That's because neither of us are representative of "The US progressive Left"
So the fact you or I don't fit that mold doesn't "dismantle" my argument.
There are people here in the US on the progressive wing that apply a social ruleset that suggests "if you don't sign on to the furthest left premises, that makes you guilty of hate"
...basically any initiative that's done in the name of advancement of a group deemed to be marginalized, if you voice any objection to it, you get the "why do you hate group XYZ?" treatment.
This is 100% true. There are many closed minded people out there (I myself included at times) who say things to the extreme when it doesn't need to be. This whole topics discussion is a prime example. But before I say why, I'll throw out another example that is more local. Our county in Florida is cleaning up some of the "not meant for young eyes to read because they are not mature enough yet to understand" books from the elementary and middle school libraries here. The local newspaper covers the School Board Meetings where these books get either a yea or nay vote as to whether they should be included in the elementary or middle school libraries. And from those who oppose taking these books out of the libraries you hear, "conservative fascist censors". This gets printed in the local newspaper. A not so inflammatory label for the people wanting the books out of the libraries would have been "overly protected parents" but no the opposing side goes straight for the fascist or censoring or cancel culture label. I say calm down people, parents are allowed to state what their child should see and what they shouldn't see. If the opposing side really wanted their child to read that material then buy the book for them.
Now, I'm using the term "the opposing side" because I know all liberals, progressives, Democrats may not agree with what the opposing side wants ("not meant for young eyes to read because they are not mature enough yet to understand" books to be in every library K thru 12). So, as for this discussion's topic here "Love is love" or "Hate has no home here" so the pastor is offended because he feels that those who promote those slogans are labeling him as a hater and a person who doesn't understand that "Love is love". But in this forum and in the world these days, instead of explaining things to one another nicely and non-partisanly our knee jerk reaction is to attack the message. So, let's take the phrase "Love is love". The pastor is actually correct to condemn the statement because English doesn't really break down the different types of love that other languages do such as Greek:
1. Eros: sexual desire
In Ancient Greek mythology, Eros (ἔρως) was a mischievous god of passion and fertility, who was shooting arrows into the hearts of people and immortals and making them feel a sudden overwhelming desire for each other. Although this desire can be interpreted as love, it is primarily physical attraction. That’s where the terms “erotic” and “erotica” came from that nowadays describe human sexuality.
It is common to mistake lust – or sexual desire – for romantic love. Sexual attraction can be a potent and overwhelming sensation, and even fool the brain into questionable decision-making. However, although the sexual desire is not a type of love in and of itself, it is frequently an essential component of love, especially between romantic couples.
2. Philia: soul connection
In contrast to the physical, sexual nature of Eros, Philia (φιλία) is a platonic feeling. This Greek word for love implies spiritual connection, trust, and sharing of the same values. Philia usually grows between friends or family members. While it is not as overwhelming, euphoric, or exciting as Eros, it is often more fulfilling and rewarding in the long term.
Philia is not relegated to non-sexual and non-romantic relationships, however. It is a vital component of romantic love between couples, and any connection without it is not likely to last. A love that features Eros but not Philia is often a possessive, self-centered love.
Ancient Greek philosophers (as well as many psychologists today) believed that the two work best alongside each other, strengthening each other and the bond between two people. Adding Philia to Eros turns a possessive love into one built around shared goals and happiness. The Greek philosopher Plato believed that the combination of Philia and Eros led to the highest form of love – a “friendship between lovers.”
3. Storge: devoted love
Storge (στοργή) can be classified as a variation of Philia and usually relates to love within a family. While the care and devotion of Storge is an integral part of Philia’s connection, it may also be one-sided. An excellent example of Storge is when a parent cares for a child, makes them feel secure, comfortable, and safe, and don’t expect anything in return.
Although Storge may seem like an antidote of Eros, they both tend to be highly natural, biological, and instinctual. Storge usually occurs between married couples who are raising a family together. This form of love is valued in Western culture, particularly within the Christian faith.
4. Pragma: mature love
Although probably the least exciting type of love, Pragma (πράγμα) is an essential component of making relationships work in the long term. Pragma is love based on duty, reason, and shared goals. Like Philia, Pragma is not limited to romantic partnerships, although it is a vital part of romantic love. It is essential within families and even close friendships. Examples of Pragma manifestation are personal sacrifices for your partner’s benefit, making life and career choices that are best for your relationship rather than just yourself, and carrying out the daily chores and tasks needed to maintain a happy home.
Pragma love is perhaps the most difficult to develop and maintain, as it requires continual effort, dedication, and often selflessness. However, the results are often extremely worthwhile in the long-term. Even arranged marriages have been sustained and made satisfying through Pragma, and many failing relationships have been saved.
This type of love can be seen as the day-to-day “admin” of maintaining a relationship, but partnerships without Pragma are unlikely to withstand the challenges of time.
5. Ludus: playful love
Ludus (Παιχνίδια) is another Greek word for love that is perhaps the polar opposite of Pragma. While Pragma is long-term, cerebral, and based around responsibilities, Ludus is carefree and playful love.
Imagine a hedonistic casual relationship that is focused on fun and living in the moment, and you’ll have an excellent example of Ludus. It is often expressed through flirting and teasing, seduction, and casual sex. Although the thrill of sexual conquest is a form of Ludus, these relationships are not necessarily selfish or shallow – they may be fulfilling to both parties if mutual respect is shown, and come with less responsibility and commitment than other kinds of love.
Ludus shares many qualities with Eros, but it is not limited to physical or sexual relationships. Ludus love can also comprise non-sexual activities such as dancing, drinking, and other sensory pleasures that one can enjoy.
6. Mania: obsessive love
Have you ever met anybody obsessed with a particular individual to the point where it seems unhealthy? And maybe you even called them a maniac? Greek philosophers labeled this type of love as Mania (μανία).
It can be combined with sexual and hedonistic Eros and Ludus but will hardly accompany Pragma or Philia. Mania often manifests through anxiety, emotional instability, jealousy, and possessiveness.
These days “mania,” and its derivation “manic” are used in the field of psychiatry to describe components of certain mental illnesses, as well as being used in less formal settings to define hyper obsession or fixation.
Even though a slight obsession can be fairly common during the early stages of a relationship, in the long term, excess of Mania that is unbalanced by other forms of love can lead to dependency and even stalking or violence.
7. Meraki (modern greek): creative endeavors
A modern Greek word, derived from the Turkish “Merak” (μεράκι) means to do something with love, creativity, and devotion when you wholeheartedly put yourself into what you are doing.
Meraki is often used to describe creative or artistic expressions such as painting, singing, or composing music. Also, it can manifest in cooking, decorating a room, or nicely setting up a table.
You do not have to paint a gorgeous portrait of your partner or compose a stunning piece of music for them to express your love. Making a nice dinner is a perfect manifestation of Meraki!
8. Philautia: self-love
The Greek philosopher Aristotle believed that self-love or Philautia (φιλαυτία) is a prerequisite to loving others. Healthy self-love is beneficial to every aspect of life, including relationships, and individuals who love themselves are usually more capable of both giving and receiving all kinds of love.
Many destructive behaviors in a relationship can often be rooted in a lack of self-love. However, self-love can quickly turn into an unhealthy form when a person loves themselves more than anyone else. Unhealthy self-love can be expressed through an inflated ego and usually dependent on social status, abilities, or accomplishments rather than genuine virtues.
Healthy self-love is defined by self-esteem that is not dependent on status or competition with others. Instead, it is based more on forgiveness and acceptance of the self.
People with a healthy level of self-love are not arrogant and do not hold themselves superior to others, but are resilient and accepting of their limitations without feeling ashamed of them. These people are less likely to seek external validation through compulsive behaviors, and as a result, can devote themselves better to relationships.
9. Agape: unconditional love
Agape (ἀγάπη) is an unconditional love that is not dependent on any external factors. Acts of charity and altruism are often born out of Agape love. It seems fair to argue that a society without Agape would be unable to function, as we are dependent on one another as a species.
Agape is the least selfish form of love and does not require anything in return. However, it does also often result in immense benefits to the one practicing it – not just in terms of people reciprocating it with love or rewards, but benefits for the mental and emotional well-being of the practitioner. Practicing Agape love can often increase self-love, and higher levels of healthy self-love usually result in an increased ability to feel and show Agape – it is a cycle!
Greek is one of the richest languages in the world with an extensive vocabulary. However, love is often more complicated than any words can describe.
In our society some loves are noble and beautiful while some loves are just lustful and wrong. As a Christian, we are taught this. Jesus taught this, "There is no greater love than to lay one's life down for another" or "The man and the woman are joined together and the two become one" (I'm paraphrasing here)
So, in presenting this this way, am I a hater, fascist or am I just conveying a truth. Some of the people here unfortunately just want to argue for the sake of arguing. None of them really ever hearing anything you say (which makes sense). They may as well just have an automatic response that says, "I'm tuning your words out, I don't hear you, I am arguing for the sake of arguing". They are arguing against our beliefs and what they feel are contradictory thoughts. God bless you ThatRobGuy, you are making sense and doing good.