Huh?
First of all, why would you start with video #3 and not video #1?
In any case, contextually, "Esau have I hated" is definitely about the nation of Edom. Read where it was originally said in Malachi, more than 1,000 years after Esau was dead, for context and don't let heretics like Calvin deceive you.
I wasn't ready to devote 50 min. for deliverance from heresy hell, I guess. With that many videos, I had to perform triage & I figured from my experience that 1& 2 were intro & warm up to the meat of detail, so I took a shot, not willing to abruptly dismiss you on account of some loveable bombast about Calvin, lol.
"In any case", you're re-iterating what I agreed to - that Esau & Jacob
are about nations, but that whole issue between nations was in the context of the individual destinies. So it is in Paul's instance to back up his assertions of God's sovereignity - over every lump of clay, so to speak.
Malachi's reference in contrast to Paul's, was not about the individuals & their sovereignly concluded destinies, rather Malachi is addressing the sins of the nation (by way of the pristhood) offering defective instead of unblemished animals, etc.
Paul was using the example to point out God's sovereignity in grace & election, which is not limited to nations (which are simply collections of individuals).
Not all views of predestination are incompatible with moral responsibility but in any case, I understand the concern & how it impacts our sense of self, to contemplate the limits of our abilities to control ourselves.
Paul goes on to repeat his point on God's sovereignity with the clay example, voicing the complaint about being held moraly responsible after being molded by God. Paul sais it's a matter of jurisdiction by way of saying we have no standing before God on our own merits ("Who art tho~) & in verses 22&23 explains why God does all this to us who would judge God to be on an ego trip.