You said God is particular about everything referring to those He saves.
What galls me is the notion that God is not particular about anything. God is particular about EVERYTHING. He didn't create and die for a generic group. That's (to me) a ludicrous notion. God's love is VERY particular.
“And He began telling this parable: “A man had a fig tree which had been planted in his vineyard; and he came looking for fruit on it and did not find any. And he said to the vineyard-keeper, ‘Behold, for three years I have come looking for fruit on this fig tree without finding any. Cut it down! Why does it even use up the ground?’ And he answered and said to him, ‘Let it alone, sir, for this year too, until I dig around it and put in fertilizer; and if it bears fruit next year, fine; but if not, cut it down.’ ””
Luke 13:6-9 NASB1995
Yet here Jesus is trying to save this “tree” and yet the outcome is uncertain whether or not it will actually be saved. There are numerous other examples like this.
“Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance? But because of your stubbornness and unrepentant heart you are storing up wrath for yourself in the day of wrath and revelation of the righteous judgment of God,”
Romans 2:4-5 NASB1995
God tried to save these people but became of their stubbornness they are not saved.
“But the testimony which I receive is not from man, but I say these things so that you may be saved.”
John 5:34 NASB1995
Jesus tried to save these people who were seeking to kill Him and didn’t believe.
“Do not think that I will accuse you before the Father; the one who accuses you is Moses, in whom you have set your hope.”
John 5:45 NASB1995
But Moses will be their accuser when they stand before The Father.
No one can come to Christ unless The Father draws them.
“And He was saying, “For this reason I have said to you, that no one can come to Me unless it has been granted him from the Father.””
John 6:65 NASB1995
And yet these people came to Christ and fell away resulting in condemnation.
“If anyone does not abide in Me, he is thrown away as a branch and dries up; and they gather them, and cast them into the fire and they are burned.”
John 15:6 NASB1995
Jesus gave Jezebel the opportunity to be saved and yet she didn’t want to comply.
“I gave her time to repent, and she does not want to repent of her immorality. Behold, I will throw her on a bed of sickness, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless they repent of her deeds.”
Revelation 2:21-22 NASB1995
James said that if one of the “brethren” strays from the truth they are in danger of the death of their soul.
“My brethren, if any among you strays from the truth and one turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.”
James 5:19-20 NASB1995
Paul told the Galatians that they were severed from Christ and had fallen from grace.
“You have been severed from Christ, you who are seeking to be justified by law; you have fallen from grace.”
Galatians 5:4 NASB1995
You can’t be severed from Christ if you were never joined to Him and you can’t fall from grace if it hasn’t been bestowed to you.
Paul told Timothy that if they denied Christ, He would deny them.
“If we endure, we will also reign with Him; If we deny Him, He also will deny us;”
2 Timothy 2:12 NASB1995
Paul said that people who have been grafted into God’s covenant can be broken off and grafted back in if they repent.
“But if some of the branches were broken off, and you, being a wild olive, were grafted in among them and became partaker with them of the rich root of the olive tree, do not be arrogant toward the branches; but if you are arrogant, remember that it is not you who supports the root, but the root supports you. You will say then, “Branches were broken off so that I might be grafted in.” Quite right, they were broken off for their unbelief, but you stand by your faith. Do not be conceited, but fear; for if God did not spare the natural branches, He will not spare you, either. Behold then the kindness and severity of God; to those who fell, severity, but to you, God’s kindness, if you continue in His kindness; otherwise you also will be cut off. And they also, if they do not continue in their unbelief, will be grafted in, for God is able to graft them in again.”
Romans 11:17-23 NASB1995
Apparently according to the scriptures God has bestowed His grace to many who will not be saved and it’s not only mentioned in one or two verses but numerous times throughout the scriptures.