, even while they were...
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    Fiance not virgin w\ a twist... How should I handle?

    I think I'm trying to understand your reply (thank you for it), but I may be misunderstanding you. It' s not about him sinning. Never was. While I don't care too much that he's not a virgin, I care more about his past relationship with his past fiancee, since I knew her & what they've done...
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    We Didn't Develop A Friendship and Went Straight To Dating..

    A lot of people give the sage advice of "marry your best friend". It sounds like that idea is very important to her. Which, it should be. Being friends (not to say they have to be your best friend, but definitely your friend!) is what gets people through the difficult times. The 5 love...
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    Fiance not virgin w\ a twist... How should I handle?

    **Note: I'm not holding his past sin against him as he wasn't saved at the time. That's not the issue. -I am mostly a virgin (experienced abuse in the past). He is not. -He's been engaged twice before. I have never. -He lived with his last fiance for over a year. Moving in with someone I was...
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    Need Advice: Am I to walk alone or be married?

    Thank you bettercallpaul. I appreciate your time in replying to my post. I also appreciate the discussion. Blessings from USA (I assume you're UK by your Labor Party identification).
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    Need Advice: Am I to walk alone or be married?

    They do, but they don't reserve it for me. You see, the bad friends gaslight me or use me. The good ones tolerate my company or use me as targeted slander in their "prayer requests" to other individuals.
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    Need Advice: Am I to walk alone or be married?

    Funny (ironic), because I've always joked to myself, "My enemies are my friends and family- all rolled up in one, conveniently." But, I know a lot of people feel that way. It's only normal for a fallen world. Thanks for taking the time to reply, The W. I appreciate it
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    Need Advice: Am I to walk alone or be married?

    Thank you, I think waiting to hear that. I didn't know the answer, but I know that's the one I was waiting for.