It's sinful to touch even if it's without lust.
That is a false assertion I can contradict with multiple witnesses of first hand experience.
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It's sinful to touch even if it's without lust.
Yes, how helpful. Telling people who have spent countless hours masturbating because they couldn't make friends in the real world and turned to porn because they were lonely, desperate and seeking companionship and thought they had to sexualize it that they are obsessing with this too much really helps to solve the problem. Of course ISIS is more important, but we don't have to talk about them 24/7, now do we? At least THEY get to leave as martyrs.
That is a false assertion I can contradict with multiple witnesses of first hand experience.
Like I said... it's self inflicted and it's circular in nature. If these teachings didn't exist you wouldn't need to tie your hands down to keep from touching yourself or cry till Jesus forgives you over something as simple and meaningless as rubbing yourself.
Lot's of things have long been associated with Christianity, like sexism and racism and it took us years to fix that crap and maybe one day this will get fixed too.
If that's how you read it, then you misread my post. It was not directed at people for masturbating, it's directed at the religion that obsesses over the subject and teaches people to obsess over it just as they do. But if someone is obsessed with it, would the responsible thing be to encourage that obsession? Of course not.
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I'm not guilty about "rubbing myself". I'm guilty over the fact that I have sexualized other people, made them into these false gods that they really aren't
and having wasted so much of my time doing it because I was too socially inept. I also blame the culture for giving me this impression that I need to have sex or else I was a loser. But I was never socially adept enough to engage in that sort of activity, so I did the next best thing, and I became addicted.
You're right, sometimes people make it out to be worse than it really is. To God every sin is the same.
And I'd really like you to stop mocking my struggles. I thought you liberals (you seem to be one to me, at least theologically) were supposed to be kind and tolerant and sympathetic. I'm not seeing that here, just, "Oh, what an idiot, getting yourself all worked up over sex".
Have you been through this stuff? If you haven't then I'm not surprised you'd be so dismissive about it.
I don't see how masturbation, if done in conjunction with porn or lustful thoughts, isn't a sin. The act itself doesn't matter.
And how can I be sure that people like you are just telling yourselves that masturbating to porn isn't a sin just so that you can squelch the thought of guilt? To the Christian, guilt over sin doesn't come from an "oppressive culture"--it comes from our God-given consciences. It says right in the Bible that our bodies were not made for sexual immorality. I was not put on this Earth just so that I could sit around and look at porn all day.
"Intolerant and destructive ideas", huh? Great, thanks for confirming my other major OCD fear--namely, that I'm basically an ideological terrorist for not wanting to worship sex.
If you're trying to get at obsessions, then I guess that makes more sense.
I have OCD, and I've herd it theorized that sexual addiction--if such a thing exists--could be seen as another form of OCD. I think mine was certainly OCD-based. I felt like I "needed" to keep finding things to touch to--otherwise there was just something "wrong" with me. I still get those feelings from time to time, and if I didn't have those feelings then I would touch much less. If you know anything about OCD, then you'd know that just leaving it up in the air is a bad idea for any OCD sufferer. I would prefer concrete rules that would let me know whether or not I am sinning, and if so what do I do about it.
After everything I've been through, I'd say I AM sinning. Maybe it's not the same way for everyone, but it certainly has been for me. I would LIKE to learn how to STOP feeling like I "need" some sort of sexual gratification, but instead I get people telling me how pathetic I am for even TRYING to please God by eliminating sinful thoughts/desires.
Ok. Look, consider another God-given appetite: the hunger for food. Is it possible to misuse one's capacity for eating? You bet, but for whatever reason, people usually don't obsess about the sinfulness of it. Is it possible to adopt a more strict and religious mindset on the subject? It's happened in the past: ascetics of various religions have been known to starve themselves, sometimes even to death.
But, imagine how psychologically torturous it could be to be terrified of a God which is supposedly angered over everyone's hunger for food: we wouldn't be able to stop getting hungry, so we might become convinced that we are hopelessly full of sin because of that, and every bite could lead to a "spiritual" struggle between life and death. Fortunately that's not what God is like, according to the Bible, but for some reason it doesn't seem to be very far from how Western Christianity approaches the subject of sexuality these days.
If you don't have that information and no one has been able to provide you with it then this is definitely self inflicted. You should set the issue down and pursue this with god on your own. Earlier you told me that you didn't want to be someone controlled by society's trends but now you say are frustrated because no one in your society has a rule to give you that just solves the whole thing for you.All I know is that lust is clearly a sin, and so is sexual immorality in general. But nobody will ever tell me what that is.
What am I supposed to do, though? Make something up myself? I don't live like that. I'd rather have clear, definite rules
Yes, I am sure that many of us can testify to the benefits of masturbation and we aren't going to hell.
You're right. But the thing is, sex isn't necessary for survival. You won't die if you don't have sex. Maybe that was the logic in later phases of Christian thought.
I guess Hebrews 12.2 is relevant.I have been struggling with this same question/issue for years. When I was married, I think it may have been right to be convicted of it being wrong because I had a partner. Now I am divorced, no one in the picture, and cannot marry again (many reasons NOT for discussion here). So I'm not taking away from a spouse, cheating anyone of what should be theirs, nor hurting anyone by masturbating.
So if I am single, live alone, have no thoughts of a person, do not use pornography, etc. (which are all true) is it Biblically wrong to touch? I do it because it feels so good and relaxes me. I even thought about getting one of those vibrators to get where I can't reach (if you get the drift)...again, because it would feel so wonderful to have something inside, giving me a climactic thrill that I will never in my lifetime experience again by a person. (I am against sex outside of marriage!) Three things stop me from getting a vibrating sex toy: cost; someone would find it after I die so it wouldn't be my secret then; and it would just be my luck that the thing would get stuck, break, or cause a physical problem and then I'd have to explain to a doctor which would be embarrassing.
Most of the time, sex wasn't that great when I was married, but there were one or two times (in 36 years) that it was awesome and didn't want it to end. I want to feel that experience again, and since I don't/can't have a spouse, what's wrong with meeting my own needs in a responsible manner?
I've heard and read both sides of the issue and am not convinced it is wrong. If I was convinced it is wrong, then I'd have to give it up somehow or I would be convicted. But right now I'm not convicted. I had gone months without doing it, fell into it one day, and again months went by. But earlier this week, the compulsion to do it became so strong and the release felt so good that I've done it several times.
Someone even said to me that if you're questioning whether something is right or wrong, then you have your doubts about it, and you're being convicted. I'm not so sure that reasoning is correct either because you can have an honest question about something and the answer might be it is not sin, so in that case, a question is not conviction.
I tried talking to a former pastor about this, but even though he said I could tell him anything, this was out of his comfort zone. He prayed for me, but we never talked about it, so I didn't get any help there. I know my present pastor would not be comfortable discussing it either, and after the first pastor's reaction/response, I don't want to attempt it again. I shared it with a female acquaintance (a pastor's wife) who I knew but didn't live nearby, and asked her to hold me accountable, but after a few times, she did not contact me again. I saw her a year later and neither of us said anything about it.
Well, that's enough for now. The more I talk about it, the more I want to go do it again. I'm signing off for tonight. I hope someone sees this and responds.
Well, you'd be wrong. Sex is necessary for the survival of the species.
Have you any conclusions yet?Ok everyone,
This is a serious question.
Has anyone looked into the so-called release of tension through touching yourself that has nothing to do with lust, but rather as a stress relief? I don't have time to at work, but I'm hoping someone will look around to see if it exists. LMK.
I'm curious....
You're right. But the thing is, sex isn't necessary for survival. You won't die if you don't have sex. Maybe that was the logic in later phases of Christian thought.
All I know is that lust is clearly a sin, and so is sexual immorality in general. But nobody will ever tell me what that is.
What am I supposed to do, though? Make something up myself? I don't live like that. I'd rather have clear, definite rules.
Have you any conclusions yet?