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    Pray for my ex-girlfriend

    Two days ago, I ended an unequally yoked dating relationship of 4.5 years. I loved this woman as deeply as anyone I have ever loved. I still do, and yet together we could see no future. As if her being agnostic and me a christian wasn't enough, I wanted children and she didn't, and she is...
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    Women's Restrictions?

    I've been a member of both ELCA and LCMS (but not WELS) churches and truthfully I found wonderful things in both churches. One of the wonderful things to me about the ELCS is the lack of restriction of members who wanted to serve. Sure, in the LCMS anyone can serve, but we restrict members...
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    oh dear...I made a mistake I think...

    What's wrong with romantic love? Nothing! Love, at least in the case of relationships, falls into one of two categories: compassionate and companionate. Generally it starts out compassionate, but over time it becomes companionate as we mature, and the big moments of passion become less...
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    Favorite Christmas Cartoon/Movie

    It's a Wonderful Life: "Merry Christmas you old savings and loan!" A Christmas Story: "you could put your eye out!" How the Grinch Stole Christmas The Little Drummer Boy: "rumpa-tum-tum"
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    Lifelong Singless - Goals

    I ask myself the same sort of question fairly often. I was married and am divorced. Many of my goals that I once had just don't really apply since I'm single, and yet to be healthy you really need to have goals. Understanding what you want and becoming comfortable with it, and accepting that...
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    New

    Welcome Anil! God bless you and your family.
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    How do you define an affair?

    Pilgrimdon, might I ask for more information on these studies you're talking about? You're paraphrasing them, but could you offer us a link or some more info on what you are quoting from? What studies? By whom or from what book/magazine/website? I still contend that a platonic relationship...
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    How do you define an affair?

    To be an affair I believe it requires that both parties have an attraction of a sexual nature, and that they share it. That doesn't mean you need to have sex, it means you are attracted to them and you are mutually acting on it in some way, even if it is just a meeting. Having a relationship...
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    How do you deal with the lonliness?

    When I went through divorce I found that the worst things were the basic ones. Cooking, which I like to do, became painful because I had no one else to cook for. Eating alone just isn't the same as having enjoyable conversation with someone while you eat your dinner. One thing I've done is...
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    Do you know....?

    I'm sorry but I disagree with what others seem to be saying, (that you shouldn't get a divorce). You've been put in the hospital, you've had to deal with beatings brutal enough to leave bruises and scars, and he's stolen from your ill grandmother. I just don't get it. Sure God hates divorce, but...
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    Separated and Unsure

    The more I think about your situation the more I think that only you and your wife can sort this one out. And by that I mean that coming here for advice isn't going to solve anything, other than that some folks here can point you in various directions. I just think the issues here are too...
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    A Lutheran in the desert

    After speaking with friends who had attended an Anglican church for a year or so in England I'm fairly comforted to hear that they are fairly similar services. All that said, it's still at best a 50/50 chance I'll move to Dubai. If I do, I'll most likely go to the Anglican Church. Thanks to...
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    Separated and Unsure

    Well let me clarify just a little bit. I wasn't meaning to imply that you (Autumnleaf) are an angry husband. I don't even know if you are married though I gather that you are. I was meaning to say that your response sounded like a common response of a husband who feels threatened, and that I...
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    Over a stupid game?

    Nothing will drive a marriage into the ground faster than moral superiority. Imagine how he will feel if he thinks you are his moral superior, or that he knows YOU think you are his moral superior? You know how you feel when he points at your flaws. Everyone has flaws. Everyone. The only...
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    Separated and Unsure

    Autumnleaf's thoughts on counceling are the classic angry spouses arguement against it. My opinion is that the RIGHT counceling does help. A good councellor isn't just someone to listen to your complaints and nod their head. If that is all she is getting, then she is not getting good...
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