Why do christian women only want tall guys?

[aNewMan]

Reality is a little more complicated and not as predictable as Blackpill Doomers make it out to be online. That’s why there are those sayings “go touch grass” or go outside.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Tom Cruise possessed other qualities that make up for his lack of height like being exceptionally talented at the craft and for being very smart.

You really have to out-do and work harder than the taller guys in order to be seen as equally attractive. That may sound fair but what if you are mediocre in other things as well? Obviously things won't play in your favor. That's why we have "involuntary celibates".

Just because one guy did means you can pull it off too. That's not how things work in the real world that's why there's poor and there's rich. It's even written in the Bible and it's not necessarily from lack of trying, laziness, nor lack of faith. Life's just not fair and even the Bible acknowledges it as well.

Incels are hardly so because they're all short. They AREN'T all short.

There are generalized traits for both sexes that are seen as appealing and unappealing. And for each of those, there are countless exceptions.

People rely too often and too easily on blaming perceived physical shortcomings for relationship or social struggles, when the reality is that it's almost always down to their personality, attitude, or mindset.

 

[dzheremi]

Oh good grief, you guys...I'm 5'5" (165 cm), thanks to having short parents (5'2" and 5'8", respectively), and while I may never have had the experience of women beating down my door for dates, I'm also not a "woe is me" sad sack, so I've done okay. There are women out there who will date you if you're short; you just have to have other qualities that they want in men, which can be hard to develop if you're hyper-focused on how women don't want you because you're too short for them or whatever. Fine. I'm not denying that there are women like that (I don't think anyone would), so guess what? They're as dead to you now as you are to them. Forget about them. Now there are fewer to have to sift through. That's a good thing. To hear some women tell it, being inundated with unwanted and uninspired male attention from men on dating apps, most of whom are desperate to get any attention at all, is a big reason why they end up deleting or going silent on those apps. Try to see it from their perspective, please: if every time you opened Tinder or OKCupid or whatever, you were flooded with a million "Hi"s, "Hey"s, and some things I wouldn't repeat on a Christian website, in very short order you'd burn out and/or become very selective and not shy about stating the selection process up-front, wouldn't you? I know I would, and I've never even used any of those apps, nor of course been a woman. That sounds exhausting even second-hand, but it appears to be the reality for many women in the modern dating scene. The power is definitely tilted their way (always has been; only the methods of selecting have changed), but that's apparently not as great as it sounds.

So y 'know...a little less whining and a little more empathizing and being willing to be discerning yourself (read: don't even bother with women who won't even bother with you; don't send generic messages out in a scattershot fashion; etc.) could do wonders. I can only assume that most men won't do this because they're fixated on the 'unfairness' of it all, which ruins their chances of getting a mate. (Would you want to date someone who presents themselves as a complainer against your entire gender? I wouldn't, since I, like everyone, want to be taken on as an individual).

There's also the reality that many women who are willing to date you are not necessarily the type that you want to date. I've heard some really wild reasons for passing on perfectly normal and decent-seeming women, e.g., "I don't like how close she is to her cats" (wouldn't want to date a crazy cat lady, eh gentlemen?), "she called/texted too much" (the horror! the horror of having a woman want to talk to you!), "she didn't like how much time I spent video gaming/drinking with my friends/smoking marijuana" (never mind that there are women who would conceivably be fine with all of those things, this particular woman you are dating should want to date someone who lives in a way she does not want around her, just because you want her to, I guess? I still don't get this one), etc., etc. My point in all this isn't to say "Therefore no women ever have ridiculous standards for who they'll date", but that everyone does; it's just that women can afford to be more up-front about what they want because the 80-20 rule is in play, and obviously favors them. If the genders that this applied to were reversed, you'd likely see a lot more men with "No fat chicks" (even if they themselves are fat), "No feminists", "No this", "No that" all over their profiles. As it is, generally-speaking the men who do put things like that in their profiles are passed over, because it reads like entitlement to think that you can come on to a dating platform with nothing but your cheetoh-stained fingers and your love of Japanese swords and fedora hats and dictate to women who have perhaps hundreds of way better options than you a click away what they can and cannot be if they want to date you, god's gift to women that you are. NB: this is purposely stereotyping the guy involved, but a lot of guys who don't fit this physical and hobbies description still very much give off strong "entitled gross dork who is delusional about what he brings to the table" vibes, or whatever you'd call it. Entitlement only works when there's enough for everyone to go around. When things get lean (say, because the dating app about you use is 80% or more lonely, schlubby men), and 'hard cuts' have to be made, the majority end up taking it on the chin.

 

[aNewMan]

Oh good grief, you guys...I'm 5'5" (165 cm), thanks to having short parents (5'2" and 5'8", respectively), and while I may never have had the experience of women beating down my door for dates, I'm also not a "woe is me" sad sack, so I've done okay. There are women out there who will date you if you're short; you just have to have other qualities that they want in men, which can be hard to develop if you're hyper-focused on how women don't want you because you're too short for them or whatever. Fine. I'm not denying that there are women like that (I don't think anyone would), so guess what? They're as dead to you now as you are to them. Forget about them. Now there are fewer to have to sift through. That's a good thing. To hear some women tell it, being inundated with unwanted and uninspired male attention from men on dating apps, most of whom are desperate to get any attention at all, is a big reason why they end up deleting or going silent on those apps. Try to see it from their perspective, please: if every time you opened Tinder or OKCupid or whatever, you were flooded with a million "Hi"s, "Hey"s, and some things I wouldn't repeat on a Christian website, in very short order you'd burn out and/or become very selective and not shy about stating the selection process up-front, wouldn't you? I know I would, and I've never even used any of those apps, nor of course been a woman. That sounds exhausting even second-hand, but it appears to be the reality for many women in the modern dating scene. The power is definitely tilted their way (always has been; only the methods of selecting have changed), but that's apparently not as great as it sounds.

So y 'know...a little less whining and a little more empathizing and being willing to be discerning yourself (read: don't even bother with women who won't even bother with you; don't send generic messages out in a scattershot fashion; etc.) could do wonders. I can only assume that most men won't do this because they're fixated on the 'unfairness' of it all, which ruins their chances of getting a mate. (Would you want to date someone who presents themselves as a complainer against your entire gender? I wouldn't, since I, like everyone, want to be taken on as an individual).

There's also the reality that many women who are willing to date you are not necessarily the type that you want to date. I've heard some really wild reasons for passing on perfectly normal and decent-seeming women, e.g., "I don't like how close she is to her cats" (wouldn't want to date a crazy cat lady, eh gentlemen?), "she called/texted too much" (the horror! the horror of having a woman want to talk to you!), "she didn't like how much time I spent video gaming/drinking with my friends/smoking marijuana" (never mind that there are women who would conceivably be fine with all of those things, this particular woman you are dating should want to date someone who lives in a way she does not want around her, just because you want her to, I guess? I still don't get this one), etc., etc. My point in all this isn't to say "Therefore no women ever have ridiculous standards for who they'll date", but that everyone does; it's just that women can afford to be more up-front about what they want because the 80-20 rule is in play, and obviously favors them. If the genders that this applied to were reversed, you'd likely see a lot more men with "No fat chicks" (even if they themselves are fat), "No feminists", "No this", "No that" all over their profiles. As it is, generally-speaking the men who do put things like that in their profiles are passed over, because it reads like entitlement to think that you can come on to a dating platform with nothing but your cheetoh-stained fingers and your love of Japanese swords and fedora hats and dictate to women who have perhaps hundreds of way better options than you a click away what they can and cannot be if they want to date you, god's gift to women that you are. NB: this is purposely stereotyping the guy involved, but a lot of guys who don't fit this physical and hobbies description still very much give off strong "entitled gross dork who is delusional about what he brings to the table" vibes, or whatever you'd call it. Entitlement only works when there's enough for everyone to go around. When things get lean (say, because the dating app about you use is 80% or more lonely, schlubby men), and 'hard cuts' have to be made, the majority end up taking it on the chin.

You brought up many good points!

 

[SarahsKnight]

(Would you want to date someone who presents themselves as a complainer against your entire gender? I wouldn't, since I, like everyone, want to be taken on as an individual).

Amen to that, sir.

 

[aNewMan]

Amen to that, sir.

Sadly, open Misandry is not only accepted in our current secular culture, it is praised. Smh

 

[aNewMan]

For dating, women are only as bad as you allow them to be. I had to learn this the hard way when i was a younger man.

 

[Aaron112]

Sadly, open Misandry is not only accepted in our current secular culture, it is praised. Smh

Very timely note.
More and more frequently this is seen or felt or observed or experienced , whether daily or more or less frequently. Yes, it is praised and promoted and spread and people , even children, are initiated into that sinful direction at a younger and younger age.

 

[Aaron112]

For dating, women are only as bad as you allow them to be. I had to learn this the hard way when i was a younger man.

what ? anyone else outside of ourselves are as bad as they are regardless of what we 'allow', eh?

 

[aNewMan]

what ? anyone else outside of ourselves are as bad as they are regardless of what we 'allow', eh?

I'm specifically just talking about men in a dating situation with a woman. A Man isn't a victim when he allows her bad behavior and doesn't walk away.

 

[Aaron112]

I'm specifically just talking about men in a dating situation with a woman. A Man isn't a victim when he allows her bad behavior and doesn't walk away.

Why isn't that man a victim ? It seems men have been victims for thousands of years to unscrupulous women - remember Balaam's sin ?

 

[aNewMan]

Why isn't that man a victim ?

He's not a victim because a Man (capital M), has/needs to have the power to walk away! There's plenty of fish in the sea. Didnt learn this til i got more experience. It's her loss not mine. There are about 4 Billion women in the world. Men (capital M type) are more scarce to find.

 

[rturner76]

Yes anything under 190cm is consider to be small nowdays. myself i am 185 cm which is average. why is average not enough anymore?

It is enough if you use charima and have a bright future ahead of you. In terms of just looks on their own, I wouldn't want to be judged harshly because nature didn't make me a certain height. I have always been on the tall side but I was also fat so in that situation, I think a woman would prefer a guy who's n shape to a guy who was just simply tall.

As far a Christian women go hmm.......I have a feeling that certain Christian women are "saving themselves" for the prototype of their ideal man. They like to look up and have to stand on their tippy toes when they go to hug or kiss you. It's this idea that you can get exactly what you want if you wate for it. Tall, good looking, nice car, good with kids, goes to church etc. Tall is just one check off their checklist of the man they think will make them happy. As they get older, a few things on that list become less important. But what do I know?

 

[aNewMan]

Anyway yeah, height is just one part of it. Whats more Cringe to me are dudes who have it all, height, looks, even money, but theyre still completely betamale on the inside.

 

[Divide]

Tom Cruise possessed other qualities that make up for his lack of height like being exceptionally talented at the craft and for being very smart.

Plus that they always shoot him from down low up towards him, to make him look bigger. It's about the camera angle and perspective. He's worth over a half Billion dollars so he wont have any trouble with women, except he let the good one go, so there's that Lol.

 

[aNewMan]

Plus that they always shoot him from down low up towards him, to make him look bigger. It's about the camera angle and perspective. He's worth over a half Billion dollars so he wont have any trouble with women, except he let the good one go, so there's that Lol.

Are you talking about Nicole Kidman?

 

[aNewMan]

The problem with having money though is that its not genuine desire.

 

[Divide]

That sounds exhausting even second-hand, but it appears to be the reality for many women in the modern dating scene. The power is definitely tilted their way (always has been; only the methods of selecting have changed), but that's apparently not as great as it sounds.

Oh it is not! The power is not tilted their way. Look at it from a womans perspective, there are more women than men because many died in the war and performing stupid stunts, then nowadays half the men are gay, another half are unskilled lowlife losers and drugg addicts and stuff....Uh, that cuts the size of the pool down very much so for women.
Women greatly outnumber the men. So many sit around lonely. A good man is very hard to find in this day and age so that makes you sort of a rare commiddity then. So you have the power and can be much more selective than she can. I was always very picky with girls. You should be picky with girls. Every time you break up with a GF, you ahould make sure to step up in quality of girl in your next GF. Never step down in class of women you date. Do. Not. Settle. You don't have to.

 

[Divide]

Are you talking about Nicole Kidman?

He's got more than one ex, lol. Poor guy.

Yeah, Nichole Kidman. I think she was a good wife for Tom. He would have profited by keeping her. He needed her in a way I think, lol.

 

[aNewMan]

He's got more than one ex, lol. Poor guy.

Yeah, Nichole Kidman. I think she was a good wife for Tom. He would have profited by keeping her. He needed her in a way I think, lol.

Yeah, not bad for a little Man. Yeah i liked Nicole, but I'm very into tall women. If i have any more kids she's got to be tall because i don't want to bring a short son into the world since short guys have it harder.