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Recent content by Archer

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    Marrying young

    We met in college and married at 20. We have been married for 23 years, most of which have been an unhappy struggle. I believe this is due to the fact that when you marry in college, you share the same interests and struggles (classes, teachers, grades, etc). But then, you leave school and...
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    Isn't there anyone out there who has beaten mild depression in marriage?

    Yes, just as I asked, that is certainly a victory! Now I can take those encouraging words and seize my own vision of victory. Hooray! And, I dont have to endure more useless rabble from someone who has not walked in my shoes. I cannot thank you enough for seeing my wounded heart, and for...
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    Isn't there anyone out there who has beaten mild depression in marriage?

    I have posted a couple of threads in some of the other subject-forums, trying to fish for someone who has overcome depression in marriage. I am not talking about deep, dark depression that keeps you from functioning. I want to hear about victory over the depression that slowly drives your spouse...
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    Favorite line from a song.

    Kenny Rogers is certainly not my favorite. But, his song "She believes in me" often pierces my heart because that is something missing in my marriage. Some key lines: "She believes in me..." "But she has faith in me, and so I go on trying faithfully..." "God her love is true..."
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    Depression and Divorce

    I have a dog. She is the one thing I can count on to always make me smile no matter how bad I feel! "Dusting off dreams" is easier said than done. Especially since many of my dreams would involve my wife... I would love to have my wife sing or play with me and my guitar... (even in private) I...
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    Depression and Divorce

    You say Marriage vows are not conditional. Yet at the same time, you allow that they are conditional if the person is depressed. I am not emotionally healty. 20+ years of living with a depressed person has taken its toll on me too. Why is it that everyone has compassion for the depressed...
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    Depression and Divorce

    Yes, but she has walked away from "love, honor, and obey".
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    Depression and Divorce

    My wife (and I) have battled depression for many years. We have been married >20 yrs. And, I am ready to walk away, because I am weary of dealing with it. I would like to hear about how depression hurt your marriage and how you overcame it, assuming you did. For me, as the non-depressed, it...
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    Beware of college romances!

    I just wanted to lend a voice of experience to those how have met someone in college, and are considering marriage. 23 years ago, I met someone halfway thru my freshmen year of college. We had "everything" in common, and shared the same struggles (classes, tests, teachers, etc). We finished...