Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (31)

[Perhaps Today]

Everyone please pray for K. She's really down about her job, and is getting really depressed about it. I'm worried about her.

Praying for her.

 

[Blank123]

you got it Edwards

 

[crishmael]

I developed a voice crush on a girl in class today and thought I could happily listen to her read poetry forever. Alas, I found that a voice that sultry can only be forged in a cigarette furnace and my crush was carried off on gentle puffs of second hand smoke.

 

[Oddish]

Why are people interfering in my lack of love life?

First it was the thing I mentioned a few posts back. Now it is one of my female friends saying to my other female friend that one of my male friends would be perfect for me.

Then there is my mother who says that another guy seems perfect for me.

It irritates me a little but I do find it quite amusing!

Oh and I forgot someone asking me whether I had a boyfriend or not and when I said no, he asked me if I have ever had one! Some people are so intrusive! I think everyone on my course sees me as the innocent, naive one.

 

[ks777]

I think everyone on my course sees me as the innocent, naive one.

Give yourself a big hickey somewhere... That'll get people talking!

I get that a lot too. One of my friends, EVERYTIME I see him, he always says, "got a girlfriend yet?" as if it's something that defines you

My mum came in my room a while ago asking whether I ever get worried about finding a girlfriend... nothing more awkward than your parents talking to you about relationships.

I can't imagine someone randomly asking you whether you'd had a boyfriend before, it seems a bit strange unless you two were already on the subject...

 

[Oddish]

Give yourself a big hickey somewhere... That'll get people talking!

I get that a lot too. One of my friends, EVERYTIME I see him, he always says, "got a girlfriend yet?" as if it's something that defines you

My mum came in my room a while ago asking whether I ever get worried about finding a girlfriend... nothing more awkward than your parents talking to you about relationships.

I can't imagine someone randomly asking you whether you'd had a boyfriend before, it seems a bit strange unless you two were already on the subject...

haha people are obviously already talking!

I don't mind my parents talking to me about it so much, I don't feel that awkward discussing it with them, it is just annoying that whenever I mention a guy my mum wants to know everything about him and tries to gauge whether I am interested in him or not. I have repeatedly told her that I like being single.

Yeah it was a bit out of the blue. He is a coursemate and we weren't even on a related subject. It came out of nowhere really unless people have been talking about me! I just find it amusing that some people find it interesting, hmm. Maybe they discuss it because I have said no to every guy on the course who has asked me out and also because everyone knows that I am a christian. Also it might be because two guys on the course who wanted to "have a bit of fun" didn't get that with me.

 

[Inkachu]

I developed a voice crush on a girl in class today and thought I could happily listen to her read poetry forever. Alas, I found that a voice that sultry can only be forged in a cigarette furnace and my crush was carried off on gentle puffs of second hand smoke.

This is so tragically amusing. But you're right. Her voice may be "sultry" now, but when she's 50, she'll sound like a gravel avalanche.

 

[Edwards1984]

Thank you, everyone.

 

[Rhye]

Okay I wrote this out the other day but decided not too but I'm going to share it anyway. About a year ago I met this guy at the library. Thought he was super cute and everything. He was doing a study and asked me to help.I agreed. It was only for 15 minutes and I was about to start my human subjects so I told him, I wanted to help him out cause then I would get good vibes for people to help me for my own work. lol. Anyhow, we did the study, I left, and then about half hour later, he finds me on the other side of the library and asks if I can participant in another part. I told him sure, gave him my email...etc., etc., So, I meet up with him twice in a month to help him out. During those times, we sent flirty emails and were very flirty in person too. He always suggested we should get coffee after the study is done, etc., etc. Then I decide I wanted to find him on facebook to add him. Oh, how wonderful I did that. He had a girlfriend. I mean I know its his girlfriend....there are pictures of him kissing, and there is a relationship status. I couldn't believe it. I was very upset about that. So, I just let it go and did not want to bring it up, wasn't going to anyways. So, I decided I write to him saying I was not interested in doing the study anymore. A month later, he wrote to me asking me out to coffee again, I denied him and said I was not interested. He did it again a few more times, and I said I was not interested (again). My friend actually told, I should have said, "you should invite your girlfriend too." LOL. Anyhow, its been more then 6 or so months, and the other night I get an email from him again. Again, with the study, and again saying, "I like to get to know you more after." I didn't check to see if he is still with his gf or not on FB but, I don't understand it...I just don't get it! Its kind of silly of him to not realize that in this day and age, people can find you on FB.

Was I not more straightforward in saying no?
Mind you, even if he is not with his gf, I would still say no. I am not interested in him at all, after that.
I almost want to ignore the email, but that doesn't solve anything, and he didn't seem to get "no" as "no!" So, what do I do?

 

[tapi]

Okay I wrote this out the other day but decided not too but I'm going to share it anyway. About a year ago I met this guy at the library. Thought he was super cute and everything. He was doing a study and asked me to help.I agreed. It was only for 15 minutes and I was about to start my human subjects so I told him, I wanted to help him out cause then I would get good vibes for people to help me for my own work. lol. Anyhow, we did the study, I left, and then about half hour later, he finds me on the other side of the library and asks if I can participant in another part. I told him sure, gave him my email...etc., etc., So, I meet up with him twice in a month to help him out. During those times, we sent flirty emails and were very flirty in person too. He always suggested we should get coffee after the study is done, etc., etc. Then I decide I wanted to find him on facebook to add him. Oh, how wonderful I did that. He had a girlfriend. I mean I know its his girlfriend....there are pictures of him kissing, and there is a relationship status. I couldn't believe it. I was very upset about that. So, I just let it go and did not want to bring it up, wasn't going to anyways. So, I decided I write to him saying I was not interested in doing the study anymore. A month later, he wrote to me asking me out to coffee again, I denied him and said I was not interested. He did it again a few more times, and I said I was not interested (again). My friend actually told, I should have said, "you should invite your girlfriend too." LOL. Anyhow, its been more then 6 or so months, and the other night I get an email from him again. Again, with the study, and again saying, "I like to get to know you more after." I didn't check to see if he is still with his gf or not on FB but, I don't understand it...I just don't get it! Its kind of silly of him to not realize that in this day and age, people can find you on FB.

Was I not more straightforward in saying no?
Mind you, even if he is not with his gf, I would still say no. I am not interested in him at all, after that.
I almost want to ignore the email, but that doesn't solve anything, and he didn't seem to get "no" as "no!" So, what do I do?

Hmm.. I'd say do a polite but firm last refusal and block his mail. If he doesn't get no then it would probably be futile to try to get the point across by further means..

 

[Oddish]

I hope this creep didn't get a lot of personal info on you from the study.

 

[Rhye]

Its funny you say that, Eyre, cause there were questions like that in the back, and I did not answer them. As a participant I have the right to refuse to give out any information, and he knows how the rules work. He can't share my info with anyone but his professor, because he knows the full consequences of reviling the identity of his participants or doing anything else. I'm not worried about that at all, and I know he IS doing a study, its just strange his behavior. Maybe, he thinks he is a smooth playaa?? loll.

Tapi, I think you are right. I should send another email stating firm refusal, now my firm might not be very firm. But, I will do it!!

 

[Quoth]

...I almost want to ignore the email, but that doesn't solve anything, and he didn't seem to get "no" as "no!" So, what do I do?

My sister had a situation similar to yours. Here's essentially what I told her:

You tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you are not interested in being his friend, going to coffee with him, or having any part of his "study projects". You then block him from Facebook and be done with him. After that, you do ignore his e-mails, since responding to them at that point will only encourage him to think that he might have a chance.

 

[Tink]

Okay I wrote this out the other day but decided not too but I'm going to share it anyway. About a year ago I met this guy at the library. Thought he was super cute and everything. He was doing a study and asked me to help.I agreed. It was only for 15 minutes and I was about to start my human subjects so I told him, I wanted to help him out cause then I would get good vibes for people to help me for my own work. lol. Anyhow, we did the study, I left, and then about half hour later, he finds me on the other side of the library and asks if I can participant in another part. I told him sure, gave him my email...etc., etc., So, I meet up with him twice in a month to help him out. During those times, we sent flirty emails and were very flirty in person too. He always suggested we should get coffee after the study is done, etc., etc. Then I decide I wanted to find him on facebook to add him. Oh, how wonderful I did that. He had a girlfriend. I mean I know its his girlfriend....there are pictures of him kissing, and there is a relationship status. I couldn't believe it. I was very upset about that. So, I just let it go and did not want to bring it up, wasn't going to anyways. So, I decided I write to him saying I was not interested in doing the study anymore. A month later, he wrote to me asking me out to coffee again, I denied him and said I was not interested. He did it again a few more times, and I said I was not interested (again). My friend actually told, I should have said, "you should invite your girlfriend too." LOL. Anyhow, its been more then 6 or so months, and the other night I get an email from him again. Again, with the study, and again saying, "I like to get to know you more after." I didn't check to see if he is still with his gf or not on FB but, I don't understand it...I just don't get it! Its kind of silly of him to not realize that in this day and age, people can find you on FB.

Was I not more straightforward in saying no?
Mind you, even if he is not with his gf, I would still say no. I am not interested in him at all, after that.
I almost want to ignore the email, but that doesn't solve anything, and he didn't seem to get "no" as "no!" So, what do I do?

I think you should reiterate it, and also let him know why.

 

[penNpaper]

Gives all the ladies who need them a big

On behalf of all idiots - I am sowwie for the stupid actions that we do on you ladies. Please forgive us all - for we are clueless and lost.

Includes a Ice Cream Coupon and a $1000 anywhere gift card.

God Bless,
Drew

 

[Rhye]

My sister had a situation similar to yours. Here's essentially what I told her:

You tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you are not interested in being his friend, going to coffee with him, or having any part of his "study projects". You then block him from Facebook and be done with him. After that, you do ignore his e-mails, since responding to them at that point will only encourage him to think that he might have a chance.

Thank you Rob. I am going to use your words, if you don't mind.

 

[tapi]

I should send another email stating firm refusal, now my firm might not be very firm. But, I will do it!!

I have the same problem of not being able to be straightforward enough in negative things sometimes :Z

 

[Sapphyre]

My sister had a situation similar to yours. Here's essentially what I told her:

You tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you are not interested in being his friend, going to coffee with him, or having any part of his "study projects". You then block him from Facebook and be done with him. After that, you do ignore his e-mails, since responding to them at that point will only encourage him to think that he might have a chance.

Good advice. I think we've all been in a similar situation at some point, unfortunately. Just make sure that after you make you're last contact with him and decide to ignore him from then on that you DO it. It'll be hard if he keeps badgering you - maybe set up an e-mail filter that sends him right to the spam folder.

I'm terrible with this rule myself, which is why I bring it up. I always feel guilty about ignoring people... but sometimes you just have to do it. :\

 

[Quoth]

Thank you Rob. I am going to use your words, if you don't mind.

Go for it.

 

[Blank123]

ethie, I'm shocked this guys still thinks he has a chance with you! I think you were rather clear the first time around. and to be honest if it were me, I'd ignore the email and block the address.

Why are people interfering in my lack of love life?

First it was the thing I mentioned a few posts back. Now it is one of my female friends saying to my other female friend that one of my male friends would be perfect for me.

Then there is my mother who says that another guy seems perfect for me.

It irritates me a little but I do find it quite amusing!

Oh and I forgot someone asking me whether I had a boyfriend or not and when I said no, he asked me if I have ever had one! Some people are so intrusive! I think everyone on my course sees me as the innocent, naive one.

I don't get people's fascination with someone else's lovelife. I mean I'm happy for my friends if they have someone theyr'e happy with, but I don't assume they're unhappy if they're single

When I signed into work last night the security guard, who i barely know, grabbed my hand and started making a fuss over the fact that I had no wedding ring and asking why don't I snag myself a cowboy (I live in cowboy country)? I just laughed and walked away, but really? wow. AWKWARD!