But is there not a difference between exposure via the arts vs. leveraging institutions to force it through in an unrealistic timeline and circumnavigating the adults to promote and idea to their kids? (that latter is where people really take it personally)
Attempting to accelerate change by leveraging the old Comenius philosophy of "allow me to teach a child until they're 7, and I will show you the man" has not been well-received.
That's where I see a major distinction between the earlier forms of gay advocacy vs. the modern forms of LGBTQ activism.
For the former, it was focused on changing the minds of other adults (which takes longer), but when achieved, they'll teach it to their own children and there won't be any perceptions of usurping.
vs
"These adults aren't going to change their minds in a time table that suits us, so we'll just go around them get the arts and academia institutions to promulgate our views to the kids who are much more easily persuaded -- then it won't matter what their parents think"
To use a religious comparison (I know neither of us is religious, but just pretend)
If I was Catholic and you were Hindu
A) I can try to convince you to (which will be much more difficult -- adults don't budge as easily)...but if I succeeded, you'd eventually teach it to your kid and there wouldn't be much of a conflict.
vs
B) I can convince your kid to be on my side (which would be much easier), but now, you're understandably put-off by that because you feel like you're in competition with a stranger for which values are going to be instilled in your kid.