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Honestly, I've seen funner facts.

You're talking about a person with an abnormal condition. The vast majority of people are happy to eat food.
I'm talking about a person with an ailment not common to young people, but grows in frequency in older people... People who also are statistically higher represented on the Snap program than other demographics. People united in their having a story you have 0% of context of but yet, for some reason, feel you have 100% authority to speak about.
 
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Ah, the ol' bootstraps mentality. The one people like to trot out because it means they don't have to credit luck, generational advantages, and other outside factors for their own success. The one that they use to assuage the fear that the poverty they see could never happen to them because they're just better at life than somebody else. Harder workers. Smarter. Faster. Better.

To admit that we live in a system where people can work super hard and still fail is too scary. Better to just assign them the "less than" caste and sleep soundly than worry that you're one injury, disaster, illness, job loss, or death away from needing the same services they do.

Brava!

I wish more people understood this. So much of the conservative worldview is based on stories that afford people a level of control and agency they don't actually have, because it helps them feel less powerless.
 
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Brava!

I wish more people understood this. So much of the conservative worldview is based on stories that afford people a level of control and agency they don't actually have, because it helps them feel less powerless.
That AND having the added bonus of being able to feel that they DO have the power to control exactly how "my money is spent" (talk about having trouble letting go).

I suppose it shouldn't be surprising at how adament they are when they argue as this circumstance sits SOOO snuggly into their wheelhouse.
 
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I'm talking about a person with an ailment not common to young people, but grows in frequency in older people... People who also are statistically higher represented on the Snap program than other demographics.
So a person who won't eat food is on a program to get free food. In many of your posts you come across as quite the entrepreneur. Couldn't you afford to buy some candy bars?
People united in their having a story you have 0% of context of but yet, for some reason, feel you have 100% authority to speak about.
You know nothing of my work. I took care of my mom for 11 years due to her severe Alzheimer's dementia. She also frequently didn't like eating. I found ways around it. I didn't put her on SNAP and I didn't give her junk food.
 
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No they are not. They are asking for assistance from their government. That there are some so desperate to decide what constitutes "good choices" in order to justify the assistance is strange to me. If liberals demanded that SNAP recipients could not buy red meat because of its health effects and limited it to tofu they would be rightly castigated. I see this as no different.
Do you remember several years ago the outrage over "hipsters" buying salmon with food stamps rather than cheap ground beef? That they can only buy far smaller amounts of better protein is probably why hipsters are notoriously slender, but posters here wanted to restrict food stamp recipients to crap food.
 
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Do you remember several years ago the outrage over "hipsters" buying salmon with food stamps rather than cheap ground beef? That they can only buy far smaller amounts of better protein is probably why hipsters are notoriously slender, but posters here wanted to restrict food stamp recipients to crap food.
How can it be we wanted to reduce people on SNAP to crap food when we are actually looking to take AWAY junk food? I have seen at least one person (not on here looking to forbid boxed food and force basically fresh foods on SNAP which is not crap food.
 
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How can it be we wanted to reduce people on SNAP to crap food when we are actually looking to take AWAY junk food? I have seen at least one person (not on here looking to forbid boxed food and force basically fresh foods on SNAP which is not crap food.
It's about controlling other people with a lot of envy and resentment thrown in, best as I can figure.
 
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Right wingers want the poor to make healthy food choices and so they want to find ways to CONTROL what those people eat.

Left wingers want the poor to make healthy food choices but recognize it isn't up to us as to what they choose to eat. We have no need to control them though certainly we would hope they would choose the food that they need.
Then there are people like me, who realize when we start micromanaging what people eat to that degree, we're making the program more expensive, less helpful, and based off of non-replicable metrics that can't be consistently applied, and ignoring the level of self-regulation that already occurs by nature of the fact that there's a budget and there's food. People will gravitate towards what they like and what they can afford and prioritize that.

Somebody liking Doritos but not being able to afford them, therefore saying people who are on assistance can't get them is not standardized. How is somebody else using the system supposed to know that and apply it to make the best choice? Where does that metric stop? I like blueberries, but I can't justify buying them when they're not on sale... Now are we saying that because I won't spend $5 on one pint of blueberries when I can wait for a 2 for $4 sale, rules on what fruits they buy need to be adapted? I buy frozen corn despite liking lettuce better because lettuce will go bad before I use it, so somebody else must do the same? Heck, I remember when my food budget for myself was $20 a week for all meals. Doritos were a luxury, I didn't buy them. But one November, canned corn was 4 for $1, I bought $6 worth of corn, 24 cans, which represented 12 weeks of corn for me. December rolled around, I still had 20 cans of corn left, Doritos were on sale 2 for $4, so I used what I saved not buying vegetables that month to buy Doritos as a gift to myself. Should I, in theory, have bought corn my regular amount of corn, paid more for less in December, and skipped the Doritos?

At what point are we spending so much money to regulate a system from "fraud" (which is really just people being mad at what other people are buying that they don't feel they deserve for no reason other than "because they don't") that it becomes cumbersome? Or at what hoops that we require that are reasonable and identifiable (ID, eligibility proof, and an application process), become now more subjective, random, and arbitrary (no buying Doritos because some dude on the internet doesn't think you deserve them). Is it better to force people to spend more on something that has a short shelf life and costs more, like fruits and vegetables, meats, dairy, that they have a higher likelihood of throwing away due to not using it in time, or to allow people to buy what they know is in their means to make and eat fully and is cheaper, but less healthy? Thanks to my knowledge base, history with poverty, my job, and you give me a whole chicken, a can of corn, flour, and a bag of rice, I can feed my family of 5 for four days or make a meal for 15 homeless people with no issue. Yet I know darn well that if I were to give some people on this forum a chicken, they wouldn't know what to do with it. So those people are starving and hand them a chicken instead of a bag of pizza rolls, am I doing them a favor or wasting a chicken?

People will buy what they can eat without help because it's relatively self-regulating. People don't buy what they won't get the most from based off of their needs and capabilities. They don't need to hear what somebody else would eat because of what they can do, they need to know what they're going to eat with what they can do.

In fact, I'm beginning to see a HUGE irony in all of this. The 2 Thess. 3 verse that quote misquoted above actually warns Christians against being "busybodies"...and expressed that they were being such busybodies they were refusing to work.

I gotta tell ya....the way Conservatives are trying so hard to influence these programs, it seems like a TEXTBOOK example of being a busybody. Funny how everything folds on itself and irony remains.
The gigantic irony has always been there for me. A baseline throughout the whole Bible is the constant reinforcement and drilling of how we need to help those who have less. Some of the other stuff, yeah, there's built in room to argue. Yes, hate the sin love the sinner, but what if the sinner continues to sin or is committing a mortal sin... X, Y, and Z is bad, but is it really bad in context and is it new or old testament, blah blah blah...

But helping the poor? Feeding people? Uh, no. There were no catches in that. The Bible is unequivocal. There was no "feed them, but only if they are truly poor and unable to help themselves and have demonstrated it sufficiently" or "clothe them, but only if they've tried hard enough to clothe themselves" or "if he's hungry give him something to eat, but it better not be Doritos and Pizza Rolls." I know people think I'm the big raging liberal who isn't Christian and doesn't read a Bible every day, but I do. As a Christian, we're told to feed the hungry. Full stop. Not just the "for I was hungry and you gave me something to eat... when you have done it for the least of these among us, so you've done for me" or Proverbs "the generous will be blessed when they share their food with the poor." I'm talking about Romans 12. Do not think yourselves as higher than others but with sober understanding of the measure that God has assigned them. Do not be haughty, associate with the poor. give thought to do what is honorable to all. If your enemy is hungry, give him food; if he is thirsty, give him drink. It doesn't say that the enemy must deserve it or needs to earn it. It just says feed them. Matthew 14. Jesus had compassion for the large crowd that followed him. When the disciples told him to send them away because it was late and the crowd should go find their own food, Jesus said specifically, do not send them away, you feed them, give them food. They said they only had 5 loaves of bread and two fish, Jesus didn't say "then line them up by order of who's most hungry and done least to help themselves, weed out the fakers, the lazy, the illegals, feed whomever is left." There was no wavering, no changed direction for his disciples. Just the command to feed them. James 2... What's the point of faith if you don't act in a way that carries that faith? Faith without action is dead. The specific example given is if a person is without daily food and you say "go in peace, stay warm, eat well" and that's it, you don't help, you are in the wrong. Faith without deeds is useless, a body without the spirit is dead, faith without deeds is dead.

God is super clear... I think Romans 12 again...? Love in action, wherever that passage is that I can't think of off the top of my head for some reason. Your judgment comes in how you treat even your enemies. Don't assume because they deserve vengeance, you are to be the one who does it. Do not repay evil for evil. Feed your enemy. Give them something to drink. Overcome their evil with your good, that is your reward. That is your morality. That is your judgment from God. How others use what you give them, that's their judgment. Your job is to do what God commands, which is to attend to their needs, keep your side of the street clean, and understand if they're taking advantage, God will deal with it, it's not your job to.
 
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Fair enough. I'll go do some research. I'll ask AI how many Americans don't like to eat food.
Better question to ask AI, if you must ask a glorified search engine what your opinion on a topic should be in order to make an opinion, is "how common it is for the elderly to suffer from nutritional deficits due to lack of money and health issues/mental impairments?". Or maybe if it's better for somebody of a healthy weight to get 400 calories a day from "healthy" things, or 1,700 calories from "bad things." Or maybe if you are able to understand the whole of a stranger's shopping habits, caloric needs, income level, or worthiness based off of what you see in their cart, and if that understanding gives you the right to regulate what they're buying because your taxes contributed to 2.5% of their bill.
 
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Better question to ask AI, if you must ask a glorified search engine what your opinion on a topic should be in order to make an opinion, is "how common it is for the elderly to suffer from nutritional deficits due to lack of money and health issues/mental impairments?". Or maybe if it's better for somebody of a healthy weight to get 400 calories a day from "healthy" things, or 1,700 calories from "bad things." Or maybe if you are able to understand the whole of a stranger's shopping habits, caloric needs, income level, or worthiness based off of what you see in their cart, and if that understanding gives you the right to regulate what they're buying because your taxes contributed to 2.5% of their bill.
It's not so much what's in the cart as who I see pushing the cart and paying at the register. Guys twice my size and half my age, covered in bling and ink talking on a smartphone, and the ladies with bling and weaves and 4 inch eyelashes who load their groceries into a car that's newer and fancier than mine. And they don't even say thank you for the fact I work for their goodies.
 
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So a person who won't eat food is on a program to get free food. In many of your posts you come across as quite the entrepreneur. Couldn't you afford to buy some candy bars?
Are you talking about me or my grandfather?

If you're talking about my grandfather, no, he could not afford to buy candy bars without Snap assistance. He was broke.

If you're talking about me and my gummies at this moment, right now, yes, I buy them myself because I can afford food and I'm not on Snap. Were Godzilla to come and level my house, my employer, and my husband abducted by aliens in the ensuing chaos, yes, Snap would be funding my gummies for some stretch of time. If we were talking about 18 year old me with a job that got $300 a week, if I had active Crohn's then and I could get those gummies while still adhering to my $20 a week food budget, I'd likely pay for them. Since I probably couldn't and it is very literally the only food I can eat when I'm ill (except for occasionally potato chips), I'd likely have used Snap to get buy.

You know nothing of my work. I took care of my mom for 11 years due to her severe Alzheimer's dementia. She also frequently didn't like eating. I found ways around it. I didn't put her on SNAP and I didn't give her junk food.
Glad that worked for you and very much wish the solution for my family was as easy as all that, because it certainly wasn't that cut-and-dry as "finding ways around it" for us. I suspect if she wasn't eating and losing 20 pounds a month, developing co-morbidities as a result, you may have found yourself in our boat... Though since our situation sounds very different, you'll never know.
 
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Nope. Already done. Chat just said "What kind of idiotic question is that?"
This new thing you do where you pretend to talk to AI and then lie about what it says in order make comments that aren't helpful, informative, well-thought out, and are just an excuse to flame people while blaming a computer program is super awesome, by the way. You absolutely should keep doing it. All the time.
 
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It's not so much what's in the cart as who I see pushing the cart and paying at the register. Guys twice my size and half my age, covered in bling and ink talking on a smartphone, and the ladies with bling and weaves and 4 inch eyelashes who load their groceries into a car that's newer and fancier than mine. And they don't even say thank you for the fact I work for their goodies.
You want them to thank you for the 2.5% of the overall cost of Snap that the taxes you paid covered? What services do you use that are taxpayer funded should you be thanking them for? Roads? Healthcare? Police service? Military protection?

Because they've got "bling," tattoos, a smartphone, and girlfriends with weaves, eyelashes, and a better car than yours, the solution for your jealousy is to be nasty? It's to not act as Christ tells you to, but to arrive at an expeditious judgment that they're unworthy because they don't look like refugees from a Dickens novel, and feel that excuses your hatred and bias?

Have you considered that maybe if you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps, worked a little harder, you too could have a nicer car, fake lashes, and the weave of your dreams? The problem in what they have that you don't and your resentment for it is your fault? They don't owe you a poverty performance to boost your ego and smooth over your hurt feelings.
 
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Do you remember several years ago the outrage over "hipsters" buying salmon with food stamps rather than cheap ground beef? That they can only buy far smaller amounts of better protein is probably why hipsters are notoriously slender, but posters here wanted to restrict food stamp recipients to crap food.
Yes I recall that thread. Best I can tell it is not the food, it is who is getting assistance that rankles them so. Only certain stereotypes are allowed to be deserving it would seem.
 
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You want them to thank you for the 2.5% of the overall cost of Snap that the taxes you paid covered?
Yes.
What services do you use that are taxpayer funded should you be thanking them for? Roads? Healthcare? Police service? Military protection?
Unlike food, those aren't free to me.
Because they've got "bling," tattoos, a smartphone, and girlfriends with weaves, eyelashes, and a better car than yours, the solution for your jealousy is to be nasty?
I'm sure some slaves were jealous of their masters, but when was I nasty?
It's to not act as Christ tells you to, but to arrive at an expeditious judgment that they're unworthy because they don't look like refugees from a Dickens novel, and feel that excuses your hatred and bias?
Nasty...hatred...bias? Please provide links to these posts of mine or stop saying it.
Have you considered that maybe if you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps, worked a little harder, you too could have a nicer car, fake lashes, and the weave of your dreams?
I don't want or need any of that.
The problem in what they have that you don't and your resentment for it is your fault?
Huh?
They don't owe you a poverty performance to boost your ego and smooth over your hurt feelings.
So you're admitting they would have to perform poverty, since they don't actually experience it.
 
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Cool. So I expect thanks from you for all the things I fund for you via my taxes.

Unlike food, those aren't free to me.
What does that even mean? Your food is free so they should thank you? Your roads are free, so they don't need to thank you?

I'm sure some slaves were jealous of their masters, but when was I nasty?
I don't even know where to begin when it comes to addressing the absolute and sheer whackers bonkersness that this statement is. Do I start with the lunacy in comparing yourself to a slave and people on Snap as your masters? Do I point out that yeah, generally people with no freedoms are super jealous of those who have more than their share of freedoms and how none of that applies to you or this situation? Or do I say "holy cow, that was super racially insensitive" and then spend far too long to explaining to you why, only for you to not get it anyway, and console myself with the fact that people on the Internet say all sorts of things with the veil of anonymity they'd never think of saying to a person face-to-face, and hope that's enough?

Nasty...hatred...bias? Please provide links to these posts of mine or stop saying it.
It's literally the post I linked and replied to, which you and I both know.

I don't want or need any of that.
So then stop inventorying the things they have and complaining they have it.

The problem is that you resent them for having something you don't, but instead of addressing that character flaw in yourself, you simply project it onto them. The solution is to investigate yourself and your biases, address them, and not expect other people contort themselves to the image you think they should have because you can't mind your business or control your thoughts.

So you're admitting they would have to perform poverty, since they don't actually experience it.
I'm admitting that poor people don't always look poor and that people who don't act poor get a lot of hate from people who think because they aren't acting poor enough, they must not actually be poor. So I'm admitting if they were performing poverty, that would be an act for your benefit that in no way reflects anything but your desire to be able to look at somebody and judge them as poor.

For me, if somebody is on Snap, knowing what one has to go through to get it and maintain it, I just know they're in need. I don't need them to perform poverty for my benefit. There but for the grace of God goes me or you, so no need for them to sacrifice their dignity for my amusement as apparently you require.
 
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Cool. So I expect thanks from you for all the things I fund for you via my taxes.


What does that even mean? Your food is free so they should thank you? Your roads are free, so they don't need to thank you?


I don't even know where to begin when it comes to addressing the absolute and sheer whackers bonkersness that this statement is. Do I start with the lunacy in comparing yourself to a slave and people on Snap as your masters? Do I point out that yeah, generally people with no freedoms are super jealous of those who have more than their share of freedoms and how none of that applies to you or this situation? Or do I say "holy cow, that was super racially insensitive" and then spend far too long to explaining to you why, only for you to not get it anyway, and console myself with the fact that people on the Internet say all sorts of things with the veil of anonymity they'd never think of saying to a person face-to-face, and hope that's enough?


It's literally the post I linked and replied to, which you and I both know.


So then stop inventorying the things they have and complaining they have it.


The problem is that you resent them for having something you don't, but instead of addressing that character flaw in yourself, you simply project it onto them. The solution is to investigate yourself and your biases, address them, and not expect other people contort themselves to the image you think they should have because you can't mind your business or control your thoughts.


I'm admitting that poor people don't always look poor and that people who don't act poor get a lot of hate from people who think because they aren't acting poor enough, they must not actually be poor. So I'm admitting if they were performing poverty, that would be an act for your benefit that in no way reflects anything but your desire to be able to look at somebody and judge them as poor.

For me, if somebody is on Snap, knowing what one has to go through to get it and maintain it, I just know they're in need. I don't need them to perform poverty for my benefit. There but for the grace of God goes me or you, so no need for them to sacrifice their dignity for my amusement as apparently you require.
Dang...mic drop
 
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