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Lets talk about the supposed vow of chastity of Mary

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REEEEEEEEEEEEEgardless... if my daughter, who is virgin went to the doctor and the doctor said... you WILL conceive and have a child in her present condition of being a virgin... she still could very possibly respond in the present tense like MARY DID! How can this be, I know not a man???????????

Mary's response is what you guys are hedging your bet on... reading between the lines that her response is indicative of perpetual-ness of her virginity.... the reality is... she does not say that she will never not know a man.

It simply is not there.

Is there a possibility that she MEANT never..... yes.... Is this proof that she MEANT never.... no.

There is no such thing as "will conceive" -- the furure of the tense conceive does not require a helping verb - like will in Greek.

And if your daughter is a sensible sort, she will likely assume that she will conceive after she gets married.

If not, I would wonder about her state ...
 
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I thought it was explained exceedingly well that the grammar in Greek is different than in English. It's not reading between the lines; it is understanding what is said in the original Greek correctly.

I understand that grammar in greek is different than grammar in English. It doesn't change her response or the reality that there is no proof that she made a vow nor intended to stay a virgin her whole life.

She simply said... I KNOW not a man.

She NEVER indicates that she has made a vow to be a perpetual virgin!

It isn't proof positive.
 
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I understand that grammar in greek is different than grammar in English. It doesn't change her response or the reality that there is no proof that she made a vow nor intended to stay a virgin her whole life.

She simply said... I KNOW not a man.

She NEVER indicates that she has made a vow to be a perpetual virgin!

It isn't proof positive.

I am in a state past present future of not knowing a man -- this is what she said in Greek.
 
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REEEEEEEEEEEEEgardless... if my daughter, who is virgin went to the doctor and the doctor said... you WILL conceive and have a child in her present condition of being a virgin... she still could very possibly respond in the present tense like MARY DID! How can this be, I know not a man???????????

Mary's response is what you guys are hedging your bet on... reading between the lines that her response is indicative of perpetual-ness of her virginity.... the reality is... she does not say that she will never not know a man.

It simply is not there.

Is there a possibility that she MEANT never..... yes.... Is this proof that she MEANT never.... no.
When you put it that way, it kinda does prove that Mary intended to never sleep with a man.

Here are two situations:

If I resolve to never eat chicken, and then someone comes to me and says "One day, you will eat chicken". I will then say "How? I promised myself to never eat chicken!"

On the other hand, if I love chicken and I am betrothed to comsume chicken in the near future and someone comes to me and says "One day, you will eat chicken", I will then say "Yes! Indeed! I can't wait!"

Remember when Sarai was told that she would be with child? Did she rejoice (like many women did in other Bible stories, like Elizabeth)? No. Sarah doubted because it was an impossibility. "How can I have a child when I am already so old?" She was commenting on an impossibility. She didn't say "Praise God! I'm getting a baby!" She was perplexed by the impossibility of her bearing Abraham a child.

Similarily, Mary is told she is going to conceive some time in the future. Now, if she was a normal, Jewish wife, she would say "Praise God! He will bless me with a child" just like any Jewish woman would. But that's not what she said. She was puzzled at the impossibility. She asked "how can this be, since I do not know man?". Now, unless she was trying to imply that she was sterile (how would she know anyway, since she was a virgin), then that doesn't sound like the response of a betrothed woman eager to partake in the life of marriage. After all, we can clearly see in other parts of Scripture when women were told "you're going to have a baby" and they rejoiced! That is precisely what Mary's relative, Elizabeth, did! Elizabeth didn't say "how can this be?"

Taken at face value, this verse does indeed indicate that Mary had made some sort of vow or covenant to "not know man". Unless she knew that her womb was sterile, her comment does not make any sense at all. The angel did not say "you are with child right now, by the way". The angel ALSO did not say "you will conceive out of wedlock". The angle said "you will conceive". Mary should have said "I'm going to conceive?!? YAAYYY! Praise the Lord!" since the angel made no indication that she was going to conceive out of wedlock.
 
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If I resolve to never eat chicken, and then someone comes to me and says "One day, you will eat chicken". I will then say "How? I promised myself to never eat chicken!"

If you had made that vow... absolutely you would clarify!

To bad Mary didn't.

Mary never said... "How, I promised myself (or God, who knows!!!!!!) to NEVER have sex
 
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that verse points to a possibility



1. "With God, ALL THINGS are possible." I disagree that possibility = a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth. Is it POSSIBLE that Joseph Smith found those plates? Is it POSSIBLE that President Bush saw a UFO? Is it POSSIBLE that Mary had 100 children (all red-headed boys)? Unless you insist on denying what the angel said, then yes. But does it make all those dogmatic facts of highest importance and greatest certainty of Truth?


2. You may unintentionally be forgetting that NO denomination on the planet - known to me anyway - says it's "IMPOSSIBLE." Thus, you are trying to argue against a point NONE makes. In fact, I don't even know of a single denomination on the planet who says it's wrong (also a point you may have forgotten?). The issue is: the confirmation of it's truthfulness to the level claimed and of it's status as "most important for all people."







The Bible does not completely rule out either option. Mary's perpetual virginity is not plainly stated in the Bible, but on the other hand, the Bible never says "and then Joseph knew his wife" or something like that.


Rather powerful reason to stand with the 49,998 denominations that embrace that it cannot be stated with profound certainty ("the highest level of certainty of Truth") one way or the other. And perhaps might also conclude that how often couples have sex isn't generally a matter of highest importance for all to know (for example, how often do you have sex?).








Scripture is not explicit either way
(although this or that verse might be used to support either stance).


1. Okay. How does that provide the confirmation to the level claimed that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER? How does it confirm that Mary made a specific vow to God and the particular content of said vow?


2. You seem to be doing a good job of supporting the 49,998 denominations that are silent on this - either way. And all the evidence we have about Mary, Joseph, Jesus, all 12 to 14 Apostles and indeed everyone who lived in the First Century (and possibly well after) all being silent (or at least we have ZERO evidence that they declared it dogma or heresy) that Mary Had No Sex EVER.






Trying to find this doctrine in early writings is nearly impossible


You're not strengthening your case against silence and for insisting in the most power way possible that Mary made a specific vow to God, the particular content thereof, and that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER. Of course, you are also contradicting nearly all the RCC and EOC members here with their apology of "it's true because the Apostles taught it, all in the time of the Apostles taught it, Chrsitians have all taught it from the beginning (31 or 33 AD), it has ALWAYS been taught, etc. Or at least you are admitting these apologetics are entirely baseless.








Of course, discounting the doctrine of Mary's perpetual virginity simple because it isn't explicitly found in the very first, very earliest writings is silly


You either don't know (in spite of often being told) or are forgetting: There's not a denomination on the planet that denies it (officially anyway). Thus, your point is entirely irrelevant. The issue before us is this: This VOW Mary specifically made to God, the specific CONTENT thereof, and the confirmation to the level claimed that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance and greatest certainly of truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER. The ball is in your court. There are only 2 denominations with ANY official position on Mary's sex life after Jesus was born, all others are SILENT (as it seems was Mary, Joseph, Jesus, all 12-14 Apostles, God in Scripture, the earliest RC "Fathers" and everyone who lived for at least 100 years after Mary died and thus had no way to know this normally private tidbit of bedroom information - at least as far as any can determine).







- early church tradition seems to indicate that early Christians believed in the perpetual virginity of Mary, which is best evidenced by the non-canonical book Protoevangelium of James.


I. I'm struggling to understand how that is confirmation of a specific vow Mary made to God, the precise content thereof, and that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER - that at the moment of Her death (or was it undeath?), she was a virgin.


2. The REJECTED, false, nonauthoritative book to which you reference doesn't say Mary Had No Sex EVER.









In the 4th century, we see a written record from many different church fathers that profess the perpetual virginity.


1. ... and how does that confirm that, since 31 AD (or before), it has been held that Mary made a vow to God, the specific content thereof, and that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER?


2. What confirmation do they give for this?







- All throughout Church history, Christians continued to hold to the perpetual virginity of Mary as truth. From Rome to Jerusalem, everyone preserved the doctrine that Mary remained a virgin for her entire life.


Which is it? You said it CANNOT be shown to have been believed before the 4th century, now that it has been taught since 31 AD (if not earlier). Which is it?

Do you have confirmation for the basis of your apologetics here? Or is it baseless?







Luther is on the record for remarking (paraphrase): "My opponents want to slander me by saying I preach that Mary, mother of Jesus, did not remain a perpetual virgin, but I do not preach that."


1. So, which is it? Everything Luther said is Confirmation of Truth or that he was a heretic who often taught wrongly?


2. Luther did NOT teach this as dogma. It was a "pious opinion" which was PERMITTED by Lutherans.







for ~1,500 years, the entire Christian church believed in the perpetual virginity of Mary


... and yet, you've not only offered NOTHING to confirm this but have stated that actually, there's ZERO evidence of such. You've admitted: it's baseless.








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Was Mary told "you are with child right now"? No. If she was, then her comment would make sense. She would have been curious why she was with child when she was still a virgin.

Was Mary told "you will conceive out of wedlock"? No. If she was, then her comment would make sense. She would have been horrified that an angel was saying she would commit premarital sex and conceive a child before she was married!

Was Mary told "you will conceive"? Yes. Since she was about to be married, and according to Jewish customs and culture (and other references in the Bible), she SHOULD have replied "Horray! Praise the Lord". But is that what she said? No. She was puzzled. She was puzzled by how she could conceive at any time in the future. Now, unless she knew that she was sterile (and how could she know?), there is only one other explanation: Mary had made some sort of committment to remain a virgin.
 
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We've buried you in evidence. Just give up. You're repeating your same, tired, already-refuted statments. We've given you the quotes, and you were unable to refute them. We've given you the dated quotes, and you were unable to refute them. We've cited history and historical commentary, and you were unable to refute that. We've declared that the entire Church believed in the perpetual virginity of Mary (evidenced by quotes, official written doctrine, ecumenical councils, etc), and you were unable to refute that.

You've lost the argument. Your part in this debate has long since ended because you refuse to refute ANYTHING. Rather, you repeat the same questions over and over and over again. You repeat the same feeble excuses of "I didn't say that! Quote me!" and "that topic isn't a part of this discussion" over and over and over again.
 
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If you had made that vow... absolutely you would clarify!

To bad Mary didn't.

Mary never said... "How, I promised myself (or God, who knows!!!!!!) to NEVER have sex
"How could I, Lord, since I eat not chicken?"

Pretty simple, actually. I'm declaring that I eat not chicken. Not now. Not never.
 
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I don't even know of a single denomination on the planet who says it's wrong

That means you think it is right? Then there is no case here...Case closed we are right on the money to believe it! Whether it is dogma or not it bears no significance as Dogma is something one believes
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1. "With God, ALL THINGS are possible." I disagree that possibility = a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth. Is it POSSIBLE that Joseph Smith found those plates? Is it POSSIBLE that President Bush saw a UFO? Is it POSSIBLE that Mary had 100 children (all red-headed boys)? Unless you insist on denying what the angel said, then yes. But does it make all those dogmatic facts of highest importance and greatest certainty of Truth?


2. You may unintentionally be forgetting that NO denomination on the planet - known to me anyway - says it's "IMPOSSIBLE." Thus, you are trying to argue against a point NONE makes. In fact, I don't even know of a single denomination on the planet who says it's wrong (also a point you may have forgotten?). The issue is: the confirmation of it's truthfulness to the level claimed and of it's status as "most important for all people."










Rather powerful reason to stand with the 49,998 denominations that embrace that it cannot be stated with profound certainty ("the highest level of certainty of Truth") one way or the other. And perhaps might also conclude that how often couples have sex isn't generally a matter of highest importance for all to know (for example, how often do you have sex?).










1. Okay. How does that provide the confirmation to the level claimed that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER? How does it confirm that Mary made a specific vow to God and the particular content of said vow?


2. You seem to be doing a good job of supporting the 49,998 denominations that are silent on this - either way. And all the evidence we have about Mary, Joseph, Jesus, all 12 to 14 Apostles and indeed everyone who lived in the First Century (and possibly well after) all being silent (or at least we have ZERO evidence that they declared it dogma or heresy) that Mary Had No Sex EVER.









You're not strengthening your case against silence and for insisting in the most power way possible that Mary made a specific vow to God, the particular content thereof, and that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER. Of course, you are also contradicting nearly all the RCC and EOC members here with their apology of "it's true because the Apostles taught it, all in the time of the Apostles taught it, Chrsitians have all taught it from the beginning (31 or 33 AD), it has ALWAYS been taught, etc. Or at least you are admitting these apologetics are entirely baseless.











You either don't know (in spite of often being told) or are forgetting: There's not a denomination on the planet that denies it (officially anyway). Thus, your point is entirely irrelevant. The issue before us is this: This VOW Mary specifically made to God, the specific CONTENT thereof, and the confirmation to the level claimed that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance and greatest certainly of truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER. The ball is in your court. There are only 2 denominations with ANY official position on Mary's sex life after Jesus was born, all others are SILENT (as it seems was Mary, Joseph, Jesus, all 12-14 Apostles, God in Scripture, the earliest RC "Fathers" and everyone who lived for at least 100 years after Mary died and thus had no way to know this normally private tidbit of bedroom information - at least as far as any can determine).










I. I'm struggling to understand how that is confirmation of a specific vow Mary made to God, the precise content thereof, and that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER - that at the moment of Her death (or was it undeath?), she was a virgin.


2. The REJECTED, false, nonauthoritative book to which you reference doesn't say Mary Had No Sex EVER.












1. ... and how does that confirm that, since 31 AD (or before), it has been held that Mary made a vow to God, the specific content thereof, and that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance to all and greatest certainty of Truth that Mary Had No Sex EVER?


2. What confirmation do they give for this?










Which is it? You said it CANNOT be shown to have been believed before the 4th century, now that it has been taught since 31 AD (if not earlier). Which is it?

Do you have confirmation for the basis of your apologetics here? Or is it baseless?


We've buried you in evidence. Just give up. You're repeating your same, tired, already-refuted statments. We've given you the quotes, and you were unable to refute them. We've given you the dated quotes, and you were unable to refute them. We've cited history and historical commentary, and you were unable to refute that. We've declared that the entire Church believed in the perpetual virginity of Mary (evidenced by quotes, official written doctrine, ecumenical councils, etc), and you were unable to refute that.

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In other words, you laid out your case - and now you are ignoring everything said and asked about it.





you refuse to refute ANYTHING
I think your refusal to discuss what I posted is the refusal.



I think you continue to confuse our two positions, and that since you cannot defend your position, you want me to reveal it false - when you know NO denomination on the planet says it's false, the point is two insist in the strongest way possible that it is a dogmatic fact of highest importance and greatest certainty of Truth. IF I said, "We can't be certain if there is a Moon of Endor - much less if 6.21 billion furry brown creatures live on it" that's quite different than saying, "It is a dogmatic fact of highest importance and greatest certainty that there are 6.21 billion furry brown creatures living on the Moon of Endor!" Friend, the burden of proof is not on those with NO position, the burden of proof is on those WITH a position - and the higher the claim, the higher the bar.



IMO, reading your summery of your apologetic not only does NOTHING to support the claim but actually does an AMAZINGLY good job of supporting why 49,998 denominations are silent on this. You actually made the opposite point that I think you probably intended, IMO.






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IMO, reading your summery of your apologetic not only does NOTHING to support the claim but actually does an AMAZINGLY good job of supporting why 49,998 denominations are silent on this. You actually made the opposite point that I think you probably intended, IMO.

a single denomination is about what 20 people? The majority of the people who are christian in this earth since 33 AD believed in the EV for 2,000 years now. No one can beat that. The majority of people of the RC and EO put together make up the majority of the Christians on earth. Case closed.
 
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I understand that grammar in greek is different than grammar in English. It doesn't change her response or the reality that there is no proof that she made a vow nor intended to stay a virgin her whole life.

She simply said... I KNOW not a man.

She NEVER indicates that she has made a vow to be a perpetual virgin!

It isn't proof positive.

Your insistence that the Greek does not mean that she intended to remain a virgin is proof that you do not understand the difference.
 
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Friend, the burden of proof is not on those with NO position, the burden of proof is on those WITH a position - and the higher the claim, the higher the bar.

Having a no position indeed IMHO means someone does not care to form one and logically the one who does not care to form one would not be interested in forming one "suddenly".
Of course they are two sides to everything..Christ was God or was ONLY man. Was God trinitarian...if we depended on scripture alone to tell us these dogmatic truths then we would be again on the fence... as the word Trinity is NOT in the Bible... So my point is that for some truths the Fathers had to look further and try to their best ability to explain the Mysteries of God.
 
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