Is being humble before the Lord the same as being insecure in your own self and feeling a sense of worthlessness?
I think those are two different things which people often confuse and think of them as the same.
Sometimes we come before God and feel worthless, like we are a nobody. Like we are just a sorry sinner. But the question is: is that what God wants? Is that what He means when He says: “humble yourself before the Lord”?
I believe that the feeling of being unworthy is about being insecure, not about being humble. In fact, you cannot “do the act of humbling yourself” if you are so insecure.
Humbling yourself is making a step DOWN. But if you are insecure about yourself and feel worthless, how much down can you go? Therefore, it’s impossible to “be humble” if you are already on the very bottom…
In order for somebody to be humble, they FIRST have to feel that they are valuable.
So I think when people read the verse: humble yourself before the Lord”, they think that God wants them to feel insecure about themselves and not worthy of Him. Which is not true. Imagine a parent who keeps telling his child that he is worthless and good for nothing. We consider such a parent to be cruel and mean. Surely, we are not saying that God is such a parent.
A good parent wants a child to feel loved and cherished. And as a good parent, God wants to show us that we are very very valuable in His eyes. That we are very precious to Him. That He valued and loved us to the point of giving up something very precious to Him for our sake.
So once a person feels adored and valued and loved, THEN (and only then) a person will be able to exercise humility before God.
What is being humble before God? It is submitting your will to His voluntarily. God is love. He is all about love. So if you submit out of love, out of a desire to give yourself to Him, you are right on the money. He is very happy about that. This kind of submission is beautiful and like a fragrant aroma before Him.
On the other hand, if you submit to God only because you are afraid of Him, then it’s not quite the act that God is waiting for. After all, we are His Bride. And a Bride has to love the one she is marrying, not obey Him out of fear.
Because God is love, it is His nature TO GIVE. He wants to give love. But you can’t give love to somebody who can’t believe that you love them. In order to receive God’s love, you first must believe that He loves you. Then, based on your belief, you will FEEL loved. And this feeling will be proof that you have just received God’s love. Which is His will. Which is what He wants - to have you receive His love.
In order to love somebody, you have to be able to see them as GOOD and LOVING. Love responds to love. So God wants you to feel cherished and valuable in His eyes. The Bible says that Christ made us perfect. Then why do we keep seeing ourselves as sinners?
The Bible says that God does not remember our sins anymore. Then why do we feel compelled to keep bringing them up before God?
Do you think God expects you to be perfect? Surely not. Point out one perfect person. Nobody is. Everybody makes mistakes. And God knows that. Because He is wiser than us and knows psychology better than we do. As a child, we grow. As the one who grows, we will always make mistakes. There is no reason to beat up self for making mistakes. They are inevitable.
What’s needed is a love for God. That will balance everything out. That will keep you trying to do your best without any promises of punishment. Knowing that you are valuable in God’s eyes, will make you feel grateful to God and will enable you to love Him. God doesn’t see us as worthless sinners. People do. God sees us as His beloved children.
So why do we put down God’s beloved children all the time? Why do we call them worthless? The Bible says that we have to love OUR SELF just like others. If we keep not forgiving our self, and keep berating our self, and keep beating up our self and putting our self down, how can we expect to keep this commandment? That would mean that we would have to put down others (just like we do ourself).
It’s important to treat self with respect. Our SELF is God’s beloved child. It’s important to love self just as God loves you. If God says that you are valuable, why are you keep rejecting it? How can He love you if you can’t accept His love?
So forget this ridiculous idea: “we are worthless sinners” stuff. It probably came from Catholicism where the leaders wanted to control the masses. And what better way to do that than to make you feel like you are nothing and nobody?
God told to one person: “look at it this way: you are worthy enough for me to live in you”
Imagine that! God chose US to be His temple. And we know that God’s temple is holy and great. And that must mean that God thinks that we are holy and great in order to choose us as His temple.
I think those are two different things which people often confuse and think of them as the same.
Sometimes we come before God and feel worthless, like we are a nobody. Like we are just a sorry sinner. But the question is: is that what God wants? Is that what He means when He says: “humble yourself before the Lord”?
I believe that the feeling of being unworthy is about being insecure, not about being humble. In fact, you cannot “do the act of humbling yourself” if you are so insecure.
Humbling yourself is making a step DOWN. But if you are insecure about yourself and feel worthless, how much down can you go? Therefore, it’s impossible to “be humble” if you are already on the very bottom…
In order for somebody to be humble, they FIRST have to feel that they are valuable.
So I think when people read the verse: humble yourself before the Lord”, they think that God wants them to feel insecure about themselves and not worthy of Him. Which is not true. Imagine a parent who keeps telling his child that he is worthless and good for nothing. We consider such a parent to be cruel and mean. Surely, we are not saying that God is such a parent.
A good parent wants a child to feel loved and cherished. And as a good parent, God wants to show us that we are very very valuable in His eyes. That we are very precious to Him. That He valued and loved us to the point of giving up something very precious to Him for our sake.
So once a person feels adored and valued and loved, THEN (and only then) a person will be able to exercise humility before God.
What is being humble before God? It is submitting your will to His voluntarily. God is love. He is all about love. So if you submit out of love, out of a desire to give yourself to Him, you are right on the money. He is very happy about that. This kind of submission is beautiful and like a fragrant aroma before Him.
On the other hand, if you submit to God only because you are afraid of Him, then it’s not quite the act that God is waiting for. After all, we are His Bride. And a Bride has to love the one she is marrying, not obey Him out of fear.
Because God is love, it is His nature TO GIVE. He wants to give love. But you can’t give love to somebody who can’t believe that you love them. In order to receive God’s love, you first must believe that He loves you. Then, based on your belief, you will FEEL loved. And this feeling will be proof that you have just received God’s love. Which is His will. Which is what He wants - to have you receive His love.
In order to love somebody, you have to be able to see them as GOOD and LOVING. Love responds to love. So God wants you to feel cherished and valuable in His eyes. The Bible says that Christ made us perfect. Then why do we keep seeing ourselves as sinners?
The Bible says that God does not remember our sins anymore. Then why do we feel compelled to keep bringing them up before God?
Do you think God expects you to be perfect? Surely not. Point out one perfect person. Nobody is. Everybody makes mistakes. And God knows that. Because He is wiser than us and knows psychology better than we do. As a child, we grow. As the one who grows, we will always make mistakes. There is no reason to beat up self for making mistakes. They are inevitable.
What’s needed is a love for God. That will balance everything out. That will keep you trying to do your best without any promises of punishment. Knowing that you are valuable in God’s eyes, will make you feel grateful to God and will enable you to love Him. God doesn’t see us as worthless sinners. People do. God sees us as His beloved children.
So why do we put down God’s beloved children all the time? Why do we call them worthless? The Bible says that we have to love OUR SELF just like others. If we keep not forgiving our self, and keep berating our self, and keep beating up our self and putting our self down, how can we expect to keep this commandment? That would mean that we would have to put down others (just like we do ourself).
It’s important to treat self with respect. Our SELF is God’s beloved child. It’s important to love self just as God loves you. If God says that you are valuable, why are you keep rejecting it? How can He love you if you can’t accept His love?
So forget this ridiculous idea: “we are worthless sinners” stuff. It probably came from Catholicism where the leaders wanted to control the masses. And what better way to do that than to make you feel like you are nothing and nobody?
God told to one person: “look at it this way: you are worthy enough for me to live in you”
Imagine that! God chose US to be His temple. And we know that God’s temple is holy and great. And that must mean that God thinks that we are holy and great in order to choose us as His temple.