How will I know When My Husband Comes?

[Asimina]

Hello guys
I'm 20 and I really pray to God to keep me and the Man He has for me.
I'm so excited and keeping myself for Him.

There is this young boy that for 4 years now i cant like any other guy.
I mean..i asked the Lord to take any feeling if He is not the one..but it's been 4years..and the Feelings are still there.
I dont know if He feels the same.We was once together(nothing too serious) But knowing the right thing in Christ we stayed friends.

what can i do to forget Him if He is Not the one?

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

 

[Blank123]

there's no such thing as the one. There's people God brings into your life to teach you or challenge you or help you grow as a Christian but there's no Biblical grounds to say there is one man you were destined to fall in love with and marry. You can fall in love with anyone and have a successful relationship which is where being grounded in the Lord is going to seriously help you because there *are* Biblical grounds and guidelines to follow in choosing your spouse.

I'm sure i'll get flamed for saying that so i'll move on

if you want to get over him then you need to put distance between yourself and this guy and you need to find ways to keep your mind occupied to stop thinking about him. Make new friends, broaden your horizons with new hobbies and experiences, etc...

 

[Im_A]

Hello guys
I'm 20 and I really pray to God to keep me and the Man He has for me.
I'm so excited and keeping myself for Him.

There is this young boy that for 4 years now i cant like any other guy.
I mean..i asked the Lord to take any feeling if He is not the one..but it's been 4years..and the Feelings are still there.
I dont know if He feels the same.We was once together(nothing too serious) But knowing the right thing in Christ we stayed friends.

what can i do to forget Him if He is Not the one?

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

your walk down the isle with the man that is gonna be your husband. the other ones, the relationships will end. its pretty simple.

 

[chicagotweety]

there's no such thing as the one. There's people God brings into your life to teach you or challenge you or help you grow as a Christian but there's no Biblical grounds to say there is one man you were destined to fall in love with and marry. You can fall in love with anyone and have a successful relationship which is where being grounded in the Lord is going to seriously help you because there *are* Biblical grounds and guidelines to follow in choosing your spouse.

I'm sure i'll get flamed for saying that so i'll move on

if you want to get over him then you need to put distance between yourself and this guy and you need to find ways to keep your mind occupied to stop thinking about him. Make new friends, broaden your horizons with new hobbies and experiences, etc...

okay, let me preface this by saying i'm not flaming you. =]
i agree and disagree. i agree saying that there isn't just one person that is made for us. however i dont think that you can fall in love with anyone, there are different people out in the world that you can match with better than others and i think its important to find someone you matches you the best (which includes someone who matches your beliefs--not just what you believe in, but someone who matches where you are in your walk with God).

if this guy is someone that you have liked for 4 years, why not try to go for it? if he is someone that you think isn't right for you (that little gut feeling that God gives us) then follow the advice above.

hope this helps you clear up your mind.

 

[GoodNewsJournalist]

Hello guys
I'm 20 and I really pray to God to keep me and the Man He has for me.
I'm so excited and keeping myself for Him.

There is this young boy that for 4 years now i cant like any other guy.
I mean..i asked the Lord to take any feeling if He is not the one..but it's been 4years..and the Feelings are still there.
I dont know if He feels the same.We was once together(nothing too serious) But knowing the right thing in Christ we stayed friends.

what can i do to forget Him if He is Not the one?

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

First, don't ask God to take away your emotions. He doesn't do it. Attraction between people is completely natural, and none of it is sinful.

You said you couldn't get him out of your mind. On myspace, I had a small ministry warning people not to but their trust in the government anymore and just trust God. I don't want to debate that in this post, so don't expect any replies to your post.

An Atheist became a friend of mine through that ministry. I kept on thinking and thinking how cool it would be to witness the truth of the Bible too him, and I did it exactly what I kept on thinking about, and. . . He said he should start reading the Bible again!

If God isn't giving you the impression he has closed that door (you will know if you ask God if it is his will to do this, and you feel an uneasiness in the spirit when you pray), and you can't stop thinking about it, then go for it.

But, I want to tell you, it doesn't mean he is the one, and it might be just a good life experience.

God knows the path of your life, so he will tell you if this is the path you need to take.

 

[Caitlin.ann]

Its something you just know.

 

[RobinRedbreast]

There's no such thing as "the one" in the sense you are using it, there are plenty of compatible people in this world for you. You find one, you marry them, and all other relationships end. This IS "the one" -- The One is the one you marry, not The ONLY one out there for you.

 

[Im_A]

There's no such thing as "the one" in the sense you are using it, there are plenty of compatible people in this world for you. You find one, you marry them, and all other relationships end. This IS "the one" -- The One is the one you marry, not The ONLY one out there for you.

great post! i hope and plan on finding someone that has that same kind of mentality.

 

[StarryEyes]

there's no such thing as the one. There's people God brings into your life to teach you or challenge you or help you grow as a Christian but there's no Biblical grounds to say there is one man you were destined to fall in love with and marry. You can fall in love with anyone and have a successful relationship which is where being grounded in the Lord is going to seriously help you because there *are* Biblical grounds and guidelines to follow in choosing your spouse.

I'm sure i'll get flamed for saying that so i'll move on

if you want to get over him then you need to put distance between yourself and this guy and you need to find ways to keep your mind occupied to stop thinking about him. Make new friends, broaden your horizons with new hobbies and experiences, etc...

This hasn't worked for me. I've currently liked this one guy for about 6.5 years now. I've prayed that if he isn't the one for me, for God to please take these feelings away and help me move on many times. I still think about him. I still dream about him. Everytime I hear the guy's first name I think of him, which keeps happening over and over again. I made up reasons to be mad at him so I'd move on, ha, didn't work.

His dad is always so nice to me and grins and talks or waves whenever he sees me. I see the jeep this guy drove in high school and I'm reminded of him. I found out that he had (and maybe still has) a gf back in January, and at first I was very upset about it, but then God gave me this amazing peace about it, that everything's going to be ok. But I still get reminded of him often and think about him and yadayadayada.

A coule years ago, I got into a relationship with someone else that last a year and three months. The whole relationship was not what God wanted and I knew it from the start and didn't listen, but it happened. And I learned a lot from it.. but I continue thinking about this other guy..

My mom told me "out of sight, out of mind" also, and coming from experience that doesn't work. I haven't seen this guy in atleast 3 years.

My boss was recently talking about how she met her current hubby (she was divorced once before) and with her second hubby, she said she just knew.. and they were married within 3 months of meeting each other.

 

[Athalia]

I don't believe there is just "the One" out there for us, simply because God gave us all free will and what if that "One" choses to walk away from God? or become addicted to crack? Does that mean you are doomed to a life alone? or that you have to "settle"? Of course not

However, perhaps you should consider praying that God's will become your desire, not that He take your desires away - as has already previously been stated, they're natural, not sinful.

Oh - and its not only a matter of it being the right time for you - but for him - whoever him is - as well. I would also stop seeking after a husband so passionately. It is a testament of faith, can you go - "God, I'm not going to look for a husband, or pray for one, instead I am going to focus all that energy on You. I'm going to look at myself, am I, as I am now, all that I can be in order to be Your handmaiden? Am I fully a woman of the Word? Or have I focused too much time on being a woman for a man?" (and I am not talking physically, mentally) "I am going to fully trust not only that You have a plan for my life, but that You know when I will be the most blessed, and a blessing in anothers life."

God is love - and in His infinte compassion, there is someone out there for you, if you have such a strong desire for a husband! Have no fear of that - just remember that the timing should be in God's hands, and you should have such faith in God's plan that you don't even think about when you will meet and get married! Because God will take care of it all - and it will be so easy, no confusion, no struggle with timing, no struggle with emotions and being in different phases of life... It will just fit. because God has blessed it.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

I don't believe there is just "the One" out there for us, simply because God gave us all free will and what if that "One" choses to walk away from God? or become addicted to crack? Does that mean you are doomed to a life alone? or that you have to "settle"? Of course not

However, perhaps you should consider praying that God's will become your desire, not that He take your desires away - as has already previously been stated, they're natural, not sinful.

Oh - and its not only a matter of it being the right time for you - but for him - whoever him is - as well. I would also stop seeking after a husband so passionately. It is a testament of faith, can you go - "God, I'm not going to look for a husband, or pray for one, instead I am going to focus all that energy on You. I'm going to look at myself, am I, as I am now, all that I can be in order to be Your handmaiden? Am I fully a woman of the Word? Or have I focused too much time on being a woman for a man?" (and I am not talking physically, mentally) "I am going to fully trust not only that You have a plan for my life, but that You know when I will be the most blessed, and a blessing in anothers life."

God is love - and in His infinte compassion, there is someone out there for you, if you have such a strong desire for a husband! Have no fear of that - just remember that the timing should be in God's hands, and you should have such faith in God's plan that you don't even think about when you will meet and get married! Because God will take care of it all - and it will be so easy, no confusion, no struggle with timing, no struggle with emotions and being in different phases of life... It will just fit. because God has blessed it.

Couldn't have said it better or agree more... she hit the nail on the head.

 

[latteda]

What is keeping you and this guy you are interested in from being together?

 

[BoarderDave]

What is keeping you and this guy you are interested in from being together?

Im also curious about that.



I'd say you'll know when you develop the love for a person that runs extremely deep. You share the love with him, he shares it with you, and you both share a greater love for God. It's that triangle that will keep the relationship solid and true. Best of luck to you.

 

[Blank123]

This hasn't worked for me. I've currently liked this one guy for about 6.5 years now. I've prayed that if he isn't the one for me, for God to please take these feelings away and help me move on many times. I still think about him. I still dream about him. Everytime I hear the guy's first name I think of him, which keeps happening over and over again. I made up reasons to be mad at him so I'd move on, ha, didn't work.

His dad is always so nice to me and grins and talks or waves whenever he sees me. I see the jeep this guy drove in high school and I'm reminded of him. I found out that he had (and maybe still has) a gf back in January, and at first I was very upset about it, but then God gave me this amazing peace about it, that everything's going to be ok. But I still get reminded of him often and think about him and yadayadayada.

A coule years ago, I got into a relationship with someone else that last a year and three months. The whole relationship was not what God wanted and I knew it from the start and didn't listen, but it happened. And I learned a lot from it.. but I continue thinking about this other guy..

My mom told me "out of sight, out of mind" also, and coming from experience that doesn't work. I haven't seen this guy in atleast 3 years.

My boss was recently talking about how she met her current hubby (she was divorced once before) and with her second hubby, she said she just knew.. and they were married within 3 months of meeting each other.

mmhmm i've been there too, there was a guy i used to know that i had it *bad* for for several years, even distance didn't help that much, and praying to have those feelings taken away didn't help either and i think for me part of the reason was i didn't really want those feelings taken away even though it hurt that i knew nothing would happen with us. There was always a little part of me that thought it could work out. And if i wasn't going to work with God on the matter there wasn't any reason for Him to work with me in helping me get over him. And i was also sure God had put him into my life for romantic purposes but looking bak on it i can see that i just read my own feelings for this guy into the situation. Even if we HAD gotten together it never would have worked out for a number of reasons, we just weren't a good match. But i couldn't see that at the time.

It really wasn't until i cut all ties with him and everything to do wth him and made a serious effort to get over him. If i saw something that reminded me of him then i pushed those thoughts out of my head immediately and forced myself to think of something else, certainly not an easy thing to do but necessary in the moving on process i think because if you allow yourself to constantly dwell on what could have been then then yeah getting over someone is going to be *extremely* difficult if not impossible. And really thats what worked for me, once i made that conscious decsion i was going to move on and took action on it God blessed that. I can think about him now and just see him in my mind as a nice guy but all those feelings are gone now.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Hello guys
I'm 20 and I really pray to God to keep me and the Man He has for me.
I'm so excited and keeping myself for Him.

There is this young boy that for 4 years now i cant like any other guy.
I mean..i asked the Lord to take any feeling if He is not the one..but it's been 4years..and the Feelings are still there.
I dont know if He feels the same.We was once together(nothing too serious) But knowing the right thing in Christ we stayed friends.

what can i do to forget Him if He is Not the one?

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

I prayed the same prayer to God about a guy that I liked...married a different guy.

Just be careful that you aren't stopping God from working in your life and missing out on other things because you want this guy to be the one. Until you're in a relationship with him, I think you're saying a bit much.

 

[Tamara224]

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

I asked my mom this question once: "how did you know Dad was the one?"

She said "I didn't know. Not until a couple months after we were married."

Her answer kind of scared me. lol.

I do believe that God is the best matchmaker. And if you ask Him, and trust Him, He'll guide and direct you and lead you to the best partner for you. But I also believe God will bless any union in which the two people are committed to Him - even if the two people weren't necessarily the most "compatible" etc.

I've known several people who say that God told them "she/he is the one I want you to marry." I've said it before and I say it again - I don't know that I would ever trust such a voice because it's too easy for our own selfish thoughts to get confused for the voice of God in such situations. However... I can't rule it out as having been real for those people. So, I think that it mignt happen - although I think it's rare. [And, also, some people have closer relationships with God than I do - they hear His voice more clearly, more often. Probably because they're seeking His will more.]

I think you just have to 1) Trust God above all else, lean on Him and wait on Him; 2) use your brain - evaluate a guy with reason: ascertain whether he loves God, make sure he has good character (integrity, honesty, etc) and 3) make sure you have feelings for him - that you're attracted to him, that you care about him and also that he feels the same about you.

Then, if you want to get married and he wants to get married - you get married.

 

[Asimina]

This hasn't worked for me. I've currently liked this one guy for about 6.5 years now. I've prayed that if he isn't the one for me, for God to please take these feelings away and help me move on many times. I still think about him. I still dream about him. Everytime I hear the guy's first name I think of him, which keeps happening over and over again. I made up reasons to be mad at him so I'd move on, ha, didn't work.

His dad is always so nice to me and grins and talks or waves whenever he sees me. I see the jeep this guy drove in high school and I'm reminded of him. I found out that he had (and maybe still has) a gf back in January, and at first I was very upset about it, but then God gave me this amazing peace about it, that everything's going to be ok. But I still get reminded of him often and think about him and yadayadayada.

A coule years ago, I got into a relationship with someone else that last a year and three months. The whole relationship was not what God wanted and I knew it from the start and didn't listen, but it happened. And I learned a lot from it.. but I continue thinking about this other guy..

My mom told me "out of sight, out of mind" also, and coming from experience that doesn't work. I haven't seen this guy in atleast 3 years.

My boss was recently talking about how she met her current hubby (she was divorced once before) and with her second hubby, she said she just knew.. and they were married within 3 months of meeting each other.

thanks for your answer i think we are in the same situation!

 

[Asimina]

What is keeping you and this guy you are interested in from being together?

hey
well i don't know how he feels about me but i have talk with Him about this stuff and He was telling me that He is not like the other guys. He will wait for the right one for him! and he asked me if i also could do the same! I said yeah,ofcourse i can!

well i cant understand boys some times..they try to hide there feelings from us..to show that there strong..but when my little brother told Him last time that..


OH! you have to hurry up! there are this guys that are into Asimina!

so he just send me a text SMS within 5 minutes saying..


"Will you marry me??"

well i know he might be joking but he started asking questions..anyhow..i don't want to have any misconception in my mind.

.....

we share the same Love for God and the distance is what is keeping us from seeing each other.
we haven't seen each other for months..

i had an accident last year and he had to attend to a wedding ..the ladies told me he was so sad that day. As soon the wedding finished... He rushed to the Hospital to see me! Then he hugs me and we almost fall on my dad ([wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth]!)...Well my dad is a serious man and takes care of his girls but with him he just laughs! That made me even happier!...

there is a dream even.. i will post it soon..

 

[Asimina]

I prayed the same prayer to God about a guy that I liked...married a different guy.

Just be careful that you aren't stopping God from working in your life and missing out on other things because you want this guy to be the one. Until you're in a relationship with him, I think you're saying a bit much.

well i was in a relationship with Him..but we are God fearing and serious..

 

[Asimina]

Im also curious about that.



I'd say you'll know when you develop the love for a person that runs extremely deep. You share the love with him, he shares it with you, and you both share a greater love for God. It's that triangle that will keep the relationship solid and true. Best of luck to you.

well i tried for 4 years to get angry/mad @ him so i can probably let the feelings go.but...NO NO NO...no movement lol !!!

i cant say about His feelings..i know He believes in God and His plan for each one of us. and i thank God that He has become so strong in Christ. He tells me that often girls will come to ask him out but he refuses..I don't mean to say that He feels things for me but i don't know what does He feels..