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After a year of keeping it a secret in fear of judgement, I decided to confess to two of my friends that I struggle with same-sex attraction. I did this in full expectation that they would view me in the light of homosexuality. After half a year, I finally realized that they did not, and were...

It is wise idea to tell a pastor about this and have them with you when breaking the news. Also that pastor could give you valuable advice regarding how to handle this situation and what to do afterwards in your life, as such it is not a cowardly course of action, just a good one. While your...

I know it is difficult, but you will have to tell your wife. Continuing to keep your failings a secret will slowly undermine your marriage and distance you from god leaving you more lost. It is a real possibility that your marriage will end. What is important is to express repentance, your...

Noticing his actions may actually be harmful since you cannot control the pastor and taking note of his actions could easily make the attraction worse for yourself. This is because when you notice his actions indicative of attraction you end up dwelling on him thus feeding the attraction...

I similarly struggle with homosexual desires. It has certainly messed with my relationships with other guys since attraction gets mixed in and complicates everything. I am frustrated with this cyclical struggle that is becoming increasingly normal, but there is hope in that Christ can transform...

I would be perfectly willing to be your accountability partner.

The feelings themselves are not a sin, but rather a temptation; the sin is when one chooses to fantasies about it or act on it. Mat 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." You are a christian and God wants you to be...

I have also struggled with homosexuality for a few years, and as such, I would love to be accountable with you. It still would be best to be accountable to someone you can actually meet with in person, but it looks like you don't have anyone you can trust enough yet. farewell.

You mentioned that none of your friends know about your struggle. Making him the first to tell is probably not the best idea. The boundaries you've set up seem reasonable, but accountability should come from another friend. He could struggle with the same thing. Really a third party can offer...

There isn't any reason to believe your destined for hell. Feelings and attraction only constitutes temptation, not sin. Even then once your saved nothing can separate you from god. Of course you didn't consciously choose your attraction, but that doesn't mean that you don't have contributing...

You don't seem to choose to touch and you haven't indicated any lust during the day so it wouldn't be a sin. A key factor in sin is it must be chosen, what you have is a sleep disorder. Don't let it get you down and distract you.

So, for clarifications sake, I already apologized to him. I just told him I was upset, because I clearly was. I didn't reveal the true reason even though sometimes I really wanted to. In retrospect I'm glad I listened and didn't because he remains remarkably innocent. In the aftermath its become...

Just as you were healed physically you will be healed spiritually. Your healing is a sign of gods mercy towards you. i understand that it feels inescapable, but God brought you here to be set free. You aren't at a breaking point with God you said yourself that you feel powerful at church which...

You probably should stop dating her. Your relationship is just setting you up for temptation. Whenever you enter into a relationship without a prospect for marriage all you can do is tear off pieces of your heart in an inevitable breakup. Since your wondering God offers full forgiveness and...

Your fear is understandable, but an accountability partner is still worth it. I was very afraid to admit my struggle with homosexuality, when I finally decided to be accountable in this I couldn't bring myself to say it. The fear paralyzed me so I had to write it down to even tell them. In...