zippy2006
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Sure you do. If you tell your three year-old it’s nap time, you expect them to follow you blindly. Again, if they already had the sense to understand that it is nap time and why they need to take a nap, you wouldn’t need to resort to a rule or command at all.What I wouldn't want is for me to give rules and for them to follow them blindly.
Then your answer to the multiple-choice question is B.If I give a rule to my children (or rather if I did) it's because I think that it's valid. I expect it to be obeyed.
Then you still don’t understand the difference between a rule or command and a suggestion or advice. A command about swimming in the dangerous surf is one thing; a lecture or explanation about why one should not swim in the dangerous surf is another thing. If you’ve given the lecture then you have largely obviated the command. The whole point of rules and commands is their bindingness. When our children become adults we stop giving them rules and commands, and start giving them suggestions and advice. But you think rules are themselves suggestions. In any case, I’m repeating myself. This is all covered in my previous post.I'm happy for them to question the rules so I can then give my reasons for making them.
Yep: we give them rules, not suggestions.In my experience children quite often need to be told what to do. We make the choices for them.
Yep, and we stop giving them rules.When they are mature enough we allow them to decide for themselves.
You can't make a choice for your child without hoping that they do it just because you say so. Submit yourself to the law of non-contradiction.We hope that they don't don't do something just because someone says so.
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