Recent content by Dylan J. James

thank you so much for your story. Hearing what others have gone through pits things in perspective. Not in terms of what is / not reasonable and what can / not be done about it. Your words are inspiring.

Ok. I will take some plunges.

I’m trembling reading this. It’s the blueprint of our interactions around this topic (and two others) for over a decade. I keep journals and I keep seeing myself writing - why must every disagreement, no matter how small, over these three topics end either with her anger, her tears, or my...

It’s hard to hear, but it’s been becoming more apparent over the last 6-12 months.

Thanks for this. Buying / cooking organic and healthy doesn’t seem to be the issue. She will only eat this way for about 36 hours at a time. we are both 49 The issue with stomach fullness response also doesn’t appear to be the issue. For a very long time she would eat until she was...

Arc F1: Thanks for those words. I have done one sided counseling a few times over. It seems to boil down to “you can’t change / control her. You can only change / control your actions”. And “Why do you want to control her?”. Another very insightful counselor said “ you will be dealing with...

Endeavourer: Thanks for this counsel. I will check them out today. I appreciate, more than you can imagine, advice on a path forward.

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Thanks for the response. But the doctors opinion isn’t the issue. He’s said lose weight, eat better, cut down on red meat, exccercise, etc. Among other things, she believes pork isn’t red meat. She also didn’t accept the idea of caloric deficit for about 15 years. That’s what I’m dealing with...

We’ve been married for 20 years. Both 49 with 1 child in school still. She’s clinically obese to The point of being partially disabled( can’t walk more than 10-15 minutes a day). Also has cholesterol of 350+, and recently diagnosed as “pre diabetic”. But she feels her weight is under...

I can’t thank folks here (especially endeavorer) enough. These articles have without a doubt reoriented my mindset and approach. Explanations of The giver and taker personas were revelatory, and I mean that sincerely. Changed my life. Taking baby steps moving forward though. Coming up in three...

Wow! These are all great. But they are also predicated on somewhat rationale behavior (e.g. Behavior not driven by something that is not apparent). For example. On Tuesday's after work I used to pick up little kid from school, take kid grocery hopping, then come home and cook dinner while...

The policy is a great idea. We are probably at 10hr/wk but could do more - and do it when we both have energy left (not after kids bedtime). We've been together since we were 18 and pretty much do everything but work together.

Thanks a million for this. I even reading up on MTHFR and I think we will look into it. Some folks in her family have had those same symptoms.

I know why she reaches for the steak. I've asked: "She just wants it", " she feels she needs the protein", and "'a cheat meal" are the most common answers. I know she has some comfort issues with food. She knows it too. She feels That avoiding fried chicken and mashed potatoes with gravy as a...