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[Walk K.]

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[dzheremi]

You're going to let a hypothetical that is never going to happen destroy your relationship? Yeesh. Sounds like it won't take $10 million dollars to do it in, so yeah, probably an overreaction.

 

[pescador]

I hope that your relationship is stronger than this. $10,000,000 is obviously a ridiculous, exaggerated amount. I wouldn't take her so seriously. If you love her, forgive her and move on.

 

[dqhall]

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. How should I go about discussing this with her?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.

If you marry her, you might need a prenuptial agreement.

 

[Albion]

Yes, you are blowing it out of proportion.

 

[pescador]

If you marry her, you might need a prenuptial agreement.

Saying that she won't have sex outside of marriage for $10,000,000?

 

[Ophiolite]

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. How should I go about discussing this with her?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.

Just a thought. Would you do it for $100 million? Think of all the good you do for good causes, all the people you could help. No? OK, how about $1 billion? Would you? If you even hesitate in saying, absolutely no, then do you have a right to get upset at your girlfriend.

 

[trophy33]

I hope that your relationship is stronger than this. $10,000,000 is obviously a ridiculous, exaggerated amount. I wouldn't take her so seriously. If you love her, forgive her and move on.

Yeah, its absurd and maybe she meant it as a half-joke.

On the other hand, she basically said she would be willing to prostitute herself under some conditions, so I understand the confusion from the point of view of @Walk K.

They should probably talk about it more. Maybe its just a misunderstanding. Or, it may be a signal that something is not right with her. He needs more info from her, not just one sentence.

 

[Desk trauma]

Am I blowing this out of proportion?

Yes.

 

[bekkilyn]

Yes, definitely overreacting. Not to mention that there are many other much worse things that people would do or have done for 10 million dollars (or less).

 

[GreekOrthodox]

There are also FB bets that I can't live in a lakeside cabin without Internet or electricity by myself for a month for $1M. So far no one is really offering that to me.

 

[Hazelelponi]

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. How should I go about discussing this with her?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.

While hypothetical, I would consider the placement of a monetary value on what is supposed to be sacred (only for the covenant of marriage) a misalignment of Christian values if she was serious.

It rather sounds like you both need a relationship with God and his people instead of focusing so much on worldly things.

Whether or not you should leave her for the thought; just the fact you brought up the topic shows you're not so perfect yourself, so you'd be better off forgiving her and instead seeking for you both to put a little more seriousness into faith.

 

[RDKirk]

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. How should I go about discussing this with her?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.

How serious do you really think she was about a hypothetical situation that would never happen? She even upped the ante, identified fidelity as a roadblock, and added that an actual attraction would necessary. Clearly she's not making a serious statement of basic values.

 

[partinobodycular]

On the other hand, she basically said she would be willing to prostitute herself under some conditions, so I understand the confusion from the point of view of @Walk K.

So what!

Women have been prostituting themselves for millennia under the auspices of the church. They married out of need, or duty, or coercion, or social convention, which the church seems to think are perfectly reasonable motivations for a loving, caring, mutually enriching relationship.

 

[Astrid]

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. How should I go about discussing this with her?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.

People sign up for the military knowing they may be
called on to kill people.
Presuming to do good?
Americans are sent into one war after another.

She could take the ten million and do so much
good for kids in the third world.
The sin would be to do otherwise.

 

[partinobodycular]

If you love her, forgive her and move on.

Forgive her?

I rather think it's she who should forgive him.

 

[eleos1954]

I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. How should I go about discussing this with her?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.

You can only have conversation with her about it.

We often say "stupid things".

Probably wise to ferret out how the two of you intended to live your lives together in Christ and see if you are on the same page in regard to that.

Where will you go to church? if that is desired by the both of you
Children ... when and how will they be raised.
Work
Schooling
Finances

Lot's of things to consider .... what are the mutual goals and the steps forward to obtain them?

 

[trophy33]

So what!

Woman have been prostituting themselves for millennia under the auspices of the church. They married out of need, or duty, or coercion, or social convention, which the church seems to think are perfectly reasonable motivations for a loving, caring, mutually enriching relationship.

Marriage (even when made for rational reasons instead of romantic feelings) is not a prostitution, because marriage is a monogamous covenant for life. Which is the opposite to prostitution which is a one time transaction of sex for money.

 

[partinobodycular]

Marriage (even when made for rational reasons instead of romantic feelings) is not a prostitution, because marriage is a monogamous covenant for life. Which is the opposite to prostitution.

So a meaningless, loveless, only for personal benefit, relationship is justified by it's length?

 

[Astrid]

Forgive her?

I rather think it's she who should forgive him.

Or better, look elsewhere.