Road trip, is it ok for guys to sleep in same room as girls?

[hannahchick]

Hi,

I plan to take a road trip with 2 guys friends, a girl friend and myself. We are all 20 years plus in age. We want to take a camper van and we have the option to all sleep in the same camper van. If we did, us girls would be very modest, have separate beds of course and wear normal clothes to bed. But, I'm not sure if sleeping in the same room with the guys is ok?
PS We are all single, committed Christians.

Please share your thoughts

Thanks so much!
hannahchick

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

Sounds like a bad idea.

 

[Blueforest]

It depends.

Is there going to be fornicating going on...?

 

[Avniel]

It depends.

Is there going to be fornicating going on...?

I mean that basically says it all. If it were two your male cousins would you do it? If thats how you see your friends as male cousins and you would share a room with your with your male cousins then I see nothing wrong with it. If you are sexually interested in one of these friends then I would not suggest it.

 

[LilLamb219]

It would be a lot safer if the girls slept in the camper and the men slept in tents outside nearby.

 

[Sketcher]

I don't see how it's a good idea, particularly if there's ay decent length of time to the road trip. It's one thing to do that for say, a weekend. As time goes on and people get more comfortable, you're really flirting with temptation, especially if anybody in the group is reasonably attractive to somebody else. Even if nobody does fornicate, there is going to be the loss of modesty, which could be a setup for fornication or something else down the road that Satan has planned.

In short, I agree with the tent idea.

 

[desi]

This reads like the beginning of a modern scary movie. For camping its probably safer to sleep in the same room.

 

[Avniel]

I don't see how it's a good idea, particularly if there's ay decent length of time to the road trip. It's one thing to do that for say, a weekend. As time goes on and people get more comfortable, you're really flirting with temptation, especially if anybody in the group is reasonably attractive to somebody else. Even if nobody does fornicate, there is going to be the loss of modesty, which could be a setup for fornication or something else down the road that Satan has planned.

In short, I agree with the tent idea.

I agree with that if you feel you that a particular person is temptation. But if you are unattracted to them have no personal feelings towards them other then brotherly love I don't think so.

I have slept head to foot with one of my friends I grew up with and it was more arguing about feet being in the fact then temptations. I think it depends on the relationship, and where the relationship could go.

 

[Bella Vita]

I think it is fine you are all committed christian adults so you all are on the same page with no sex before marriage. If you were going with none believers with different morals and beliefs then I would say no. But since you are all christians and are all of old enough age to know better and to understand your faith then I don't see the big deal. Especially since camper sleeping is usually one bed and maybe a couch up front you girls can sleep in the back of the camper and the boys can sleep up front on the couches or something like that you won't even be in the same area. You are all grown adults just talk about it before you go make very strict boundaries on sleeping arrangements before you leave that you all agree on.

Not to mention if you are all just friends and no one even likes anyone else "in that way" anyways then there shouldn't be any issues... just talk about it and have fun on your trip =]

 

[Ttery]

Why do people worry so much about this? I feel as though the people who voted no, are married and have children. I don't think it's bad. I guess people some people are hounded by it because we live in a fallen world.

 

[Hospes]

Walk the edge long enough, you fall off the cliff. Seen it over and over...

 

[hannahchick]

It depends.

Is there going to be fornicating going on...?

We are all against sex before marriage and would be accountable to each other so from my perspective definitely not.

 

[hannahchick]

I don't see how it's a good idea, particularly if there's ay decent length of time to the road trip. It's one thing to do that for say, a weekend. As time goes on and people get more comfortable, you're really flirting with temptation, especially if anybody in the group is reasonably attractive to somebody else. Even if nobody does fornicate, there is going to be the loss of modesty, which could be a setup for fornication or something else down the road that Satan has planned.

In short, I agree with the tent idea.

The length is for 3 nights.

 

[jsimms615]

I think it would depend on the situation, like if your with other christians or if you know someone in the group is attracted to you or your attracted to them.
This came up once when I was single and with a small group of guys and girls from church and nothing happened. I was so tired I didn't even think about girls being in the same room. I just hoped they didn't snore and keep me up.

 

[Bella Vita]

We are all against sex before marriage and would be accountable to each other so from my perspective definitely not.

Exactly as long as you are all on the same page with your faith and have boundaries in place you should be fine. Your adults =]

 

[Matariki]

I don't see anything wrong with it, I mean you're 'all' in the same room. Its not like you're going to have an orgy or anything. I presume that you all have a decent level of self control and respect towards each other, so why not?
Why are you doubting yourself and your commitment to God's commandments?

As long as you treat each other as brothers and sisters I can't see too much of a problem.

 

[Cyax]

Hi,

I plan to take a road trip with 2 guys friends, a girl friend and myself. We are all 20 years plus in age. We want to take a camper van and we have the option to all sleep in the same camper van. If we did, us girls would be very modest, have separate beds of course and wear normal clothes to bed. But, I'm not sure if sleeping in the same room with the guys is ok?
PS We are all single, committed Christians.

Please share your thoughts

Thanks so much!
hannahchick

If you're all committed Christians as you say there shouldn't be a problem, obviously you should be split up by gender, like girls in the bed guys on the ground (sorry guys but be a gentleman!)

Occupying space isn't a matter that concerns me, its the actions that may take place in that place do however. If a guy tries to get out of line you know his intentions are something else, you'll have the company of your fellow girl friend right next to you so it should be assumed that he wouldn't try anything.

But without knowing the guy its hard to assume. Just know that if you are all strong in Christ you could all share the same room without it being a problem.

Fornification is a sin very much frowned upon, and anyone who upholds their virginity I respect with a very high level of respect. I'd hope that both these guys strong in Christ would seek the best interest of both of you women and not try to disgrace you in this manner. If they try to engage in such a manner I'd be cautious in proceeding further with them, because they may be lying and faking just to try and get something else insted of what you think they are there for.

Don't assume, I'm the type of person that trusts until prooven otherwise and I urge the same of you, if you have solid background then there shouldn't be a meaning to worry, but there is also no point in paying for two hotel rooms when you can just as easily pay for one.

 

[chris4243]

Eh, you're all grownups, and you've each got two chaperones besides.

Do try to resist the urge to have some wild orgies with your non-dates while your other two Christian friends are looking on.

 

[dewba]

If any sinning goes on...then no; no, it's not okay.

can anyone in the same room handle the temptation if God decides to let satan tempt you? can you handle it if you get raped? or if anyone gets raped?

just because someone is a "comitted christian" doesn't mean they're not capable of sinning or falling into temtptation: there is not a single person in all the world who is always good and never sins (ecc 7:20)

every moment we live is a test (job 7:18)

 

[Sketcher]

Why do people worry so much about this? I feel as though the people who voted no, are married and have children.

Even if you could prove that, then all it would mean is that they know better than to do something like this.

I agree with that if you feel you that a particular person is temptation. But if you are unattracted to them have no personal feelings towards them other then brotherly love I don't think so.

I largely agree with that, but you have to consider the time factor. A couple days where everybody thinks the other people are ugly isn't going to be much of a temptation. If it's significantly longer than that, who knows.

Besides, the practical matter is dressing. I think it would be less of a pain in the butt to bring a tent for the guys to sleep in and dress in, than the sort of people-juggling you would need to do in order for people to modestly dress.