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Recent content by chloeobrien

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    Little Sister May Be in Trouble

    Ok, well for a while my little sister hasn't been talking about what her and her dad do on their weekends together and I don't have any solid proof but I think he's been raping her. Its just a feeling I get, my gut feelings usually aren't wrong but I don't know what to do. She's 13, she's...
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    pelvic pain

    awww *HUGE HUGS* I know how it is... your brain associates the memories with it. PTSD sucks but I'm finally starting to make progress, with it all. You'll get through it I know you will!
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    HOPE for all Survivors?

    I am posting to let everyone know there is HOPE, that things WILL get better. I wasn't believing it myself until recently. When I was able to see my rapist for who he is now and not who he used to be. I was friends with him before he raped me and it was just that, I never stopped seeing him...
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    thinking neurological problem?

    There's something wrong with me, don't know what. It doesn't matter how much/little sleep, food, water I get all this is just the same. I'm starting to think it's neurological, but not sure what. Dizziness, fatigue, stiff muscles, sudden numbness/weakness on one side of my body. The...
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    ...jokes *possible triggers*

    I completely understand on campus here at MSU a lot of people think yelling "Rape" is funny and it kills me inside everytime I hear it, I was raped just a few years ago. I also understand about your 9 years of PTSD untreated mine lasted 6 years untreated, not quite as long but I definately know...
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    Did not survive emotionally

    Try to stay in the present.. its hard I'm working on it but it helps if I am able to do it. I was raped a few years back and still working on surviving emotionally. If you need help on anything I'll be more than happy to talk with you through any way of communication is best for you. Every...
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    Permanent Damage

    yeah she is right you could have PTSD I been dr diagnosed already with it.
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    Permanent Damage

    jwwells I feel the damage is permanent also... i wish it wasn't but i feel it is so...
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    How do you tell your parents?

    I would sit down in a nice calm setting and tell him there is something you would like to talk with him about that you've been coping with for a while and would feel better if he knew. Then start by going back to that date and then explain why you couldn't be found. Let him know you wanted to...
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    Not exactly a "survivor" yet...

    telling your family and friends will take time, a friend will be a bit easier than family though. a similar situation happened with me. you should tell someone about it, people who care about you can help out a lot. they might not be able to understand but they can help. going into therapy...
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    How Can I be healed?

    I am really sorry to hear about your experiences. I was raped 2 years ago and I'm still fighting for my life today. I'm still in a lot of pain and a lot of problems. Therapy has helped, medication has some too but I know thats not for everyone, and group therapy can help a lot too. A lot of...
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    A Survivor's Poem

    You were my friend you were someone special you never knew because of what you did You were my friend when I had none, you helped me with everything good and bad You took me swing dancing you taught me fun, you taught me drinking and hydration You made me feel special and always made time for...
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    being punished for being raped

    I feel like I am being punished for being raped. *athiest* My school is punishing me for it and saying I can't stay here because my grades aren't good enough, because they messed up on paper work, and won't be able to give me an answer anytime soon, and are telling me I can't be here anymore...
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    Wrong of my friends to do?

    Good luck with it all... my living friends... do the same to me. Since they've found out... but I've noticed not all frineds act that way. I have one that I told and she's there and she listens and doesn't try to hide sharps from me, or ask me what I am going to do if I have something sharp in...
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    Alternatives to SIing..

    Sit or lay down and concentrate on breathing diaphramatically... through your nose and out your mouth, so you stomach moves when you breathe not your lungs... not only can it help calm you down, but its better to breathe that way. Read a chapter of a good book. Write, scribble, color, scream...