Calvinism's TULIP- Doesn't it contradict free will
What do you mean by "Free will"?
Not at all. You can love someone with a special love in such a way that you don't automatically not love everyone else. For example, I love my wife in a special, unique, different way than I love all the other women in the world. I am commanded to love all fellow humans (including women). But a special love is reserved for my wife. I don't treat other women the way I treat my wife.
In like manner, Christ loves his bride the way a husband loves his. He has a special love for her. He "gave himself up for her", and "purchased the church with his blood". God loves everyone, but he has a special love for the elect. He isn't being unloving the non-elect, he's simply being specially loving towards his wife. The bible says God gives gifts to all men such as the sunshine and rain, both to the just and the unjust. But he doesn't give every gift to every man. The gift of salvation is for those he has a special love. He isn't obligated to give salvation to anyone at all. And if he gives salvation to one person, it doesn't obligate him to then give salvation to someone else, too. Nobody has claims on God's salvation. He owns it. It is His.
If God wants everyone to be saved (1 Timothy 2:4), why doesn't He elect everyone?
First, I'd challenge you on your understanding of that verse. Let me give you two answers.
1) Let's say by the phrase "desires all men to be saved", Paul really does mean "all individuals in the human race". This is how non-Calvinists typically interpret this verse. For the sake of the argument, let's say they are correct.
God can both 1) be willing that all men be saved and also 2) choose to not save everyone. This is true of both Calvinism and non-Calvinism.
In both Calvinism and Arminianism, it can be said that God desires all individuals to be saved. Yet both of these systems are not universalism. God could save everyone if he wanted to. So the fact that God only saves some people is true of both Calvinism and Arminianism.
So if God wants everyone to be saved, what is stopping him?
What is stopping him in Arminianism?:
In Arminianism, the thing that is stopping Him from saving everyone is man's free will. So God can desire all men to be saved, but he has another desire that over-rides this desire, and that desire is: man's free will
What's stopping him in Calvinism?
In Calvinism, the thing that is stopping him from saving everyone is because He wants to express his grace freely. In other words, His own free will is stopping him. But this is not arbitrary. The Bible gives good reasons for why God wants to be in control of salvation. For example, 1 Corinthians says that if God chooses who is saved, he removes grounds for human boasting, and only God can take credit for salvation. Also, in Romans 9 it says that if God chooses who is saved, then He is controlling how his mercy and wrath are being glorified. Those sound like pretty good reasons.
In both systems, God can desire to save all men, but then another desire of God's swoops in and overrides the first desire.
The above is John Piper's answer.
#2) My answer is simply that you are interpreting 1 Tim 2:4 wrongly. The Greek word "pas" which we translate into English as "all" is a flexible word, and it commonly refers to "all in the group I am talking about" or "all kinds". In the context, Paul is defending his ministry to the gentiles (a kind of person), hence he says God desires all men (both jews and gentiles) to be saved, therefore, I will minister to the gentiles. Further, Paul says that we should pray for people, such as kings and those in authority. Those are kinds of people. He immediately follows this with "Because God desires all men to be saved". In other words, God even desires kings and those in authority to be saved. God desires to save all kinds of people. This phrase doesn't necessarily mean that God desires to save every single individual, but rather, all kinds of people. Jews, Gentiles, people in authority, kings, peasants, the rich, the poor. Nobody is excluded from salvation based on their social status.
So you see, no matter which way you understand 1 Tim 2:4, the verse doesn't do anything to disprove Calvinism, nor does it do anything to prove Arminianism.
And because total depravity is true, God is the only one who can save us. So, why doesn't He elect everyone? If He really loved everyone, why wouldn't He choose everyone?
Answered above.
And how do we have free will to choose God (Joshua 24:15), with total depravity? And since God is the only one who predestines, doesn't that negate free will to choose? And further more, don't Irresistible Grace and Monergism completely destroy free will? Since we have no option to reject (Irresistible Grace), and we have no choice to choose God (total depravity and Monergism).[
First, what do you mean by free will?
Calvinists affirm that man has a will. We believe man makes choices, and we believe man chooses what he/she desires.
Regarding Irresistible grace, you said "we have no choice to choose God". That is false. We make a real, true, free will choice to choose God. The will is not absent in salvation. It is very much working and operating. We choose God
because we want to choose God.
But the reason we want to choose God in the first place is because God has spiritually resurrected us, and regenerated us.
Prior to God's saving, regenreationg, converting grace, what we desired is to disobey and reject God,
thus we chose accordingly, with our free will.
But when God converts us, (a gracious act, I might add), we now desire to obey and follow God,
thus we choose accordingly, with our free will.
Our free will is very much alive and operating, we are always choosing what we desire. The thing is, we would never desire God if God wasn't gracious in removing our blindfolds.
We love him because he first loved us.