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You haven't knocked it down at all.You keep repeating this and I keep knocking it down.
Of course "some parents lose control of their feelings." But that's not why they abuse. Some parents lose control of their feelings and never abuse. Some parents have very strong control of their feelings and still abuse.How can you say that when I just posted evidence that some parents lose control of their feelings.
This portrait of the overwhelmed, disregulated, irrational parent who just "loses control" and that's why they beat their children... it's just not accurate.
Again, you haven't knocked it down at all.You keep saying this but I keep knocking it down.
I'm not saying no abusive parent is ever affected by irrational thinking. But that's not why they abuse. Some parents think irrationally and never abuse. Some parents are entirely rational and still abuse.If the person is thinking irrationally, has a warped perspective due to distress when they are aroused or reactive to situations that trigger agression and abuse then how is that same irrational thinking not effecting them.
Again, this portrait of the overwhelmed, disregulated, irrational parent who just "loses control" and that's why they beat their children... it's just not accurate.
Not necessarily. They may have very rational grounds for believing in this kind of discipline.If the abuser believes damaging a child is good for them then its irrational.
When it comes to abuse, yes. We know - we have a very good profile - of the beliefs which drive abuse, and which distinguish abusers from people who don't abuse.Possibly but I find it strange how every single explanation about the complexity of human behaviour your one stock standard answer is belief, its because of belief, everything is caused by belief and takes precedence.
But the point is the "certain way" that abusers believe. That's the issue. And it's not driven by distress and paranoia for everyone who thinks that way. The distress or paranoia may heighten the way it's acted on, but the beliefs have to be there in the first place, or the distress and paranoia would manifest in different behaviours.How about acknowledging the explanation as it is without all that interjection. It was talking about the distressed parents anxiety and paranoia to think and believe a certain way not because of belief but because of their emotional and psychological disordered thinking.
Please provide evidence of these things giving rise to the very specific beliefs which have been shown to underpin abusive behaviour. (Not just "irrational beliefs" or the like in general).But what you are doing is dismissing a large chunk of the mechanisms that are involved. The stresds and anxiety and perceptions of unreal threat is what creates the belief.
My only point is that you can't just claim that all abusive parents are overwhelmed, thinking irrationally, stressed and distressed to the point where they're not making choices about their behaviour. It's not accurate.What is reasoning, We all can reason but that does not mean the reasoning is rational to begin with.
But the conclusion we might draw from that - that the harm done by corporal punishment therefore outweighs any benefit in terms of discipline - is an ethical judgement, not a scientific one.Then why is the premise of the OP based on a Risk to Mental Health. Then cites a study where the scientific evidence shows that abusive CP causes phsychological harm. Thats based on the scientific facts and not ethics.
Well, as a democracy we do have mechanisms to enshrine majority ethics into law.If it was about ethics then we would have no basis to say its wrong because ethics are subjective, just differing opinions.
I wouldn't tell them they're "imagining things."So a parent claims how good it is to break their kids legs as part of a healthy upbringing to make them a better person you would not tell them they are mistaken in thinking that.
I was pointing out that there was, potentially, some point of connection in that source between your model of abuse, and mine.You can't just pick out the bits you like because they align with your ideaology.
And if that psychological need is felt in someone who also happens to believe in the acceptability of violence, the value of hierarchy and rigid roles, the necessity of power and control... yes, then you have a convergence which could well see abusive behaviour. But it's not just because of the irrational thinking. Demandingness could just as well be expressed in all sorts of other ways, which are not physically abusive.Demandingness doesn't come from nowhere. Its a psychological need for control.
I have never claimed that beliefs come from thin air. I just don't believe they come from most of the things you were positing as "risk factors" for abuse.So as you can see beliefs don't come from thin air,
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