I think it is actually an expression of total willingness to allow you and others freedom. If you freely choose to reject God, then why should I feel bad that you suffer the consequences?
I cannot spend time feeling badly that you choose to walk away. I might say, "That's too bad," but should I feel bad for ever when you choose to say, "no" especially after you've been told repeatedly that there is a price you will have to pay? No. For me to feel bad that you were warned and then burned yourself would be over emoting as far as I am concerned.
God is giving everyone a choice--some people get many choices. He has given us a map and underlined the way i.e. the exact directions to heaven.
The map to heaven is in Roman 10:
3 For they [the unbeliever] being ignorant of God's righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God.
[What this means is that they are still trying to prove that they are perfect and deserve to be with God. But we're not perfect. And therefore we can't live with God.
You might say that heaven is an exclusive club. You can join, and be there, but you have to follow the rules to come in. If you choose not to join, then you don't get in. If you choose not to join, then why should I feel sorry for you that you chose not to join?]
4 For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to every one that believeth.
[What this means is that the answer to the law of sin and death (so you don't have to suffer it) is Christ.]
5 For Moses describeth the righteousness which is of the law, That the man which doeth those things shall live by them.
[We can not live perfectly and so deserved nothing more than to die and go to hell because we were not perfect. To be where God is, you have to be perfect to live in God's sight. You have to have joined the group to go to the group's club so to speak. There are two places that you will go--either heaven or hell. If you don't choose heaven, you get to go to hell.]
6 But the righteousness which is of faith [through Christ] speaketh on this wise, Say not in thine heart, Who shall ascend into heaven? (that is, to bring Christ down from above)
7 Or, Who shall descend into the deep? (that is, to bring up Christ again from the dead.)
8 But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart:
[In other words, God's word is first in your mouth (just below in this passage described, then in your heart (which is your choice of thinking) also just below described.]
that is, the word of faith, which we preach;
9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus,
[Step one: Say with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord."]
and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
[Step two: Believe that God raised Jesus from the dead. It is my humble opinion that the Holy Spirit gives you the ability to believe this after you say "Jesus is Lord."
IMHO saying "Jesus is Lord" means that Jesus is Lord, and you're willing to submit to His rule, His Way and His methods to get you to Him.]
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
11 For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.
12 For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him.
13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
God made salvation this easy because anything else might have been too hard for us being that we are human, and then we could blame Him for us not being saved.
Therefore, when you've thought that God's ways (heaven or hell based on our choices) is too much, it isn't. It is easy, and those who don't choose to speak the words cannot say that it was too hard. They can only say, "I made a choice." Those that go to hell have only to admit that they chose hell.
Therefore, how is it reasonable that I should feel bad forever for those who made a choice when they go to hell?
If I say, "Watch out! That burner on the stove is hot." But then you put your finger on it and are burned badly, most people would say, "Why did you do that?" Most people won't feel sorry that you chose to do that very foolish thing even after being warned, but they will feel confused and irritated after you do it and complain.
You have the map to heaven. Choose now what you want to do. And after you choose, don't complain that you don't like the results.
(I will tell you, however, that my entire family has told me that they believe and have confessed Jesus is Lord, so I anticipate that they will all be there with me. I have talked to them all because I would prefer they don't go to hell. But it was their choice.)
Now you have a choice. I gave you the map to heaven. You now know the way. You can say, "I don't believe your map" and then throw away the map and go about your own way--working to be a "good person" all your life and sometimes failing to do the right thing--still thinking that you are "good enough" for God.
I gave you the map that shows you the way to get to heaven. If you decide to not follow the map, and then you get lost, do you think I should feel bad after I told you what the consequences were when you did not follow the map? You're saying, after you threw away the map I gave you and said you don't believe that my directions are right, that I should feel bad that you made your own choice? (If I tried to shove it down your throat, then you'd feel really angry. And I still couldn't convince you to follow the map, could I?)
By saying I should feel bad that you made the wrong choice--well, you're putting me in a no win/no win situation. I will not feel bad if you choose wrongly. It was your choice. I gave you freedom of choice!
The point is that you are not "good enough" to be in God's presence. You have to be cleaned up first. Jesus is the answer to cleaning you up.
I John 1:9 says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
You have to accept His offering so you can get that shower to be clean enough to reach the Father. Otherwise, you will not make it on your own merit.
Don't choose hell. Get clean. Why not?
But if you choose to not get cleaned up after I told you how, explained the consequences if you did not, and told you to "Get clean," then I am not going to beat my brains out for eternity that you made the wrong choice. What else can I do but give you the map, tell you the consequences, and tell you to do it?
I can do nothing else but that. And it would be unfair and unreasonable for you to expect me to feel bad for eternity that you willingly and willfullly made the wrong choice after I told you how to go the right way. I'm not going to feel badly if you choose hell. I did not choose hell. I told you not to choose hell. I even spent an hour trying to show you the way to get to heaven and not go to hell, and I don't even know you personally! And if you do choose hell, then it was your own choice! Nope, you can call me calloused, but if you choose hell, then I'm not going to spend eternity in sorrow over your bad choice.
God bless you in your search.