This one sentence in the article stood out for me: "Men are (rightfully) exhausted by feminism and eager to reclaim their role."
From everything that I have been reading---about the corporate culture, about the dating/relationship culture, about the marriage/divorce situation, men are indeed exhausted. They're tired of the constant drama, the mind games, the snarkiness, the psychological tests, the entitlement, the chaos, and the "nothing is ever good enough" vibe that they get from modern women. Most men do not want to come home to a boss babe with a chip on her shoulder and a belligerent attitude; they get enough of that at work. Men just want to come home to a safe space, and calm, soothing refuge from the workaday grind. They don't get that from far too many 3rd-wave feminist women these days; instead, what they get is arguments, accusations, and perpetual battles over some chaos or other, and if there's no chaos to be had, some women will manufacture it.
So, yes; men are tired. But they don't seem to "eager to reclaim their role". From what I have been seeing, men have simply given up, and disengaged not only from women and relationships, but from society as a whole. Women used the "#metoo" movement as a weapon to beat men over the head with, to the point where now women complain that men in corporate settings won't come anywhere near them. Women with inflated senses of their own desirability---driven by online dating apps---are now complaining that men refuse to go to singles clubs events; they don't ask women out on dates any more; they don't even approach women in bars. Women give men the "come hither" glance and all sorts of subtle hints to show they're interested, and the men just turn away and keep chatting with their male friends, which leaves the women confused.
If you ask men about this, they will simply shrug and say that pursuing relationships with women is just not worth it. They'd rather hang out with their guy friends, and go home every night to a solitary existence that has no romance----but it does have peace, quiet, and a chance to recuperate from life at the end of the day. They will relay how unbelievably expensive it is to go out on dates, especially if the woman is a feminist princess who believes that nothing is too good for her. They will cite the stunningly unrealistic expectations that many women have: "He has to be six feet tall, have six-pack abs, and make at least $800,000 a year." They will cite the criminally-unjust divorce system in the US today; a woman can cheat on her husband, then accuse him of neglect or abuse, and the courts will always---always---take the woman's side, and the man ends up losing his house, his car, his pension, his income, and access to his children, even if he's done nothing wrong. He ends up living in a lousy three-room efficiency apartment and working three jobs to keep up on alimony and child-support payments, battling bankruptcy on a daily basis, and existing in what for all intents and purposes amounts to a court-mandated state of indentured servitude.
50% of all new marriages end in divorce. 80% of all divorces are initiated by the women. 75% of all suicides annually are committed by men. And society has become "feminized" to the point where male roles are not recognized any more, or if they are such roles are denigrated. Yet men are under societal pressure to marry and support a household, just as they did in 1950, even though women now pull down more money than most men, and there are far more female college graduates than males. The woman is not expected to share in the expenses of the family; it's the man's job to do that, even if he has to work extra hours. The woman's paycheck is for her alone---and after not seeing hubby five nights out of seven every week, because he's trying to keep up, one day she announces she's "bored" and the marriage goes splat.
Faced with all this, is it any wonder that men have just walked away from marriage, family life, and even the employment system? What's the sense in getting a "good-paying job" if you're just going to lose that income anyway when your wife decides to run off to Aruba with Carlos, the fitness trainer from the gym? Why have children if they're going to be taken away from you and you can only see them every other weekend---if ever? (Besides, raising children is prohibitively expensive.) Above all, why get involved with a woman when all she's going to do is make your life incredibly miserable, demand things you can't provide, and then betray you three, six, ten, eighteen years down the road? Who needs it?
"Oh, but all women are not like that!", you say; and you're right---they're not. Not all snakes are poisonous, either, but if you can't tell one from the other, you tend to avoid them all. The only way to win this game is to not play at all.
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