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Recent content by cdtaylor

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    Abusive Wife has renounced Christianity

    We’re going to Marriage counselling on Monday. I pray, I read, but at the same time, what is the point in life to live like this? I just had to stop all my sports and climbing activities because my epilepsy came back. Literally the only earthly thing to look forward to is an hour on Netflix...
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    Abusive Wife has renounced Christianity

    I feel that this is right; she will end up moving out, slowly but surely, when she is completely dependent on her friends they’ll see her in her true self. Our kids are starting to notice too that it’s not Daddy’s fault all the time, and Mammy gets angry at him for no reason. I’ve prayed and...
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    Abusive Wife has renounced Christianity

    I would agree, that I’ve been enabling her. It is hard, really hard watching someone do this to themselves but there isn’t much I can do. The frustrating thing is, it’s so pointless; we (people) have the gift of precious amazing lives and waste them on stuff that is so pointless that it’s saddening.
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    Abusive Wife has renounced Christianity

    A few times, she’s backed out a few times. Recently she’s agreed on the condition it is not Christian as the councillor “might be on my side”
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    Abusive Wife has renounced Christianity

    Hi Everyone, Sorry for being absent, I ended up in hospital, (epilepsy) I’m just recovering and will be catching up with your thoughtful and helpful messages. Thanks.
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    Abusive Wife has renounced Christianity

    Hi everyone, I posted a few years back about my wife being abusive, lying about me to mutual friends (who have never spoken to me again) to isolate me and emasculating me. My other thread has the full story. I had some absolutely wonderful support, prayers and encouragement and felt so...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    I'd like to thank everyone for being kind enough to comment and support us in prayer. I'd never felt so tested in faith as I was a few days ago. Thank you for being brutally honest also, to those have felt it appropriate. At the moment, she doesn't feel Christian marriage counselling is for...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    I really wish I was exaggerating, I think if I was, that would defeat the point of coming to an anonymous forum in the first place. No, I've never fought her and I never intend to - I have always wished to lead by example, and have done, right up until very recently when I kissed that woman, and...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    Hi @Sam91 Yes, the physical violence had stopped a long time ago, but the emotional abuse and inapropriate behaviour with another man was right up till she changed recently. I've twice tried to make clear to @Roseonathorn that most of my wife's behaviour preceded the "kiss", as she seems to be...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    Thank you, all we ask, if you can spare a few minutes, to just pray for us that is everything we could ask for and more. We're trying to find Christian counselling right now, and we want to move forward. Godbless.
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    @Roseonathorn - This has clearly touched a nerve with you, for that I am sorry, but you are getting the order of events wrong; first, she is in my bed, with another man on her - first incident, well before we were married. Regarding the violence; I'm not talking about 'threats' I'm talking...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    I apologise @vinsight4u I misunderstood your intent, I'm very sorry, and that wasn't fair. Regarding timescales, I've re-read it myself and it is more chaotic than something I'd write in a better state of mind. You are right, it is easy to dwell on the 'length' of time if we let our guard...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    Thank you @Sam91 That looks like a really good book, I'll suggest this to my wife and we'll try and get a copy. I like that it covers those key issues over the course of a year. That feels like a realistic timescale rather than the 4-6 week series we often see.
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    @vinsight4u - I was (and still am), in a very poor state of mind, I have done my best to write that post while being at my whits end, and am wishing to move forward in a peaceful, Christian manner. I have, believe and do that Jesus is my saviour and one advocate, and that he took my sins to the...
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    My Wife's Behaviour Ruined Our Christian Marriage - I don't wish to be alive

    Hi @Roseonathorn - Just to be clear on the order of things; That kiss happened about 18 months ago. We'd been married I think 9 years and I'd suffered life threatening domestic violence, continual emotional abuse - making me feel worthless, humiliating me and emasculating me to the point I felt...