Disowning my emotions to make single life easier

[StarCrossed213]

I may have found the right answer regarding my emotional problems with being single an lonely.

I have prayed this prayer not too long ago, similar to what this said in the following:

Dear Lord, I solemnly swear a personal oath to completely disown my emotions. I hereby declare myself completely free of them, until a day comes when they will, for once, be useful and profitable. I declare the departure of my emotions from my mind and body effective immediately. I also apply apathy when it comes to crossing paths with beautiful women, and the reminder that I am still single. I hereby disown both positive and negative hope of one day being coupled with a woman, until such hope becomes useful again, while completely separated from the emotional pain that often comes with it. Amen.

On a more sarcastic note, from the makes of appendectomies, now we have made available: Emotionectomies, for the uprooting of all the sources of our relationship problems and failures.

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[ABCthings]

Another thread. So you're now free of emotions. Happy Robotic Life!

 

[Sketcher]

This is impossible and unhealthy. It's also, ultimately, an emotional decision.

I understand the desire to kill emotions. Strong emotions (infatuation and anger especially) get me into trouble. But if I were emotionless, I wouldn't be able to enjoy humor, or enjoy visiting my nephews and niece, or feel good about getting a challenging task done.

The one good thing about what you posted is that since emotions themselves are useful and profitable every day, you would not be under it from day 0 of taking it.

 

[bèlla]

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[tdidymas]

I may have found the right answer regarding my emotional problems with being single an lonely.

I have prayed this prayer not too long ago, similar to what this said in the following:

Dear Lord, I solemnly swear a personal oath to completely disown my emotions. I hereby declare myself completely free of them, until a day comes when they will, for once, be useful and profitable. I declare the departure of my emotions from my mind and body effective immediately. I also apply apathy when it comes to crossing paths with beautiful women, and the reminder that I am still single. I hereby disown both positive and negative hope of one day being coupled with a woman, until such hope becomes useful again, while completely separated from the emotional pain that often comes with it. Amen.

On a more sarcastic note, from the makes of appendectomies, now we have made available: Emotionectomies, for the uprooting of all the sources of our relationship problems and failures.

213

A way to control emotions is to dispel vain fantasies, which requires clear communications with the person you are involved in. A way many people get hurt is that their fantasies get out of control, and one day their vanity balloon is popped. Just because you're with a person for some time, doesn't mean you really know them. Don't know if this is your situation, I'm just making a suggestion.
TD

 

[GOD Shines Forth!]

And I stay away from things that disrupt my mindset and force my thoughts to descend from higher places to the pit. Whether that’s books, programs, people or discussions. I leave it alone. Ministering to my mind and heart is a form of self-care that I practice diligently.

This really spoke to me. Thank you

 

[bèlla]

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[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

You probably were being facetious with what you said, but I'm going to be one of the few here that think your attitude about these things is more on target with a biblical mindset than what many people realize.

Matthew 16:24-25 says, "Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it."

The Greek word used for "life" in those verses is "psuchen" which is translated soul. This goes to the heart of what the Christian 'exchanged life' principle is all about. It's not necessarily operating like a robot with zero feelings at all. But it's dying to what our own emotions are and letting the life and feelings of Christ dictate our lives and experience. I believe this "Lord, thy will be done" attitude pleases Him. There's no other way to live out what Paul wrote in Philippians 3:10 than coming to this conclusion, by the way.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Why are Christians so 'absolute' and black and white with things? Why can't they just relax and take things in their stride instead of seeing everything as a mission statement? It MUST be this, or it HAS to be that... Why? If God's got your back then why wouldn't you just act natural?

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Why are Christians so 'absolute' and black and white with things?

Because when you are drowning in nihilism you are dying for the absolute because the absolute knows and we all need that certainty.

 

[bèlla]

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[Niels]

Instead of disowning your emotions, choose to be joyful. Seek it out. You don't need to deny or feel good about bad things that happen. Acknowledge them for what they are. Bad things are bad, but try not to focus on them. Recognize that beauty is beautiful, and leave it at that. You are one of God's creatures, in a remarkable world with much to be discovered and appreciated. Find joy where you can in life, and pay attention to those things. This may be challenging at times, but it's a worthy challenge.

 

[Rigatoni]

I may have found the right answer regarding my emotional problems with being single an lonely.

I have prayed this prayer not too long ago, similar to what this said in the following:

Dear Lord, I solemnly swear a personal oath to completely disown my emotions. I hereby declare myself completely free of them, until a day comes when they will, for once, be useful and profitable. I declare the departure of my emotions from my mind and body effective immediately. I also apply apathy when it comes to crossing paths with beautiful women, and the reminder that I am still single. I hereby disown both positive and negative hope of one day being coupled with a woman, until such hope becomes useful again, while completely separated from the emotional pain that often comes with it. Amen.

On a more sarcastic note, from the makes of appendectomies, now we have made available: Emotionectomies, for the uprooting of all the sources of our relationship problems and failures.

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I read your other previous threads, in order to get a better idea of the overall picture of what's going on. I know you shared your bipolar, feel like God is imaginary, and have had bad experiences with other Christians in the past. I'm sure you're frustrated, but this solution you came up with is not going to work. Also, a relationship with a woman - no matter how awesome she may be - may help, but will not fully resolve that deep loneliness and longing we all have. Nor can we put high expectations on other Christians to be completely perfect and all-loving; we're all imperfect and in a lifelong process of sanctification.

Fellowship and intimacy with God is the only thing that will genuinely cure loneliness. To many that may seem like a canned answer, but it's true and it works, even based on my own experience. Fellowship with God will also help alleviate that feeling of Him seeming imaginary or distant.

Allocate time during the day to having fellowship with God and building your relationship with Him, preferably 30 minutes to an hour or more. Talk to Him as you would a close friend; tell Him everything and be honest. Although, don't just pray, but take time to listen for His reply - that's the secret to fellowship with God that many aren't willing to do. Ask Him questions and wait on His reply, or get into the Bible and let Him speak to you as you read. Ask for specific things and wait in expectation for the fulfillment of your request, perhaps small things in the beginning such as an unexpected blessing. This is faith in action. It may take time and perseverance, but it will work; you're awareness of God will increase, and feelings of loneliness will decrease. The question is: Are you willing to do it?

 

[tdidymas]

Why are Christians so 'absolute' and black and white with things? Why can't they just relax and take things in their stride instead of seeing everything as a mission statement? It MUST be this, or it HAS to be that... Why? If God's got your back then why wouldn't you just act natural?

I've seen many people practicing sins just acting natural. Since Jesus told us to deny ourselves, we often need to see things black and white. Guilt and shame are good things, if they are used to drive us toward Christlike behavior and faith toward God.
TD

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

Emotions make wonderful servants but horrible masters. What do I mean by that? There are a lot of people who let their feelings dictate the way they live when this shouldn’t be the case.

What I would submit is the fact that God has prescribed one way to consistent moment-by-moment victory. And that way is the way of faith and obedience, never the way of emotions. It is applying the biblical steps in proper order: Truth, faith, behavior, and feelings. If at points in our experience that are feelings are reluctant to line up, rain on them! Even though feelings will come, you can walk in complete victory (as God wills) without them.

 

[ReesePiece23]

I've seen many people practicing sins just acting natural. Since Jesus told us to deny ourselves, we often need to see things black and white. Guilt and shame are good things, if they are used to drive us toward Christlike behavior and faith toward God.
TD

Guilt is a HORRENDOUS motivator. It's exactly the thing this faith needs to stamp out once and for all, because it just doesn't work.

I'm a sinful human, just as God planed. To be anything else WOULD ALSO BE sinful (and possibly worse). As I said, it's best to just be natural and live our lives, giving every endeavour our best shot. Keep God in the loop at all times - pray constantly, and if you stumble, know that you were meant to.

The whole point is to build our OWN story. The meaning of life is as simple as that.

 

[bèlla]

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[tdidymas]

Guilt is a HORRENDOUS motivator. It's exactly the thing this faith needs to stamp out once and for all, because it just doesn't work.

I'm a sinful human, just as God planed. To be anything else WOULD ALSO BE sinful (and possibly worse). As I said, it's best to just be natural and live our lives, giving every endeavour our best shot. Keep God in the loop at all times - pray constantly, and if you stumble, know that you were meant to.

The whole point is to build our OWN story. The meaning of life is as simple as that.

Hmm, if you didn't feel guilty for your sins, why would you seek a savior from them?
TD

 

[ReesePiece23]

Hmm, if you didn't feel guilty for your sins, why would you seek a savior from them?
TD

To many, Jesus is a saviour - and He is, no doubt. But to me, he's my ONLY role model, and a good teacher never, EVER uses guilt to motivate His student.

I'm probably not as vocal about it as I should be, but Jesus IS the greatest teacher, philosophiser, leader and motivator who ever lived. My respect for Him allows me to give everything my best shot - after all, it's not only what He not only died for, it's also what He LIVED for.

Sin (or life lessons) are just as critical to success as God-like actions are.

 

[tdidymas]

To many, Jesus is a saviour - and He is, no doubt. But to me, he's my ONLY role model, and a good teacher never, EVER uses guilt to motivate His student.

I'm probably not as vocal about it as I should be, but Jesus IS the greatest teacher, philosophiser, leader and motivator who ever lived. My respect for Him allows me to give everything my best shot - after all, it's not only what He not only died for, it's also what He LIVED for.

Sin (or life lessons) are just as critical to success as God-like actions are.

Jesus rebuked His disciples many times. He said "get behind me, Satan" to Peter. He rebuked the religious leaders many times, saying things like "you are children of the devil." He said "fear Him who can destroy both your body and soul in hell." In anger He said to people in the temple "you have turned My Father's house into a den of thieves." Does this fit your role model?
TD