What's on your mind?

[James of Arc]

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[CodyFaith]

You sure do. Now you have to track the 359 alerts that DIDN'T register in your alerts.

(Or am I the only one missing alerts and not being notified?)

It only keeps you updated on the first post in a thread, unless your being quoted.

For example, in my "post cute things" thread I was notified of the first "reply" to the thread, but wasn't notified on the other 3/4 replies after the first one. If someone were to have quoted one of my posts though, I'd be notified on that aswell.

The exception is when you view the thread after you've received the alert that someone replied to a thread. Then it will once again tell you that the thread's been replied to after you've viewed it. If two people post after you've viewed it, you'll only see the one reply in your alerts.

 

[Toro]

It only keeps you updated on the first post in a thread, unless your being quoted.

For example, in my "post cute things" thread I was notified of the first "reply" to the thread, but wasn't notified on the other 3/4 replies after the first one. If someone were to have quoted one of my posts though, I'd be notified on that aswell.

The exception is when you view the thread after you've received the alert that someone replied to a thread. Then it will once again tell you that the thread's been replied to after you've viewed it. If two people post after you've viewed it, you'll only see the one reply in your alerts.

No Im not getting alerts at all some times.

 

[CodyFaith]

No Im not getting alerts at all some times.

Ok, I rephrase my answer to this: CF Admins like to mess with you for giggles.

 

[Toro]

Since when did I return to dial up?

 

[Swan7]

Since when did I return to dial up?

likewise....

 

[SarahsKnight]

aw you are sweet lol

Not really. ^-^

Every single guy here would naturally be a little envious of the one who's got the heart of Miss Deidre.

 

[mojoboy31]

While I agree, I don't believe any piece of hay is worth the pain and trouble of digging through needles.
Just to beat this metaphor into the ground.

I disagree with you on that one. Few things worth doing are easy. The greater the risk, the greater the reward. Can't let fear of hurt stop us-- and can't let pessimism like: "it won't be worth it" stop us either.

You sure do. Now you have to track the 359 alerts that DIDN'T register in your alerts.

(Or am I the only one missing alerts and not being notified?)

That happens to me all the time. I get a few notifications, but checking the threads, I see tons with new posts that I wasn't told about.

 

[Swan7]

That happens to me all the time. I get a few notifications, but checking the threads, I see tons with new posts that I wasn't told about.

Agreed, it's super annoying! lol!

 

[Noxot]

well if we always got notified for every single post we would then complain about getting spammed by alerts

 

[Toro]

well if we always got notified for every single post we would then complain about getting spammed by alerts

I never did.

Of course I was never one to complain outside of lolcat memes......

 

[CodyFaith]

human stahp.

oh man. so funny.

 

[MotherFirefly]

I disagree with you on that one. Few things worth doing are easy. The greater the risk, the greater the reward. Can't let fear of hurt stop us-- and can't let pessimism like: "it won't be worth it" stop us either.

Perhaps.
I know the lines of pessimism and realism can get blurry, but I liken it to jumping off a building to get a cookie on the ground. Sure you might survive and enjoy a fleeting moment, but in the end, was it really worth it?

lol, don't mind me. I am being neurotic. I have plenty to work on myself before I can consider trying to be there for someone else, anyway.

Suffice to say - singles' forum, you will be seeing more of me.

 

[Toro]

Perhaps.
I know the lines of pessimism and realism can get blurry, but I liken it to jumping off a building to get a cookie on the ground. Sure you might survive and enjoy a fleeting moment, but in the end, was it really worth it?

lol, don't mind me. I am being neurotic. I have plenty to work on myself before I can consider trying to be there for someone else, anyway.

Suffice to say - singles' forum, you will be seeing more of me.

Its only likened to that of jumping off a roof for a cookie if its the wrong person.

If you are with a user, a liar/manipulator. A selfish person that plays games ETC...... then you're right, its not worth it.

However if you don't play games and dont accept games to be played and deal honest and openly from day one, it can be a beautiful thing and more like simply standing up to take the cookie off the counter instead.

Society is what makes its like roof jumping. Honesty and openness make it simple. Put forth effort, get rewarded... greatly.

Thats not to say that finding people as such is easy, but.... thats why you don't put up with games. Life is too short to wear masks with those you want to share the deepest connection with..... its not worth the time wasted to spend on those that wear them.

Yes, even the "Oh it hasnt been 5 days" or "Dont seem to eager to get to know them" is game playing that everyone is told they "must play"

The more important thing is to not come off as psycho, there is a difference between letting someone know "I really like you" and "I WANT TO COLLECT YOUR BELLY BUTTON LINT!"

 

[mojoboy31]

Perhaps.
I know the lines of pessimism and realism can get blurry, but I liken it to jumping off a building to get a cookie on the ground. Sure you might survive and enjoy a fleeting moment, but in the end, was it really worth it?

lol, don't mind me. I am being neurotic. I have plenty to work on myself before I can consider trying to be there for someone else, anyway.

Suffice to say - singles' forum, you will be seeing more of me.

It might look like that- it's a leap of faith. You jump and pray to God you can fly.

We all have plenty to work on- you're never going to be "perfect"- in the same way your love interest will never be perfect.

 

[MotherFirefly]

Thank you for the wisdom, gentlemen.

Perhaps the trickiest part will be finding a man with ideals similar to yours, who don't live half way across the country/world, yes?

My only counter-comment would be, while agreeing that honesty is key, it is important that rather than 'games', you instead have tactful placement of when you do or don't open up.
To put it bluntly, I am not going to open my heart to someone I just met, as that is just asking for the 'game players' to rip it to shreds.

Honesty in small increments, you might say.
That's not to say you should ever lie, but rather keep it to a slow pace.

 

[Toro]

No you dont open up to anyone sending you red flags, but you can be open and honest while still being cautious until you're comfortable. If you see no red flags its important that you dont let past relationships poison new ones by making the new person pay for the mistakes of the old person, they arent them.

People from the past are just that. They may have ruined your then..... thats no reason to GIVE them the power to ruin your now.

 

[CodyFaith]

I love Jesus.

That's what's OMM.

 

[MehGuy]

Are y'all in secret conversation groups that I am not a part of? Lol.

 

[Toro]

Are y'all in secret conversation groups that I am not a part of? Lol.

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